Have you ever heard a woman say “I just want a guy that is grounded?” If you have, then that is a woman that knows what she is talking about. Recently, I’ve been doing a ton of work on grounding with my students and on myself. The changes I’ve seen have been incredible in a very short amount of time.

Yesterday I was with a client at 3rd Street Promenade in Santa Monica. I didn’t tell him why I was taking him there but he assumed that I was going to make him do approaches and he was incredibly nervous. He couldn’t eat because he was so anxious about what I was going to make him do. Sending a guy like this to approach women is pretty much a complete waste of time. Chances are, he is going to start awkward conversations due to his nervousness and get rejected time after time. This will hurt his self esteem and make him even more scared or even worse, numb to the whole experience. If you are reading this and you identify with a guy like this then this is for you. STOP mindlessly approaching women to get over your approach anxiety. You need to start grounding!

So what is grounding? Here is my brilliant definition: Grounding is being connected to the ground! LOL wasn’t that profound?!

But here is the magic. To connect to the ground, you must be in your body. As you are reading this, can you feel the ground with your feet? Take a deep breath and breath the air all the way through your body, all the way down to your feet and feel the Earth’s support below you. The more grounded you can be in tense situations, like meeting women, the less nervous you will become. When you get nervous, take a deep breath and picture all that nervous energy shooting through your legs into the ground. I know, this may sound super cheeseballish and weird, but it works, TRUST ME!!! Look at a guy in uniform, is he grounded? He is like a rock, and women can trust him. How about a computer geek, how grounded is he? If you want a great exercise, go out to a shopping mall or somewhere there are lots of people. Watch people and notice how grounded they are. How are they moving? Are they jittery? Are they graceful? Are they masculine, feminine? Notice the couples and especially the guys with beautiful women. Notice how they move, and how they lead. You will notice that they may not be good looking, but they have a certain way about them. I bet they aren’t scared of confrontation. If you want more exercises or a free dating consultation, leave a comment below…