Are You Living Your Truth?
Have you ever had the experience of obsessing over something really technical to the point where it stops being fun and turns into a headache?
That has been my experience for the past few days since the free teleclass I did on how to avoid being tongue-tied around beautiful women.
I was obsessing over the little details so much that it stopped being fun.
If you’ve been following my blog, you may realize that I’m all about letting things be easy and fun.
How you do anything is how you do everything and I use the same “having fun” motto when it comes to running my business.
I got some feedback from one of my mentors today and he told me that I wasn’t offering people nearly as much value as I could be.
I asked him how he knew that and he said that he could tell I was in my head, trying to get it right and not having fun and teaching by example. Yes, he’s a very perceptive guy!
Side Note: I realize the picture of Kim’s butt has nothing to do with the theme of this post but isn’t it nice?! 
So let me ask you this question? Are you having fun? I don’t care what it is you are doing in life, whether it be improving your situation with women, making more money, finding a job, baking cookies, if you’re not having fun, you’re not living your truth.
Try this analogy on.
You can either choose to expend a lot of effort trying to paddle upstream against the current or sit back and let the stream take you where you need to go.
If you need to go upstream, ask yourself why and for what? Chances are, you are doing it because it is the “right” thing to do or someone told you that you “need” to or “should” do it.
Is the person who gave you that advice someone you want to model?
So how do you have more fun at this whole personal growth, getting better with women thing you’re working on? Only you can answer that question but here’s how I did it.
I always looked for the thing that was a little scary but also a little exciting and made me feel alive. In other words, it was the thing that the little voice in my head was telling me to do.
Sometimes that involved approaching a woman and saying something really stupid like “Does this watch make my ass look fat?” and other times it was something incredibly hard like being brutally honest and breaking up with a woman who I no longer wanted to be with but was hanging around because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.
So remember the key, go out and have fun!
To your success,
Robbie Kramer
A couple of these comments remind me of a post I did on the forum. Enough with the cheese…..
Just cut to the chase and manage it!
Amazing Kevin! 99.9% of men in this world, will never have the balls to do what you did.
@Kevin
Because being masculine is being vulnerable while moving through tension.
@Kevin
It is the best comment I have seen in this website ever. Thank You.
I wasn’t going to comment, but Einar brought up approaching while living your truth. There was this unbelievably hot girl I saw at a clinic, and instead of bantering or spitting out a canned direct opener, I walked up to her and said, “I just wanted to tell you that you’re fucking sexy.” I sat down, and I was feeling very vulnerable, and I was surprised when she locked her gaze with mine. She said that she was in a serious relationship and was dating “the one,” and because I was okay with it, we got very emotionally intimate with each other. Not sure if this comment is providing value or not…
@Einar Coutin
That’s awesome Einar! When you start living your truth, the perfect people will show up to serve you.
Oh, and about being in my head. When I’m singing if I’m in feeling I don’t have to worry about hitting the right notes at all. They just come naturally. This was what had been holding me back from singing all these years. Grounding works like magic.
I also found the perfect singing teacher so easily is just amazing how the Universe provided her. She just puts you into feeling and then makes you sing while connected to the song to really perform as yourself.
I love it.
Every time you come back telling the truth we love you more because we can relate to that. Keep it up!!!
For me lately it has been approaching the hottest women I can find and asking them out right away. Just for the thrill of being anxious while doing it. No result seeking. So far they’ve all been married except for the first one who wasn’t that much hot but I was anxious anyways. And I’ve gotten appreciated and thanked because of it.
Now I’m thinking about asking if it is an open relationship and yes, checking their hands too.
I’ve also managed to get responses back from girls after getting their contact info and I don’t feel uncomfortable in previous uncomfortable situations and yes I’m actively looking for dates and meeting more people.
Girls like me.
The one thing I need to fix is logistics to go out and meet people around my area. Every single person I know is on L.A. and that is a logistics PIA.
dont worry man, i do that a LOT too (as u know). analyzing things and not enjoying the process. its good ur recognizing it (wow, i sound like u haha)
and yes, kim’s butt is nice. thank you for that.