To all my loyal readers, sorry for not posting in a while, I was on a cruise ship in the Mediterranean.  I was with three of my single cousins who are quite suave with the ladies so I sat back and watched them work there magic on the European girls on our ship.  The first night I noticed that there were quite a few single girls on the dance floor and none of the guys on the ship had the nerve to dance with them.  I can understand why, it’s not easy to approach a woman on the dance floor, especially if you don’t think you are a good dancer.  So what should you do?

Before I had any idea of how the art of flirting and seduction worked I still managed to meet women here and there.  The way I did it was by what the dating community refers to as “cave-manning” on the dance floor.  In English, this means that I would basically just start to dirty dance with a woman and proceed to escalate the interaction physically.  Most of the time, they would get creeped out and walk away when I started humping their leg but occasionally, one would be interested and we’d hit it off.  I certainly had no idea of what to say to a woman to start a conversation so this seemed like the most obvious strategy.  Interestingly enough, when I got better with my conversation skills I Read more…

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I recently surveyed about 100 men and asked them two questions:

1. What is your biggest frustration when it comes to meeting and attracting women?
2. What worries you? What are you afraid will happen if you don’t do something immediately to improve?

The majority of people had the same exact answers:

1. Getting into a conversation – This included getting past approach anxiety and figuring out what to say
2. Missed opportunities – This included settling for women you aren’t really into, staying stuck and getting too old to attract the women you really want.

I was a little surprised by these responses considering the ridiculous amount of free information available on the internet teaching guys how to start a conversation with women. The problem with the information is that it is Read more…

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Most people think that flirting is about being funny. The first question I always get after telling people what I do for a living is this: “So what’s your best flirting line?”  That questions drives me nuts because flirting has very little to do with the lines or for that matter, the words.  So I ussually just answer by saying in a really stern and annoyed tone of voice “I don’t flirt!”  Then they giggle and say “That’s not flirting” and I say “Then why are you laughing?”

Flirting is about playing with sexual tension. Your ability to successfully initiate conversations with beautiful woman is dependent on your ability to play with tension.

Here is the definition of Tension: mental or emotional strain; intense, suppressed suspense, anxiety, or excitement.

To explain what this means lets start with an analogy.  Learning how to drive a stick shift (manual transmission car) is exactly like learning how to improve your ability to create intense sexual tension in women.  There are four stages to each of these activities. Read more…

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Last night I attended Game 7 of the NBA Finals at Staples Center and watched the Lakers win, it was INSANE!  I was sitting right in front of the suite where Fergie and the rest of the Black Eyed Peas were sitting.  Fergie’s husband, the dude from Las Vegas was also with them.  It was really interesting to watch the dynamic between them.  He is very grounded and laid back, and she was bouncing all over the place chatting with everyone.  The fans around were almost more interested in them then they were in the game.

The most interesting thing I noticed about being at the game is how the fans were interacting with each other.  Everyone was incredibly friendly and open even before the game started.  It was a combination of people being excited to be there plus the feeling of camraderie of rooting for the same team.  It made me wonder why people don’t act like this all the time.  It’s WAY more fun for everyone involved.  It made me think of all the times I see a group of people or even an individual having a ton of fun at a bar.  That energy just sucks everyone else in and it’s awesome.  Most people are too scared to let loose and get excited, it’s a shame that it takes something as big as a Game 7 to really get people going and feeling connected.  The same thing happened after September 11th when patriotism was sky high.

So how does this relate to dating and meeting women?  When you are in a crowd you are most likely going to feel one of two ways.

1.  If you’re not interacting with anyone you will feel left out, tired and overwhelmed.

2.  When you are engaged you will feel revitalized, happy and you’ll have tons of energy.

It comes down to a basic choice.  Are you going to let the fear of saying the wrong thing to the stranger next to you stop you from having fun?  It doesn’t take much to get people going and having fun.  The next time you’re out just go up to a group and say “Let’s hear it for beer!”  Chink glasses with everyone and say, “Do you guys know the beer chant?  It’s the coolest thing ever… Beer, beer, beer, beer, beer!” It’s really that simple.

Leave a comment and let me know which team you were rooting for.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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This post is about rounding the bases and I’m not talking about baseball.  Unfortunately, women are labeled as “sluts” in our society if they get too sexual too fast.  It’s an incredibly unfair double standard and unfortunate because it stops them from getting with you even if they really want to.  If you follow the advice below you will be able to physically escalate the interaction without her slut alarm going off.  Obviously this is a win/win scenario for both of you because come on, everyone loves getting booty!

Most guys make the mistake of trying to round the bases by following this formula.

1.  Meet her

2. Talk to her

3. Try to kiss her

4. Hold her hand

5. Play with her boobies

6. Hand up her skirt

7. Get in her pants

8. Slide into home plate

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It’s been a CRAZY two weeks.  To all my loyal readers, I hope you missed me and you’re not too choked up about my posting hiatus.

Last week we ran the first ever Masculine Evolution Bootcamp.  It was 5 days of gut wrenching fun at 7,000 feet above sea level.  Activities included paintballing, hiking, flame throwing, search and rescue and some very interesting sports.  That’s all I’m gonna say about it for now but if you attended the event, please leave a comment below describing your experience.

This weekend I attended Lisa Sasevich’s Speak To Sell Bootcamp in San Diego.  One of the main focuses of the event was the idea of a quantum leap.  A quantum leap is best described as a tremendous burst in performance.  Let’s say you are consistently going on 1 date per week and you suddenly start getting 5 dates per week.  That would be a quantum leap.  So how do you make this happen.  I was talking to my good friend and client Kumar, who was asking why he wasn’t having more success with women.  He explained that he was working 10 hour days with a 3 hour round-trip commute while living at home with his parents.  Do I need to say anymore?  If you don’t set yourself up for success you are eliminating any opportunity for a quantum leap.  I asked Kumar why he was living at home, 3 hours away from his work.  He said it was convenient and cheap.  He then told me that he felt like a wimp because he wasn’t approaching women like he usually does.  I asked him how he expected to find any time in his day to approach women.

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Passion is one of the most important topics in dating and also, the least talked about.  I’m not talking about sexual passion, I’m simply talking about what turns you on.  What gets you excited and smiling every day? Knowing your passion and speaking about it is straight up sexy because it’s authentic, its honest, its the raw form of you, take it or leave it.  People are attracted to passion, because its so rare to find someone who has found their calling.  Most people are stuck doing what society tells them is the right thing to do, rather then following their dreams.

In his book “Crush It,” Gary Vaynerchuk writes “Even the dullest introvert has pizzaz when talking about something he’s passionate about.” Take the guy who has the rustiest social skills and have him talking about this new chemical element discovered on Mars, and he’ll shine and draw people in.  You” find that by focusing on your passion, your skills with women will improve because you will no longer be psychologically wrapped in her world. By discovering your passion, you start to think for yourself, define yourself, and know yourself.  That’s powerful because most people are lost and are looking to others to tell them whats cool or not (inherently not attractive).

Guys have it Wrong
Guys who want to learn how to talk to women typically think in reverse:  “What sort of topics do women find fascinating?  Should I study fashion, health, astrology so I know how to speak her language?  Let me go learn about those things!”  While learning that stuff could occasionally help you in your interactions, it could also make you a woman-appeasing maniac.  What does she like?  What does she want to talk about?  Let me talk about that!  While it is counter-intuitive, women want to hear what you find interesting.  They want a glimpse of your reality.  They want to be taken on an adventure.  When you make women your total focus, you can start to forget about who you are and what you stand for.

Discovering your passion
When I was a young kid, I used to love playing basketball during lunchtime at school.  I would buy and trade basketball cards.  I would play basketball video games and, of course, I would watch basketball on TV.  There wasn’t anyone else at the time who was more passionate about basketball as I was because I was living basketball.  And that’s the trick to discovering your passion: you must be living your passion somehow. While work and other things may have distracted you from interests, your passion is something you have somehow kept in touch.

An example: I know a few friends who are passionate about music.  They subscribe to music magazines, they follow their bands religiously, they download the latest music, and they go to concerts.  Are they living their passion?  Yes.  Even though they may not be playing music, they are actively involved with music, their passion.  They just don’t read, they ENGAGE in the content.  They talk to their friends about it, they blog about it, they tweet about it, they make plans to go buy the CD or go to the next concert.

Are you living your passion?
If you’re not sure if you’re living your passion, here are a few questions that might indicate a passion:

- If you had 10 million dollars, what would you do?  What would you spend your day doing?
- Was there a class you took that you loved the subject?
- What kind of books do you enjoy reading?
- Who are your role models, heroes, or people you want to be like?

Dormant and Changing Passions
So I mentioned earlier that things in our lives may have distracted us from our true passions.  Work, family, other responsibilities often force us to spend less time doing things we truly love.  Look to your past or even your present.  Are there topics, hobbies, or activities that always light you up, or spark your interest?  If so, those might be indicators of passions that you haven’t developed yet.  Also, remember this: Passions change.  Today I don’t play basketball as much as I used to and that’s OK.  I have changed as a person so it’s natural my passions have changed.

Uh…What again does this have to do with women?
To best way to illustrate how passion helps you on your quest to meet amazing women, let’s take an example of Bob, the farmer. While farming may not be the most attractive profession out there (no offense to any farmers out there right now), Bob is passionate about farming.  He lives it, breathes it, and eats it (literally, he eats his produce).  Yup, that’s how much he likes farming.  Now Bob is a lonely dude, who doesn’t get many dates.  He’s determine to meet some fine ladies so he goes out there learns some Mystery Method.  For the next four months, Bob goes out clubbing.  He gets a pair of sparkling overalls, drives a red convertible tractor, and asks girls “Who lies more, men, women, or hogs?”  When women ask Bob what he does for a living, he tells them he’s in a band or he’s a doctor.  They can obviously tell he’s lying.  Now I commend Bob for pushing his comfort zone and going out there and trying something new, but Bob’s results are horrible. He’s forced into an environment where he doesn’t shine, where he talks to women about fashion or some other topics that doesn’t really interest him.  After 4 months, Bob gives up.

What should have Bob done?
Bob should have remembered these 2 important rules:

* Rule #1:  Follow your passion.  It’s fun, it’s unapologetically you, it’s in your DNA.
* Rule #2:  Self-acceptance before self-improvement.  While it’s OK to improve yourself, first accept yourself with all your likes and dislikes and strengths and flaws.

Bob should have followed his passion for farming and accepted that he was a farmer.  Not just a farmer, a badass sexy farmer. He could have made farming sexy, instead of being embarrassed by his natural interest in it.  How can you make farming sexy, you ask?

Since Bob loves farming so much, he could have invited all the local farmers to a Largest Vegetable Contest.  By doing that, he could become a leader in the community and women (and men) would admire that.  His popularity would increase.  The women in attendance would have the same interest as Bob, making conversations more fun for Bob and the women.  Bob also could have joined the Farmers Organization Group that meets twice a month.  His passion for farming would shine in that group and whether he met women or not, he would make some really good friends who might invite him out to parties where other women folk might be at.  Bob also could have taken Farming classes at the local college near him.  There would be tons of girls there.  In the end, he could accept himself, blue overalls and have tons of fun.

So what’s your passion?  Use the comment box below to brainstorm or talk about your lack thereof.

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You may have noticed a lot of pushy guys try to con a woman into giving him her number or force his business card on her. If they get the number, they win. If not, they lose. That is why people have a bad reaction to men hitting on women. Women are very savvy to this.

As soon as women feel manipulated or pressured, they will pull away and ignore you. You may or may not be very intuitive and receptive to woman’s signals, but this will help you become more conscious of it, which will make life and dealing with women much easier for you.

Below is a scale called the Attract-O-Meter. On the left side is Aggressive and on the right side is Passive. Most men fall into the “Passive” category.

{ ______________ I __________________}
Aggressive                                                             Passive

Being passive is tragic, because if you are a passive pushover, you rarely increase the sexual tension and ask women to take the next step, thus robbing them of the experience to be with you. At the same time, you dont want to push women away by being too aggressive. The higher quality women will not tolerate this type of behavior and will walk away.

In the Get Hardwired For Success With Women Intensive you get to practice being sexually forward with beautiful women who will give you feedback.

During the workshop we encourage you to be aggressive so you can see just how far to take things. You would be amazed just how aggressive you can be if you are connected to her and picking up on her sexual cues. I have walked up to women and starting making out with them without saying a word numerous times. A gorgeous woman I met in a bar demanded that I take her home to bed after knowing her for five minutes!  I’m not saying this to brag but simply to illustrate what’s possible.  You have more permission than you think you have if you can handle sexual tension. And I’d rather you experience this in the safety of the workshop so you can really push your limits. Because out in the world, you may get a drink thrown in your face or you may get yelled at.

Now, if you are not so bold with people that they occasionally confuse you with an aggressive pushy guy, you are playing it too safe. As a man, you’ve got permission to be upfront with your intentions if you don’t apologize for it.  That doesn’t mean you have to say anything, it’s more of the energy your exuding.  This is different then being attached. Once you get attached, they may pull away. Now, knowing what to do after they pull away is what separates the men from the boys. In fact, many women will intentionally pull away to “test” you to see just how badly you want them.

If you are not willing to fight for them or stick around when things get intense, how can they trust you? Here is the secret: when you start to get attached, simply admit it by calling it out with a smile. “Im feeling a little bit pushy, but how can you blame me? Look at yourself, how can you not expect me to be turned on?” Just by saying it, you can let it go.

At any given time, the woman you are interacting with may be directing her energy toward you or pulling away from you. Dont worry if she is pulling away from you a little bit. As I said before, she may be testing you, and if a woman does not test you, she is not interested. Women fall in love through resistance, and she has to test you to see if she can trust you with her emotions. If she leans away and every time you come crawling back begging and pleading with her to not be upset or angry with you, she will feel smothered and run.

It is okay to stand your ground, even if she is angry with you. Give her the gift of being angry and allow her to experience her emotions; they will pass quickly if you stop resisting them. Rub your hands together until they get hot and then move them so they are six inches apart. Can you still feel the connection between your hands? That’s like the connection between you and a woman. As your connection gets stronger, they will lean in to the point where your fingertips are touching, and then you may say something to trigger them or they will test you and lean away. You never know, but instead of playing tug-of-war with her, you dance with the sexual tension.

How you respond to her energetic lean away and tests will determine how successful you are with women. Unless you have a really strong lean in, do not ask them to take the next step with you!

In other words, the only time you ask her to take the next step with you, whether that be kissing her, getting her number, asking for a date—make sure you have a strong lean in. When the moment is right and she is leaning in, that is when you go for the kiss.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Most people have a very difficult time making decisions.  Sometimes these decisions aren’t that important like a choosing between going to Knotts Berry Farm or Disneyland. But other times, they are hard, like choosing between giving your dieing uncle a kidney or not. Do you wanna know how to make every decision easy?

Trust your gut and GO WITH IT!  If you don’t know what your gut is saying, read on to see if you resonate with some of the examples below.

Let me throw out some scenarios where being wishy washy and sitting on the fence hurts you.

1. Career Choice: What if you don’t know what you want to do with your life? Maybe you are about to graduate college and you need to find a job to make some money and satisfy your nagging parents who just spent $100,000 to put you through school. If you don’t know what you want to do for a career, your best bet is not picking some mediocre job to pay the bills because it will probably suck all your time away. You should choose something that allows you the flexibility to find out what you really want to do, and make a smooth transition into it. Its really not that hard. Read more…

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