Today we have another excellent post by my friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety

I’ve talked a lot about how problematic it is to be too much of a nice guy.

But how do you know when you’ve crossed the line between nice guy and uncaring asshole?

This is a big fear for guys when they stop being nice and start being “real.”

What if you accidentally go too far?

The answer is that there is no way to know if you’ve gone too far until you actually go too far.

It happens to me all the time. I’m constantly crossing that line between simply being confident and being a selfish dick.

A woman will Read more…

While playing NCAA collegiate golf for UC San Diego, I got consistently worse over my 5 year college career.

As a senior in high school, I carried a +1.2 handicap.

For those of you who don’t know what that means, I averaged 1 under par per round and shot around 70 the majority of the time. This is just a few strokes worse then professional golfers.

I qualified for the state championship as a junior and won about a dozen events in the Southern California area.

I was recruited to play for UCSD and by the time I graduated college, I averaged in the mid 70′s and carried a 2 handicap.  (which means I shot in the mid 70′s most of the time – which might impress some but is no where close to good enough to compete on a professional level)

My hopes of playing on the PGA Tour quickly faded.

During college, I played at least five rounds of golf per week and practiced on the driving range and putting green everyday.

I also had at least 5 coaches at any particular time. Read more…

What if they don’t like me?

What if they think I’m a jerk?

What if I piss them off?

What if they talk sh*t behind my back?

“I had a realization today,” said Marty, one of my students. “What I realized is that to be successful and confident not everyone is going to like me…

And if I am pushing myself I will most likely annoy and piss some people off because they may see me as a jerk, creepy or arrogant.

But I can’t let that affect how I feel about myself.”

Marty had this realization during a particular incident. He started speaking with a woman who worked in a store. He said something that was sexual and direct. Read more…

This is a hilarious post about what NOT to do when messaging a woman on social media or dating site like Facebook, Myspace or Match.

One of the Inner Confidence coaches, Ryan, has a beautiful girlfriend named Sarah McDowd(girl in the picture).

She is a model who gets bombarded with messages daily.

She compiled a list of just a few of these horrific messages that guys had sent her and her replies…

“This is the crap that makes me (and all of my gf’s) shake our heads and wonder when the hell this stuff has EVER worked for a guy,” Sarah says.

The messages from the men are in blue and Sarah’s responses are in red.

damn your a complete hottie… well i was going to say total hottie but i just think complete is way better… but i guess i was just woundering Read more…

It’s funny how often we make assumptions that lead to action and movement in the completely wrong direction.

“What is your focus in regards to improving your situation with women?

Is it more dates, more confidence, more sex, to find the one, to date multiple women, all of the above…”

“I think I want to focus on having higher quality interactions.”

“What does that mean?”

“I dunno, I guess I want more sex with women I find really attractive.”

“How many interactions with women you find attractive are you having per month?”

“Ten”

“How often do those interactions lead to a date?”

“About two out of ten.”

“How many of those dates result in sex?” Read more…