Let’s face it guys, if you’re struggling with women then I would be willing to bet my 89 Ford Pinto that you are also getting pushed around in your job.  If you haven’t seen the movie ‘Office Space’ then you need to rent it because Peter is the perfect example of a concept that is going to change your life.  Maybe you get pushed around and have to come in on Saturdays or the boss is always giving you extra assignments but you think, “Its ok, I’m just being a good employee.”  Maybe you’ve noticed that you are getting paid the same amount as some other schlub who does way less then you.  Well, if you are then it could be more serious then you realize…

But if you are waiting for life to happen rather then making things happen, you’re gonna be waiting for a longgggggg time.  You may not realize how easy it is to get a raise, promotion or even start you own company so I’m gonna do my best to show you whats in your way.  It’s a word you may have heard before and it probably has some sort of negative or heavy feeling in your mind…

Responsibility

Did you just hear the voice of your mother lecturing you?  There is a huge myth about the word responsibility and I’m gonna bust that myth for you right now.  The funny thing is that even the dictionary has a negative connotation around this word:

‘Responsibility’ –noun, plural -ties. — a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible: the responsibilities of authority.

Myth: Responsibility is something to be avoided

Fact: Responsibility is your ticket to a life of abundance.

Take a look at the top dogs of business, the real estate moguls, and the captains of industry.  What is the one thing they all have in common besides being rich and powerful?  They all have a SHIT-LOAD of responsibility.  They have to make the big decisions, solve problems, manage projects, direct people and lead fearlessly.  How did these guys get to the top?  They all took on more and more responsibility.  Sometimes, they were given things or people to be responsible for but regardless, they all walked into the challenge head on and took action.  These are not the type of guys who sit around and hope and pray for raises, promotions from their boss.  I know this because I used to work for a Wall Street style Venture Capital Firm.  I started as a junior associate and 1 year later I was the Vice President/Managing Director with a country club membership and the freedom to report to the office at my leisure.  How did I do it?  Here’s the short version of the story.  I simply looked for problems and solved them.  I wasn’t given this task, I simply decided to take it on because I was annoyed with how things were being run and I saw an opportunity to improve them and make life easier on myself.  Pretty soon, I found myself in a position of power because without me, my boss would have to deal with these problems himself, which he did not have the desire or time to do.  I used this leverage to move myself up the ladder and 1 year later, I was free from the 9-5 and I still had my job, with a raise and hefty expense account!  You may be thinking that I’m a fool for giving that up to start my own company but living the life of a 65 year old country club retiree at the age of 25 is only glamorous for the first few months.

Here’s the moral of the story, if you are stuck in your routine and watching the clock tick by at work, add some responsibility to your day and watch what happens, you will be amazed.  More on the subject coming soon…

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Answer: Seducing a woman is more like a dance or feeling then it is about a technique or knowing what to do.  It’s about feeling into her resistance and dancing with it.  Her resistance aka ’shit tests’ are part of the dance. Its about taking your time and not rushing it.
The easiest way to move toward sex is to allow yourself to be completely turned on by her.  The more turned on you become while staying grounded or, in other words, letting go of all need for her to validate you, the more attracted she will become.  Emotions are contagious so don’t be afraid to let yourself be turned on by her, just don’t look for anything in return.  Now you can start to dance with sexual tension.  This is where you look for places to raise tension.

Now, the key to playing with tension is to be able to feel it in relation to how it is affecting her and to raise it right to her limits and sometimes maybe just a little beyond.  You can then back off for a bit then raise it again.  Each time you will get closer and closer to sex.  This is where women will often start to through up road blocks.  You might bump into her, look her dead in the eyes for a little to long slide down her forearm and start holding her hand.  Now you can feel the tension building, it’s actually palpable. She is holding your hand, squeezing it back and you look in her eyes again.  The gaze lasts a little longer than last time and again the tension raises so you gently start to lean in for the kiss and suddenly she turns away.  So you take this with stride back up a step or two and then start raising it again.

Eventually, if you don’t lose your calm centered place when she turns away, she will be begging for the kiss.  Continue the dance and don’t rush it.  If you play with tension well (moving two steps forward and one step back) and stay calm in the resistance you will get comments like “you are such a tease  which is her way of saying I want more now.  When figuring out how to dance with tension look at your sense and ask yourself “how can I push into tensions with each sense?”  You might touch to much or in more vulnerable places.  You might check her out in an obvious way.  You might use inference and sexual innuendos… I’m sure you can make some up for taste and smell. The key is that you own your desire, be turned on, connected and in control.  You don’t need her. You have chosen her.

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Dear Friend,

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I’ve spoken with hundreds of men, men who just want to be themselves and attract the women of their dreams. But they end up struggling to meet women, get dates, have great sex, and have fulfilling relationships.

But since, they have never been successful by just being themselves, instead, they try to learn all the “material,” the “stuff” the lines and routines that mask their true selves and their true nature.

This is a HUGE problem.

Now the reason most men are struggling is not because they do not have an amazing personality to offer women, it’s because they don’t know how to communicate that personality.  Shyness, social anxiety, past traumas, negative experiences and fear all add to this problem and it’s often easier for most guys to just give up than get this part of their life handled.

Most self-help and dating products tell you a bunch of things to do, but they forget to focus on who you are being first.

There is a very technical term for this phenomenon, which we call “Whipped Cream on Shit.”  If you tell an extremely shy, insecure, and unconfident man the greatest pickup line in the world, its not going to work very often, because who he is being is shy, insecure, and unconfident when he says it to a woman.

He may be able to fake it once or twice but its not going to take long until she smells the shit under that whipped cream, and walks away…

Because women, by nature, are far more intuitive and emotionally intelligent than we could EVER hope to be.  Women live in the land of feeling and are more loyal to their feelings than what makes logical sense. If they can’t feel you they don’t care how right you are.

So when you only focus on “what to do,” everything you do is agenda based.  And when women can sense that you have an agenda while interacting with them, they will usually be extremely turned off.  If you are in your head analyzing, plotting the next routine, “calibrating” the situation, then women will have a hard time feeling you.

If they can’t feel you they can’t get attracted to you or trust you.

Think of bad actors. They might be good looking but they are communicating from their heads. They often look like robots on stage or might be overly dramatic like they are trying to feel  rather than just feeling .

This is what we call agenda based communication and it’s just like bad acting.

So if you have heard that routines and patterns are the answer then I’m telling you is that you’ve been misled… and it’s NOT your fault!

So there you have it. The deep, underlying problem that the majority of men face when trying to attract extraordinary women.

It’s a surgery caliber problem that most “teachers” out there are trying to fix with band-aids and kisses. Unfortunately, that’s NEVER going to work.

So what IS the solution to this problem?  Let me explain by showing you a common human thought process.

HAVE  –> DO  –>  BE

Most people believe that once they HAVE the things they want in life, then they can DO the things they want to do, and then, they will BE happy.

“Someday” when I lose weight and buy some new clothes, I’ll be ready to meet women…

“Someday” when I have that 7 figure bank account, then I can take that trip around the world, then I’ll be happy…

“Someday” when I have the women of my dreams, I’ll be able to do all those things couples do, and then I’ll be happy…

Here is the problem with “Someday…” it happens right after you take a 6 foot drop!

You never get there, its always out in the future, and if you do get something you want “Someday” before you die, it never really makes you happy, at least not for very long.

Here is the worst mistake men make.  They tell themselves “I don’t have women in my life, so I better start doing the things to get one.”  If you are one of these guys, don’t feel bad, we were too!  But guess what, that model hasn’t worked thus far, has it? If you’re reading this letter to this point, I’m sure you want the REAL solution.  So lets tweak the model a bit.

BE  –> DO –>  HAVE

First, you BE attractive, then you will naturally DO the things that suck extraordinary women into your reality, and then you will HAVE an abundance of beautiful women in your life.  Cool, huh?

Unfortunately, most self-help and dating products tell you a bunch of things to do, but they forget to focus on who you are “being” first.

Okay, let me break this down for you in one sentence. Ready?

Women are attracted to a man’s sexual presence and masculinity, not his “attempt” at sexual presence and masculinity…

The true power of your attractiveness to women isn’t in the words.  It’s in the MAN BEHIND THE WORDS.  It’s in your sexual masculine nature, your ability to be grounded in the face of tension or danger, your ability to connect on a deep emotional, your discipline, your focus and your presence.

This is so true, that if you were truly grounded and connected, you could say to a woman, “Do you like pancakes?” and she would melt like butter.  You want to make women melt?  Or one woman melt for decades?  Then know the difference between conveying confidence and BEING confident.  Between conveying masculine solidity and BEING solid.  And that’s not something you can just hope and wish for.  It’s a switch you need to make.  It’s a CHOICE you need to make.

And then you need to follow it up with practices that support your choice.

So if you want to attract a lot of women, develop these ways of being and you will never need to rehearse pickup lines, routines, magic tricks, suck in your gut, flash your wad of cash, go on elaborate dates, brag, or buy her diamond earrings again.

Easier said than done, right?

Don’t worry.

We know you probably haven’t been practicing your “connection” and “groundedness” exercises regularly.

In fact, this may be the first time you’ve even heard these terms in detail.

That is, unless you’re a yoga master, a highly trained martial artist, or a natural, social genius.

And yes, it takes time to develop these core areas of your being.

•    It means training your subconscious to rise up and above the insecurities, pains, and frustrations of the past.

•    It means taking control of your emotions and being completely grounded in your heart, with no agenda or attachment to outcome.

•    It means being absolutely certain of your masculinity and your solidarity in the moment.

•    And usually, it takes years of practice and discipline to get to this state.

•    Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be this way for you…

I wrote an ebook called “Dynamic Dating: How to Attract Women in an Authentic and Natural Way”

The Dynamic Dating Ebook focuses on your BEING.  In other words, how you feel and the energy you radiate as you are talking with women.  It’s using your right brain and body rather then your analytical mind and without it, you would just be practicing a bunch of techniques that wouldn’t feel authentic to you.

The best part?

It’s in a very simple, easy to learn format for you to digest.  You see, there are 7 dynamics of every successful Dynamic Dating conversation, and by absorbing and understanding them, you can quickly and easily trigger massive respect, intrigue, and attraction, no matter what you say or do.  To pick up a copy or learn more, visit www.innerconfidence.com/page3.html

I also just posted a ton of training videos on the Inner Confidence Blog that will help you shift your way of being around sexy women.  You can watch them all by clicking this Link.  If you have any questions please leave a comment or email me at Robbie@innerconfidence.com.  I love answering emails from you guys so don’t hesitate!

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