In July 2010, I took a Mediterranean cruise with three of my single cousins who are quite suave with the ladies.

There were quite a few single girls on the dance floor and none of the guys on the ship had the nerve to dance with them. 

I can understand why, it’s not easy to approach a woman on the dance floor, especially if you don’t think you are a good dancer.  So what should you do?

Before I had any idea of how the art of flirting and seduction worked I still managed to meet women here and there.

The way I did it was by what the dating community refers to as “cave-manning” on the dance floor.

In English, this means that I would basically just start to dirty dance with a woman and proceed to escalate the interaction physically.

Most of the time, they would get creeped out and walk away when I started humping their leg but occasionally, one would be interested and we’d hit it off.

I certainly had no idea of what to say to a woman to start a conversation so this seemed like the most obvious strategy.  So what can you do instead?

The key is to work the dance floor:
Working the dance floor is just like working the room but instead of talking to everyone, you dance with everyone.  And yes, everyone includes the other guys and women you don’t find attractive.

So how do you do that?  The first step is to simply be yourself.

If you suck at dancing, own your suckiness!

If you are good, own that too.  It doesn’t matter what type of dance moves you are busting out, the key is to simply ping all the people around you by quickly dancing with them and then bouncing to the next person.

Imagine you were going to give a high five to everyone at a crowded bar in the shortest amount of time possible…  You would get the high five and be on to the next person.

Same thing applies on the dance floor.  I consider myself a “fun” dancer.

I’m by no means good and I have very little rhythm.  Luckily, it doesn’t matter because I just go out there and have fun and get crazy.  I do what most other people wouldn’t dare to do and risk looking stupid.

This includes ridiculous moves like the “sprinkler, grocery cart, running man, disco eyes,” etc…

Remember the scene in “Hitch” when Will Smith tells his client do avoid the outrageous dance moves and stick to the boring back and forth hip movement?

Remember what happens?

He breaks the rules and gets the girl.  But remember, if your style is more mellow, don’t try to be someone you are not out there. 

So let me tell you what sort of results you can expect by utilizing this strategy:

This is me ripping it up back in the day! (I’m in the white shirt)

What you are essentially doing when you work the dance floor is opening a conversation with everyone out there in a non-verbal way.

These interactions are very short which gives off the impression that you are not needy, you are just having fun and being social and you are the life (or host) of the party.

Most guys stand awkwardly on the side of the dance floor clutching their drinks while staring at the girls dancing.

They might as well be wearing a t-shirt that says “Hi, my name is Johnny Greaseball.”  CREEPY! So don’t be that guy.

If you take my advice, you will quickly become the most attractive guy on the dance floor because you’ll be having the most fun and women won’t understand why you keep dancing with them and then leaving.

It will make them want to chase after you and that is when you know that you are “In.”

Here’s what I do…
Dance with everyone on the floor for 2-10 seconds each and then go back and dance with my friends and people close around me.

Then I do it again and notice which women are receptive and checking me out, smiling, laughing, etc…

When this happens, I know they are into me so I’ll dance with them a little longer and most of the time they will start to escalate physically with me by grinding on my leg and getting closer.

It’s pretty much on auto-pilot from there.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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