Unless you are living under a rock, I’m sure you have heard of the phrase ‘paralysis by analysis.’  Are you guilty of it?

Lets take a common scenario…

You’re out for lunch and you see a beautiful girl window shopping.  You strain to check out her long, tan luscious legs and you are feeling your attraction to her in your gut.  Part of you wants to approach and the little voice in your head says… “go talk to her, she is super hot.”  But then another little voice says “Yeah right, she wouldn’t like you, you are ugly, she Is way out of your league.  Besides, she is probably busy and has a boyfriend and doesn’t want to be bothered, and I’m actually really in a hurry and don’t have time to talk to her anyway.  And even if I did, it might be considered cheating on this girl that I went on a date with 2 months ago and never called me back.”  Has this ever happened to you?  If you said no, you are a POS liar!

**note** pos = piece of shit

Some people might label this approach anxiety, or the fear of rejection, but I’m gonna go ahead and label it something completely different:  TYPICAL BEHAVIOR

You see, whenever you set your sights on a task, and you perceive the task as much more difficult then other tasks you have ever encountered, you are going to start freaking out.  If you struggle with women, and by struggle I mean, get laid less then once a month, go on less then 10 dates a year if you are single or have not had a relationship in the last 3 years that has lasted longer then a night, then trying to approach a woman I described above is going to be a MUCH more difficult task then you are prepared to accomplish.  If you have never played basketball before, would it be smart to play 1 on 1 vs. Kobe Bryant?

So here is my advice…  If you are approaching a lot of women with very little to show for it, or you aren’t approaching women at all, then STOP, because it is making you worse!

Its making you worse because there is a little thing in your head controlling your thoughts and actions.  Its called your Unconscious Mind.  It is 90% more powerful then your conscious mind and you are most likely a slave to it.  It controls you.  Without getting scientific or technical, lets just say that all of those voices that tell you not to approach steam from the unconscious mind.  So if your unconscious mind is not in alignment with what you want, then its time to change that!

How do you change it?

Its pretty simple, you start to have experiences that challenge your belief systems.  To give you one example, how do you think having the experience of COMPLETELY not caring what other people thought of you would change your belief system?  Its what we call not being validation seeking.  You might have heard a term like that before tossed around the inner game community and you can bet your ass its 100x more important than having a good DHV story.  One thing you can do right now to change your belief system is go out of the house and approach 3 people with the intent to get them to say “NO” to you.  And when they do, pat yourself on the back.  The more daring you are, the more you will get out of this.  And there are tons of exercises like these, but unfortunately, meeting and attracting women is not a solo sport, so you’re gonna need some guidance and coaching if you really want to break your patterns and become unconsciously good with women.

Brian and I are putting on a workshop on Nov. 5th where we will be doing exercises that give you an experience of having control over your unconscious, it starts with Inner Confidence Re-Pattering™.  You’ll get not just the tools but the actual experience of what it feels like to be an attractive man.  For more info, CLICK HERE.

Hope to see you there!

-Robbie

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