This post is by my good friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety.

I’m sitting in the park at a table with my client as he explains what is keeping him from approaching women.

He works in a restaurant and doesn’t have a college degree.

This bothers him.

“Every time I go to approach a woman, I think about the fact that I don’t have a college degree and it stops me from approaching her.”

“The best guys I know,” I tell him, “do not have college degrees. In fact, they’re not what you would call typically book smart. They’re emotionally smart.”

“Does that make you feel better?” I ask him.

“Yeah, it does.”

“Well, guess what?” I inform him. “You’re still Read more…

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There are three ways to meet women, either you engage her, she engages you or someone else introduces you to each other.

This article will teach you how to make an immediate connection and eliminate any nervous or awkward tension during the first 30 seconds of an interaction.

I like to think of the first 2 Seconds – 60 Seconds as the do or die part of the interaction.

Stage 1: Break her bubble (So she realizes she is talking to someone)

Stage 2: Eliminate the “bad” tension if any exists

Stage 3: You are both comfortable, time to create “good” tension.

Stage 1:  Break her bubble.  Most guys get rejected because they fail to break her bubble.  Have you ever been in the middle of something when someone asks you a question out of the blue?  You never hear what they said because your mind was pre-occupied.  I watch guys approach women with hilarious comments and openers but if they fail to break her bubble, she won’t even hear the first 3-6 words that come out of their mouth and will stand there looking confused and say, “Huh?”  When this happens, most guys think that they’ve been rejected, huge mistake!  Make sure you Read more…

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Meet Matthew Vaughn, he’s Claudia Schiffer’s Husband.  She is pregnant in this picture but we all know that her body is insane otherwise!

So how does a guy who looks like that get a girl like her?

Most men would say “It’s because he’s rich! Duh!”  Do you think Claudia needs anymore money?  I think she’s doing quite well on her own and doesn’t have much need to go gold digging.

I’ve never met the guy but just by looking at this picture, you can tell he’s probably not the funniest guy in the world.

So we know that it’s not his looks, it’s not his money, it’s not his sense of humor, so what is it?!

He is GROUNDED!

The best way to describe what being grounded is, is to describe what being grounded isn’t. Read more…

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“Always seek to be as objective as you possibly can by seeking out and weighing up all the evidence that supports and goes against your thinking.”

A great mentor of mine named Karl Wolfe, told me that awareness is the first step to change.  In order to be aware, you must be able to think objectively.

A huge mistake I see people make in dating is that they jump to conclusions based on their emotions and try to move forward without knowing or acknowledging their starting point.

It’s like trying to get directions from LA to NY but you aren’t actually in LA, you are in Florida.

I was talking to a client the other day via chat and he was telling me about an experience he had recently on a first date.  They went out, they flirted, she was touching his arm and they were having a great time.

He went in for the kiss and she pulled away and said “Not yet.”  Towards the end of the night he went in again and she said Read more…

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A few months ago I was being interviewed by Vince Kelvin for a short segment for the 2010 PUA World Summit.

One of the other guys on the call was James Marshall. http://thenaturallifestyles.com When James started speaking I was not only really impressed by his content but the energy he conveyed with his voice made me listen even more closely.

So I decided to interview him so I could spread the wealth to my awesome readers and subscribers!

On this podcast James and I discuss some really important topics that aren’t talked about nearly as much as they should in the dating and seduction community.

Topics include:

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If a woman doesn’t put up at least a small amount of resistance, she isn’t interested in you!

In the video below I demonstrate how to deal with any type of emotional or verbal curve ball a woman throws at you.

This is a tough concept to get at first because most of the time, we think of resistance as something we want to avoid.  Growing up, I did everything possible to avoid these type of situations.

I wanted everyone to like me and I went out of my way to make sure I never offended anyone or said the wrong thing because if I did, I would have to deal with resistance.

When I first started approaching women during the day, I would usually open the conversation with this: “Hi, this may seem random, but I had to tell you that you are really cute.”

99% of the time, she would do one of two things:

1) Thanks! (big smile & she would light up like a christmas tree)

2) Ummm thanks (bored facial expression followed by eye roll to imply “nice try buddy”)

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Last night I’m out with a small group of students at a new bar in West L.A.

At one point in the night we are talking to a group of cute girls on the patio. One of the girls mentions that she has to leave by midnight or she’ll turn into a pumpkin.

Then she says that if she keeps drinking she’ll get bloated and her face will get filled with pox.

I misunderstand her and say “Did you just say that you’ll get bloated and you’ll get filled with cock?”

She starts laughing hysterically and playfully punches my arm. I exit the conversation in hopes that the attraction she’s feeling towards me will wear off on the student next to me.

Prior to going out we did a bunch of drills to help them get over their approach anxiety and have fun opening conversations. We were using some fairly edgy openers. But all of the guys in attendance had zero approach anxiety by the end of the night and we all had a great time. My last post was an in depth explanation of making sure your emotions match your words. This is the key to successful openings–particularly high-risk openings.

How is it possible to say edgy things and deliver risky openers without worrying about what happens afterward? Read more…

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There are a million and one ways to spark up a conversation with a beautiful woman, this post is about how to find one that will work for you – EVERY TIME! Most guys make the mistake of trying to come up with something really clever on the spot.  For this to work you have to not only be clever, but quick witted and very observant.

It’s scientifically proven that men get dumber in the presence of a beautiful woman so this strategy is pretty much worthless.  By the time you think of something clever the opportunity will have came and went.  The next mistake guys make is to open with something innocuous and situationally relevant.  “Lots of people here tonight, eh…”  This is just boring!  And the third mistake I see is guys opening with something indirect and unexpected.  “Who do you think lies more, men or women?”  This doesn’t work because most women will see right through your plan and think you’re creepy for having a hidden agenda.  They know you are interested because you approached them and they also know you don’t really care about the question you are asking.  They’ll sense the agenda and close off.

So let me explain what will actually work… Read more…

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When I don’t get the results I want I typically ask myself the question, “What did I do wrong and how do I fix it?” One of the best resources I had over the years while learning to have great interactions with women were online forums to get support from other guys who were doing the same thing.  Consider this scenario…

Lets say that random dude named “homeslice” writes a post on the forums about a night on the town.  Some people will initially jump to offer advice on what he did wrong and how to fix it.  Some will just tell him the things he did wrong without ways to fix it.  Others will just say good job, etc…  Everyone has a different way in which they view the world.  Half empty, half full, not enough, too much.  The key is to notice the behavior without judging it or making meaning out of it.

If we just start focusing on the positives, then we’ll all become a bunch of spiritual elitists and masters of the dark side who are out of touch with reality.  A master of the dark side is someone who walks around all the time refusing to focus on anything they perceive as negative.  For example, let’s say you are talking to one of these people and mention a car accident you saw, they will quickly say “I don’t wanna talk about that.”  It’s funny because these people internalize all that negative energy by not acknowledging that it’s real.  In turn they become a slave to it.  The Law of Attraction states that whatever you resist, persists.  So if we only focus on the positives we become slightly insane.  If we just focus on the negatives Read more…

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