I used to live in San Diego, aka Man Diego because of all the military bases located there.  During the weekends, the troops would infiltrate the local bars and clubs and unfortunately, most of these troops were not comprised of hot women.   The biggest complaint I heard at the bars was “These Marines are so aggressive, I can’t stand them.”  Women would complain that they would get really drunk and hit on them and guys would complain that they were drunk d-bags.  These guys were really just intimidated by the Marines and too scared to admit it.  I have a ton of respect for guys in the military because it takes courage to make that type of commitment.  After working with a lot of veterans, I found that they all tend to have one trait in common, they take action.  And men who take action always get the most out of everything they do.  I’ve never been in battle but I’ve played my fair share of paintball and Counter-Strike back in the day.  When you hesitate and stop to assess the situation, you’re dead!

I recently took a group of guys out to play paintball.  I played a few games by intentionally thinking and assessing the situation and I got shot very quickly each time.  Then I played a few games by silencing my mind and just trusting my body and gut instincts.  My play improved dramatically.  When you are faced with a do or die situation, you learn to take risks.  You have two options, kill or be killed.  This leaves no room for mental masturbation.  Mental masturbation is the biggest problem guys have when it comes to meeting women.  If you see and girl you really want to meet and you hesitate, 99.9% of the time you will talk yourself out of approaching her.

Our society is addicted to mental masturbation. It’s simply way to easy to be lazy.  Trust me, I know!   I know people that are intentionally not working because they are making $1500/month by sitting at home and collecting unemployment checks from the government.  Is that serving anyone?  I’ll spare you the political rant but I want to point something out.  If success with women is important to you, I promise you that it WON’T happen!  You might want to read that sentence again.  Important things get pushed off for urgent things.  So if success with women is urgent for you, I promise you that it WILL happen.  You have to put yourself in a do or die scenario or you simply won’t get it done.  You cannot be trusted.

Maybe this will inspire you to get into action.  When you take action, one of two things will happen.

1.  You will achieve your desired result.

2. You will screw up and feel embarrassment and/or shame.

Option 1 sounds great and option 2 sounds awful!  If you are not feeling embarrassment and shame on a regular basis, I promise you are not expanding as a person.  We are either expanding or contracting so ask yourself, what are you doing right now?  When you feel embarrassment and shame, it’s proof that you are growing. You took a risk and failed.  But we learn through our failures.  It took Edison hundreds of failures to get that light bulb right.  He was quoted as saying “I ran out of ways to do it wrong!”  So go out and do something today that has the potential for either success or embarrassment.  You’ll be glad you did.

I’m going to be speaking about this concept in greater detail during my free upcoming teleclass and seminar.  If you live in LA, you can learn more about the seminar on my meetup page.  And if not, you can learn more about the teleclass here.

Leave a comment about something embarrassing and see how much fun it is!

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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I recently had an experience that taught me an important lesson about using techniques to meet women.  First of all, think about the definition of a technique.

Technique: the body of specialized procedures and methods used in any specific field

For a technique to become a technique, someone has to create a method and test it over and over to make sure it works.  Eventually, they share it with other people to help them achieve a certain result.  For example, let’s say I think of a great opening line to meet women and I test it out.  I find that almost every time I use it, it leads to a great conversation and the result I want, getting her number for example.  Next I blog about it and people like you search on Google for techniques to “open a conversation with women,” and find my technique.  You’ll ask yourself, “Will this work for me?” Maybe you’ll try it maybe not, it doesn’t matter.

Consider that the technique will ALMOST ALWAYS work much better for the person who invented it, then for someone who is using it. Mystery created the Mystery Method to attract women.  It worked fantastic for him because he used his creativity and personality to create it.  Will it work for you?  Only if you are just like Mystery.

When was the last time you got creative and invented something?  If I were to add up all the hours I’ve spent in the last few years learning technique after technique for meeting women, starting a business, making money, etc… it would be a HUGE percentage of the time.  What if I invested that time in being creative? Chances are I would have come up with something pretty cool and unique.  There’s obviously a balance, if you are completely green about a subject, you need a set of tools to get started.  Eventually, a master learns to use the tools so precisely that he realizes that he needs to create a new set of tools to take his mastery to a higher level.

Take a moment to ponder where you are on this journey of meeting women?  Are you stuck searching for the next technique in hopes of finding the magic pill to solve your problems with women?  Maybe the pill is out there, maybe it’s not, but my bet is that you have a better chance of creating your own pill by looking inside of you for the answer.  Too often we operate under the assumption that we are broken and need to be fixed. Unfortunately, that is an endless loop.  Consider how easy it would be to meet your ideal woman if you knew what you were looking for and knew how to test to make sure she fit the description.  Let’s say you’re like me and like brunettes that are sexy, curvy and a little intimidating looking.  A goofy, flirty and dorky personality, and the capacity to be open and honest.  She knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go after it.  When you see a woman who matches the physical description, you would want to find out if she also matches the personality traits you find attractive.  The only way to tell is to go talk to her right?  A technique might help you win her over, but why would you obsess over winning her over before you know if shes a good match for you?

Maybe you are just looking for a one night stand and any hot chick will do.  I’ve been there before and I certainly know that feeling.  If you don’t care what she’s like on the inside and you just wanna have fun, you’re going to need to find a girl who is looking for that too.

If you focus on the technique without first thinking about the desired result, you’re gonna struggle.  You wanna know how I met my girlfriend, Allison? (Girl to the left)  I went to a friend’s holiday party that I met through Landmark Education.  I knew that people who take Landmark are interested in personal growth, are very aware of their surroundings, are good at communicating and do not live their life as a victim.  These were all important characteristics I was looking for in a girlfriend.  I knew that most of the women at this party would fit this description so all I had to do was find an attractive one that knew how to have fun, be goofy and dorky.  Towards the end of the night, I spotted a girl who was stunning, friendly looking but a little intimidating.  I walked over to her and said “You are cute, I’m taking you on a date.”  “Oh yeah,” she said.  “Yup, I hope you like hot dogs because I’m taking you to the most expensive hot dog stand in town.”  She laughed and touched my arm and I knew I she was dorky, goofy and knew how to have fun.  Turned out that my Landmark stereotype proved correct as well and we found a gazillion things to talk about because I knew she was into the stuff I was into. My attitude wasn’t to get her.  My attitude was to find out if she was a fit for me. The techniques I used were being flirty and direct, and a little bit of banter.

Meeting women is really easy if you let it be.  If you are going out clubbing every night and looking for a girlfriend who is intellectual and fascinated by marine biology, you are searching in the wrong pond.  Go use your favorite technique at the local aquarium and you might have better results.

Lastly, get creative and start to invent your own techniques. The most successful people in this world and people who used their creativity to create something valuable to others.  I recently realized that I was trying to achieve success by copying others and doing the least amount of work possible.  I got to a point where I ran out of stuff to copy, and thank god that happened because it wasn’t any fun!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Yesterday I was in a class with one of my mentors, Karl Wolfe.  We did a really cool exercise where you had to imagine you were dead and write your own eulogy.  The point was to get us thinking about our life and how people perceive us.  It was a difficult exercise and I felt like what I wrote was pretty sucky.  Then we read them in front of the group and got feedback.  One thing I said really stood out to the group, “It was a shame he died before he really shared his value with the world and I think it was the thing he regretted most.”  They pointed out that I was living my life in the future and completely discounting the little things that I did which added value to their lives.  Simple things like listening to them, offering advice, sharing a resource or contact who could help them out. When they started sharing these experiences with me a light bulb went off in my head. I had been skipping over the details and finer points in life by only focusing on the big picture.

Rather then connecting with the people around me and feeling into the moment, I was in my head, thinking, thinking thinking.  Asking myself questions like, how do I grow my company?  How do I get more people to sign up for my mailing list?  How do I make sure that the guys that do sign up, keep coming back?  How do I reach more people?  Rather then focusing on how to connect with one person and offer them value, I was focusing on how to build a machine that connects with a lot of people and gives them value.  But if you can’t connect with one, how can you connect with a group? There is a time and place to focus on the questions I asked above, but that time is not ALL the time.

I realized that I’ve been waiting for my life to start instead of really living.  I always hear people say “When I get that job, or have that girl and have 10 million in the bank, then I’ll be happy.  But until then, I’m gonna be frustrated, angry and resentful.  But if you slow down and focus on this moment, you open your eyes to a much more fulfilling experience.  If you are only understanding what I’m saying rationally, then nothing is gonna change. The only way you can stop and focus on the present moment is to shut up and feel what’s going on inside of you.  If you’re angry, be angry.  If your frustrated, feel frustrated.  If you’re resentful, own it.  You can’t move forward until you know your starting point.  If you are angry, I promise there are a ton of other people feeling angry too and misery loves company!  We connect with others through our emotions, NOT only through our happy emotions.

Let me explain how this relates to women.  If you are not honoring your emotions and trying to con people by putting on a show or trying to be friendly when you really feel like crap and would rather be playing video games in your basement, you’ll only be able to connect with people who are doing that same exact thing.  Chances of this being a hot girl are slim to none!  So next time, walk up to that hot girl and say “Unno, I really hate this place, I’d much rather be playing video games in basement right now.  What about you?”

Let’s say you’re on a date and having a few drinks.  What if the last 10 dates you went on ended in nothing.  A polite goodbye, we’ll talk soon, which really means that you’re never gonna see her again.  Are you going to go out on date 11 and do the same thing?  That would usually involve thinking about what to say next?  If so, you are in the future.  Slow down and listen to your inner dialogue.  Stop planning and try speaking your mind. Maybe you piss her off and say the wrong thing.  Maybe she thinks you’re a creep and walks out right there.  Or maybe she connects with the honest and ballsy thing you said and sparks fly.  Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

P.S. I took out the comment about Eckhardt Tolle because it wasn’t really fair of me to make judgements without reading his stuff.

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I dunno about you, but life is a lot more fun when I’m not thinking too hard.  When we are faced with a tough situation that makes us a little uncomfortable, our built in response is to try and think our way through it.  “If we think hard enough, we’ll figure it out and get it right!”  Unfortunately, this is typically not the case.

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from guys is that they don’t know what to say to start a conversation and keep it going with a beautiful woman. Ironically, the more you think about what to say, the harder time you’re gonna have.  So I decided to do some experimenting.  Rather then trying to figure out good stuff to say, why not just spew out the dialogue in your head?  It’s real, it’s honest and you don’t have to try.

So last night I was out with a client who has been absolutely KILLING IT.  He complains that he doesn’t have nearly enough time to spend with all the women that are calling/texting and practically begging to hang out with him.  Good problem to have right?  He was in town for the weekend so we headed out to Colony, one of the posh new clubs in Hollywood.  When I first walked in I wasn’t really in a social mood at all and I quickly went into my head.  I started thinking about a million things at once and I wasn’t having much fun.  In order to stop thinking, you have to start “doing.” So I started chatting up some of the people at the table we were at.  That got me in a social mode and a few minutes later, I was starting to have a lot more fun.  My favorite thing to do at clubs is to push tension.  I have a girlfriend so it’s not like I’m gonna be out on the hunt.  My favorite way to push tension is to say really outlandish and shocking things to people that they would never expect to hear and then enjoy the fireworks.

I saw a group of 3 conservative looking middle eastern girls so I walked up to them and said, “Hey do you mind if I stand here, I farted over there and it smells really bad, so I’m just gonna hang out it here if its cool with you.” They looked at my like I was crazy and then cracked up. I don’t think they believed me but they should have!

Later on in the evening, my client was talking to two gorgeous girls, a blonde and brunette.  I came over to play wingman for him so he could have some time with the brunette and I quickly realized that even though the blonde was attractive, she was quite possibly the dumbest person I’ve ever met.  So rather then try to have a conversation with her which would be like pulling teeth, I just decided to start spewing stuff that was running through my head.  What came out was “I don’t think I have anything to say to you, so I’m just gonna stand here while my friend talks to your friend.”  Unfortunately, she didn’t take the hint to give them some space but it was really entertaining to see the incredibly confused look on her face.

Part of me wishes that I had some more crazy stuff to report back but the moral of the story is, if you don’t know what to say, say the thing you are thinking.  If you say what’s on your mind, you will be speaking from the heart, even if its something horrible. It will give the person you are talking to something real to connect with.  If you try to force a conversation, your words will be void of feeling and emotion and they’ll fall on deaf ears.  The best part is, sometimes you’ll stick your foot in your mouth but guess what?  Then you get to practice dealing with a sticky situation and nothing is better for increasing your confidence and growing as a person.  Try it right now, leave a comment and speak your mind!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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One of the biggest reasons why men struggle to date amazing women is that we give our power away.  Give our power away… what is that? You give your power away when you don’t stand up for yourself.  You give your power away when you don’t listen to your inner voice or gut instincts.  You give your power away when you let people walk all over you.  You give your power away when you don’t ask for what you want or need.  You give your power away when you break your word.  You give your power away when you compromise your values.  You give your power away when you say sure “I don’t mind just being friends,” to the girl you’ve been crushing on for months.  You give your power away when you walk away with your tail between your legs.  And most notably, you give your power away when you let fear stop you from going after what is important to you in life.

How you do anything, is how you do everything. If you are giving your power away at work by agreeing to come in on Saturday because your boss asked you to and you are too scared to say no, I guarantee you aren’t getting many dates!  How long are you gonna put up with it?  You may think that it’s no big deal and it’s easier to not rock the boat, but eventually this behavior is gonna bite you in the ass.  You can only give your power away for so long until you snap.  When you snap, things get ugly.  It gets so ugly for some guys that they go on a killing rampage and shoot up the neighborhood.  When the news channels come out to interview the killer’s neighbors, friends and family they all say the same thing.  “He was such a nice guy, I don’t know how this happened.”  It’s simple, he gave his power away for years and it built up inside like a volcano that was destined to blow!

I talk with a lot of men who are filled with resentment towards women.  They are resentful because they feel powerless. But that is a choice.  No one can take your power away from you unless you allow them to.  If this is hitting home for you, then the good news is that you can change very easily.  It starts with awareness and continues with action.  If you read my blog often, then this is not a surprise!

I stuggled with this for years and it was not until recently that I started to feel like it doesn’t or rarely happens anymore.  I was recently on a cruise and had a crazy incident go down with the laundry department.  They charged me $149 for a load of laundry and I was outraged.  At first I was too nice and asked the customer service department to reverse the charges.  I made sure not to hurt anyone’s feelings or make them feel bad or nervous.  They wouldn’t budge so I lost it and made a scene.  I yelled, pointed fingers and called them horrible names.  Finally they budged and gave me half my money back but in hindsight, there would have been a better way to handle it which may have resulted in all of my money back.  All I had to do was calmly ask for what I wanted without making them wrong and I would have gotten it.  But by being too nice and then being too mean, I only got half.

Last week, a similar thing happened.  I learned my lesson from the cruise and calmly requested that the company I was dealing with remedy the unfavorable situation they put me in.  They obliged and sent me a check for $300.  In the past, I would have been way to scared to make that phone call.  I didn’t wanna rock the boat.  But when I learned that not rocking the boat was costing me lots of dates and cash, I decided to do something about it.

Where are you giving your power away and what are you gonna do to stop?  Leave a comment below.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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Last night I showed some In-Field footage of me picking up a woman to a group of potential clients and I have something really embarrassing to admit about it. Some of you may have seen this video before, and whether you’ve seen it or not, I want you to watch it right now. I recorded this about two and half years ago while I was coaching for PickUp101.

As an instructor, it was a feather in my cap to have an in-field video and I was rather proud of this one when it came out. But knowing what I know now, I’ve gotta come clean and say that this video sucks! It sucks because it’s an example of a failure. To the untrained eye, it appears that this woman is attracted to me, but if you can read a woman’s subtle signals, recognize attraction, and understand sexual tension, you can tell she’s definitely NOT feeling me. Watch the video and see if you can pick up on it…

I’m gonna break it down for you now.  After I deliver the “Not to be that guy,” line I immediately break the sexual tension by laughing.  It’s okay to laugh but only if she laughs first.  In this case, she didn’t laugh she just said, “OK…”  The same thing happens when I deliver the “That girl is super cute” and “You’re cute too” lines.  More tension releases.  When I watch the video now, it’s a little but painful because the guy on the screen doesn’t even seem like me anymore.  I can see  the anxiety running through my body and it makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable.  It’s not the type of tension you want.  When watching a clip of a successful interaction you will feel sexual tension.  In this video, all you can feel is nervous tension.

Notice how I’m standing and leaning against the rail, GAY!  That is called “faking good body language!”  I see this all the time with my clients who have studied a lot of pickup.  If you are nervous, it shows, even if you try to hold it together.  Would a truly confident guy really stand like that? NO!  I try to act relaxed by sipping my cup of water, but guess what, it was an empty cup and I only did it cuz I was nervous as hell!  The most painful part of the interaction is when I ask her to “Wanna grab a tea together?”  First of all, who drinks tea?  I would have said “Coffee” but I was no nervous that “Tea” just kinda popped out of my mouth.  You can tell by her wishy washy reaction that she doesn’t want to but says “Sure, why not, just to be nice.”  This video is edited way down and when we were standing in line together, it was nothing but nervous, awkward tension.  At the time, I felt like this woman was way out of my league and I know she could feel that.

It wasn’t until I told her that I had been filming that the nervous tension dissipated.  At that point, she felt more comfortable because my camera guy came over and the focus of the conversation shifted to making fun of other guys rather then getting to know each other.  When I ask her for her number, she says “He’s doing another smooth move.”  Why would she say that?  She was being sarcastic because I was anything but smooth.  In fact, the last thing you want to be is smooth.  Women don’t want smooth.  You want your guy friends to think you are smooth but if women think you are smooth, they know you’re a player and it makes them feel like a notch on the bedpost.

Maybe you are wondering why I’m posting this?  In order to grow and move past dysfunctional behavior, you must be honest.  By showing this video last night to a group of potential clients, I was not being honest.  I knew the video sucked yet I showed it in effort to impress them anyway.  Did anyone sign up for the program I offered, of course not!  I guarantee that very few of them realized consciously that the woman in the video was not attracted to me, but I know they could feel on an unconscious level that something just didn’t add up and they were being conned.  This is what happens when you try to pickup women, but under the surface, you know you are conning them.  Beautiful women have amazing bullshit detectors and even if it you look good on paper, they’ll sniff you out.

The most important principle displayed in the video is my inability to manage sexual tension.  I didn’t even know what sexual tension was when this was shot but since then, it has been the foundation of what I teach.  If you watched the video and didn’t pick up on these subtleties, I hate to say it, but it’s evidence that you can’t manage sexual tension.  If you can’t spot it, you can’t manage it.  The first step is spotting it, the next step is putting yourself in tense situations and eventually, the nervousness and fear fades away and is replaced by confidence.  So go out and make yourself nervous and tell the truth, it’s the best way to grow.  You can start here by leaving an honest comment about where you are at and then go to the Toolbox section of the website and listen to the “Managing Tension” audio.  You can also download it as an MP3.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Haven’t had a lot of inspiration to post recently and I just realized why.  Have you ever had the experience of obsessing over something really technical to the point where it stops being fun and turns into a headache?  That has been my experience for the past few days since the free teleclass I did on how to avoid being tongue-tied around beautiful women. I was obsessing over the little details so much that it stopped being fun.  If you’ve been following my blog, you may realize that I’m all about letting things be easy and fun.  I mean it says right on the headline “Be Yourself, Have Fun & Attract A Ton of Women” right?

Well I owe you guys an apology because I was not living my truth.  How you do anything is how you do everything and I use the same “having fun” motto when it comes to running my business.  I got some feedback from one of my mentors today and he told me that I wasn’t offering people nearly as much value as I could be.  I asked him how he knew that and he said that he could tell I was in my head, trying to get it right and not having fun and teaching by example.  Yes, he’s a very perceptive guy!

Side Note: I realize the picture of Kim’s butt has nothing to do with the theme of this post but isn’t it nice?!

So let me ask you this question?  Are you having fun?  I don’t care what it is you are doing in life, whether it be improving your situation with women, making more money, finding a job, baking cookies, if you’re not having fun, you’re not living your truth.  Try this analogy on.  You can either choose to expend a lot of effort trying to paddle upstream against the current or sit back and let the stream take you where you need to go.  If you need to go upstream, ask yourself why and for what?  Chances are, you are doing it because it is the “right” thing to do or someone told you that you “need” to or “should” do it.  Is the person who gave you that advice someone you want to model?

So how do you have more fun at this whole personal growth, getting better with women thing you’re working on?  Only you can answer that question but here’s how I did it.  I always looked for the thing that was a little scary but also a little exciting and made me feel alive.  In other words, it was the thing that the little voice in my head was telling me to do.  Sometimes that involved approaching a woman and saying something really stupid like “Does this watch make my ass look fat?” and other times it was something incredibly hard like being brutally honest and breaking up with a woman who I no longer wanted to be with but was hanging around because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.

I’ve had a bit of writers block recently and that is the other reason I haven’t been posting a lot.  I want to know what you guys want to learn.  I blog because I want to support you guys and offer value.  I’ve learned that when you support others, people show up to support you as well.  So leave a comment below if there is something specific you would like to write about or any questions you would like me to answer.

To your success,

Robbie Kramer

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My friend Eric “Disco” of ApproachAnxiety.com posted a great article on his blog: http://approachanxiety.com/?p=1423

Enjoy!

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To all my loyal readers, sorry for not posting in a while, I was on a cruise ship in the Mediterranean.  I was with three of my single cousins who are quite suave with the ladies so I sat back and watched them work there magic on the European girls on our ship.  The first night I noticed that there were quite a few single girls on the dance floor and none of the guys on the ship had the nerve to dance with them.  I can understand why, it’s not easy to approach a woman on the dance floor, especially if you don’t think you are a good dancer.  So what should you do?

Before I had any idea of how the art of flirting and seduction worked I still managed to meet women here and there.  The way I did it was by what the dating community refers to as “cave-manning” on the dance floor.  In English, this means that I would basically just start to dirty dance with a woman and proceed to escalate the interaction physically.  Most of the time, they would get creeped out and walk away when I started humping their leg but occasionally, one would be interested and we’d hit it off.  I certainly had no idea of what to say to a woman to start a conversation so this seemed like the most obvious strategy.  Interestingly enough, when I got better with my conversation skills I no longer used the whole dance strategy and I never really thought about it until a few days ago.

The key is to work the dance floor. Working the dance floor is just like working the room but instead of talking to everyone, you dance with everyone.  And yes, everyone includes the other guys and women you don’t find attractive.  So how do you do that?  The first step is to simply be yourself.  If you suck at dancing, own your suckiness! If you are good, own that too.  It doesn’t matter what type of dance moves you are busting out, the key is to simply ping all the people around you by quickly dancing with them and then bouncing to the next person.  Imagine you were going to give a high five to everyone at a crowded bar in the shortest amount of time possible…  You would get the high five and be on to the next person.  Same thing applies on the dance floor.  I consider myself a “fun” dancer.  I’m by no means good and I have very little rhythm.  Luckily, it doesn’t matter because I just go out there and have fun and get crazy.  I do what most other people wouldn’t dare to do and risk looking stupid.  This includes ridiculous moves like the “sprinkler, grocery cart, running man, disco eyes,” etc…  Remember the scene in “Hitch” when Will Smith tells his client do avoid the outrageous dance moves and stick to the boring back and forth hip movement?  Remember what happens?  He breaks the rules and gets the girl.  But remember, if your style is more mellow, don’t try to be someone you are not out there.  So let me tell you what sort of results you can expect by utilizing this strategy.

What you are essentially doing when you work the dance floor is opening a conversation with everyone out there in a non-verbal way.  These interactions are very short which gives off the impression that you are not needy, you are just having fun and being social and you are the life (or host) of the party.  Most guys stand awkwardly on the side of the dance floor clutching their drinks while staring at the girls dancing.  They might as well be wearing a t-shirt that says “Hi, my name is Johnny Greaseball.”  CREEPY! So don’t be that guy.  If you take my advice, you will quickly become the most attractive guy on the dance floor because you’ll be having the most fun and women won’t understand why you keep dancing with them and then leaving.  It will make them want to chase after you and that is when you know that you are “In.”

Here’s what I do. Dance with everyone on the floor for 2-10 seconds each and then go back and dance with my friends and people close around me.  Then I do it again and notice which women are receptive and checking me out, smiling, laughing, etc…  When this happens, I know they are into me so I’ll dance with them a little longer and most of the time they will start to escalate physically with me by grinding on my leg and getting closer.  It’s pretty much on auto-pilot from there.

So how do you fair on the dance floor?  Leave a comment below and let me know if this advice was valuable to you and tell me if you like dancing, don’t like dancing and your reason for either.  Also feel free to share any funny dance floor stories.  If you haven’t signed up for my FREE teleclass, make sure you get it done, It’s TOMORROW!

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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I recently surveyed about 100 men and asked them two questions:

1. What is your biggest frustration when it comes to meeting and attracting women?
2. What worries you? What are you afraid will happen if you don’t do something immediately to improve?

The majority of people had the same exact answers:

1. Getting into a conversation – This included getting past approach anxiety and figuring out what to say
2. Missed opportunities – This included settling for women you aren’t really into, staying stuck and getting too old to attract the women you really want.

I was a little surprised by these responses considering the ridiculous amount of free information available on the internet teaching guys how to start a conversation with women. The problem with the information is that it is very difficult to sift through it and find exactly what you need. I’ve written a ton of articles relating to starting conversations with women and posted them on this blog, but I realize it might take a while to look through all the old posts and piece together some useful action steps that yield results. So I’m gonna make it easy on you. I’m in the process of creating a “Conversation Blueprint” to help you get over this frustration once and for all. This blueprint will be a simple step by step process for creating your unique system for attracting women. I’m not talking about routines or gimmicks, it will be authentic and specifically for you because you’ll be the one creating it. If you haven’t signed up for my mailing list to get the free trainings and registered for the free teleclass make sure you do that here now!

Some of you may be wondering why I’m not focusing on Inner Game. This is Inner Confidence right? I am focusing on inner game and I also realize that if you can’t at least get the ball rolling, focusing on inner game isn’t the best use of your time. I looked at my 3 year process of becoming successful with women and the process of many of my most successful friends and clients. I discovered that it’s really a simple 3-Part System:

Stage 1. Training Wheels – Create a template to initiate and maintain conversations. This stage is really simple and easy because all you have to do is follow the instructions. If you don’t take this step you’ll be riddled by anxiety and the problem of not knowing what to say. You’ll use this as an excuse to stay stuck and you’ll eventually give up and quit.

Stage 2. Become Fearless – If you want to attract and date the women who really turn you on you must identify and eliminate the behaviors that sabotage you. These behaviors include the nice guy syndrome, seeking validation from women, not owning your sexual masculine energy, not being honest with yourself and others, playing it safe, being a victim, being ashamed of your sexual wants needs and desires as a man and being too concerned about how you look and what other people think about you. This step is not for the weak at heart, if it were then 10% of the men on this planet would not get 90% of the gorgeous women. It takes dedication, focus and a significant amount of time to eliminate old habits and ingrain new mindsets and belief systems that work. If you don’t take this step and stop after step 1, you’ll get more dates, more sex and more relationships with the same caliber of women you’ve always gotten. For some guys this is good enough.

Stage 3. The Upper Echelon - If you want fulfill all of your fantasies with women and settle for nothing but your ideal love life you must take your performance to the next level. This not only involves meeting new women but managing the relationships you have. In karate they say the training really begins once you are a black belt and the same goes for here. If you don’t take this step and stop after step 2, you’ll date gorgeous women but you will struggle to create your ideal relationship, love and sex life.

So there you have it. The first step towards success is knowing your starting point so here is some action you can take right now to figure that out: If you think I missed anything or left something out, please drop a comment below. If not, leave a comment about your process and which stage you are at so I can give you feedback.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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