I’de like to think that I have a pretty good understanding of this topic considering I spend hours a day working on it, but that may just be my ego talking! lol

I realized about a year and a half ago that all the things that I thought would make me happy were just ego boosters. All I cared about was making a shit a load of money, fucking hot women, playing really great golf and traveling. Now you might say “Whats wrong with that?” and truth is, there is nothing wrong with wanting those things. The problem didn’t lie with the wanting, but with my ego. The only reason I really wanted them wasn’t because I thought they would make me happy, but it was to get the validation from others that would make me happy. I just wanted to be envied by other men and I wanted everyone to tell me how great I am so I could feel validated. The point I am trying to make here, is that the real ego death comes when you stop seeking validation. When I realized that I became incredibly fascinated with personal growth. The Pickup community was my access to it. I’ve taken a shit load of personal growth seminars, read a ton of books and had hundreds of fascinating conversations on the subject. For me, it all comes down to loving yourself and finding true happiness. Easier said then done…

Regardless, the access for me was developing consciousness. I’m not just talking about mental consciousness but body consciousness. In fact, body consciousness is far more important IMO. Humans are the only species that we know of that are conscious of our feelings. That is why we have an ego and a dog does not. Because we are conscious of our feelings, we can use them to manipulate each other. So we learn at a young age to be inauthentic to get what we want and out of this we develop our ego. A dog is never inauthentic, what you see is what you get, which is why people love dogs and most animals for that reason. We are never worried about a dog fucking us over unless we are insane. So the access to consciousness is to see where we are being phony, inauthentic or manipulative, and start being real, all the time, no matter what. So the first step is being conscious of when we are doing these behaviors and the most powerful tool I have found is HD video. The video has no ego, it doesn’t lie and its pretty easy to see where you are being fake. The only problem is, your ego is so clever that it will not allow you to really see some of the big inauthenticities because your ego, is your ego and it doesn’t want itself to die. Haha I hope that made sense. So the next step is finding a committed group to call you out on your shit and hold you to be the best man you can be. Regardless, I hope these ramblings made sense.

Bottom Line: To kill off your ego, first you need to isolate it, and then take the necessary steps to STOP it from running your life so you can find and live your purpose. This is true consciousness.

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