This thread is about setting up your lifestyle for a ton of PASSIVE SOCIAL INCOME (credit: James Marshall – The Natural Lifestyles). Or in other words, having a lifestyle that brings you attractive women while you’re sitting on your couch.  It is an exchange between a couple of my members of the Inner Confidence Forums.

Brando Asks:

I’m bored on a friday night.  i went to the beach and did some thinking…

I was thinking again about a friend of mine who’s trying to be a dj.  i was imagining the lifestyle he is trying to go for.  how he has a clear vision — he can even make a vision wall for it.  A DJ in front of a massive crowd of people.  I can’t seem to imagine a lifestyle for myself.  a dj sets the stage, the venue.  he is the “leader” of the party.  by default he gets status and chicks.  I don’t want to be a DJ cuz i don’t think that’s super fun for me.  my friend, will have fun djing, he wont be in his head, and he’ll have tons of chicks.

How do i have fun meeting people?  is there some activity or something that makes it less like a chore?  where can i meet tons of women — based on who i am?  I can’t think of ideas.  I can’t imagine a vision!  It used to have a vision of being a “pickup artist” who could approach women on the streets and get tons of dates, but I’ve never been good at it cuz i’m always so agenda based. Do you guys have any ideas?

C-Dub (One of my All-Star Students) Responds:

Looks like there are two goals here.  You want to do something that a bunch of women are into.  And you want to do something that’s fun for you.  In an ideal world, this activity has both qualities.  For example, a lot of hot chicks are into fashion.  So something you can do is become a fashion designer, but that might not be fun for you.  On the other hand, you might like hunting deer.  But on the down side, there probably aren’t a lot of hot chicks that are into killing animals.  So where do you start?  Since you don’t know yet what’s fun for you, you start from both ends until you find something.

From the girl end:
Describe your ideal woman.  Then think about what your ideal women likely does for fun.  Start doing those things.  For example, if you like a girl who is fit and can move her body, then start taking dance lessons.  There are free classes at most gyms.  Hopefully you’ll find one of these activities that your chicks are into as fun for you too.

From your end:
Start doing things that you think you’d have fun doing irrespective of whether chicks are into it.  A bookstore probably has all the good categories/topics covered.  (Another good source is 43Things.com.)  Go in there, give yourself a 30-minute deadline and come out with a list of the top 5 things.  Commit to investing a minimum of something like 10 cumulative hours into each of those 5 activities before deciding whether you want to dump it or continue.

Bottom line
Pick something and start doing it.  Two things I’ve noticed about you is that you can really improve on your decisiveness and commitment.  Decide on something, anything, even if it’s wrong because a wrong decision will likely lead to a right decision, whereas no decision likely leads to nothing.  Then do it for a sufficient amount of time.  Don’t be ADD like a chick.  Stop “being” and start “doing” or else I’m going to slap you.

I couldn’t have said it any better myself!  This is great advice and anyone in the same boat as Brando should take it!  Don’t wait until later, do it now and post a comment about what you’re going to do!

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-Robbie