I’ve spoken with hundreds of men, men who just want to be themselves and attract the women of their dreams. But they end up struggling to meet women, get dates, have great sex, and have fulfilling relationships.

But since, they have never been successful by just being themselves, instead, they try to learn all the “material,” the “stuff” the lines and routines that mask their true selves and their true nature.

This is a HUGE problem.

Now the reason most men are struggling is not because they do not have an amazing personality to offer women, it’s because they don’t know how to communicate that personality.  Shyness, social anxiety, past traumas, negative experiences and fear all add to this problem and it’s often easier for most guys to just give up than get this part of their life handled.

Most self-help and dating products tell you a bunch of things to do, but they forget to focus on who you are being first.

There is a very technical term for this phenomenon, which we call “Whipped Cream on Shit.”  If you tell an extremely shy, insecure, and unconfident man the greatest pickup line in the world, its not going to work very often, because who he is being is shy, insecure, and unconfident when he says it to a woman.

He may be able to fake it once or twice but its not going to take long until she smells the shit under that whipped cream, and walks away…

Because women, by nature, are far more intuitive and emotionally intelligent than we could EVER hope to be.  Women live in the land of feeling and are more loyal to their feelings than what makes logical sense. If they can’t feel you they don’t care how right you are.

So when you only focus on “what to do,” everything you do is agenda based.  And when women can sense that you have an agenda while interacting with them, they will usually be extremely turned off.  If you are in your head analyzing, plotting the next routine, “calibrating” the situation, then women will have a hard time feeling you.

If they can’t feel you they can’t get attracted to you or trust you.

Think of bad actors. They might be good looking but they are communicating from their heads. They often look like robots on stage or might be overly dramatic like they are trying to feel  rather than just feeling .

This is what we call agenda based communication and it’s just like bad acting.

So if you have heard that routines and patterns are the answer then I’m telling you is that you’ve been misled… and it’s NOT your fault!

So there you have it. The deep, underlying problem that the majority of men face when trying to attract extraordinary women.

It’s a surgery caliber problem that most “teachers” out there are trying to fix with band-aids and kisses. Unfortunately, that’s NEVER going to work.

So what IS the solution to this problem?  Let me explain by showing you a common human thought process.

HAVE  –> DO  –>  BE

Most people believe that once they HAVE the things they want in life, then they can DO the things they want to do, and then, they will BE happy.

“Someday” when I lose weight and buy some new clothes, I’ll be ready to meet women…

“Someday” when I have that 7 figure bank account, then I can take that trip around the world, then I’ll be happy…

“Someday” when I have the women of my dreams, I’ll be able to do all those things couples do, and then I’ll be happy…

Here is the problem with “Someday…” it happens right after you take a 6 foot drop!

You never get there, its always out in the future, and if you do get something you want “Someday” before you die, it never really makes you happy, at least not for very long.

Here is the worst mistake men make.  They tell themselves “I don’t have women in my life, so I better start doing the things to get one.”  If you are one of these guys, don’t feel bad, we were too!  But guess what, that model hasn’t worked thus far, has it? If you’re reading this letter to this point, I’m sure you want the REAL solution.  So lets tweak the model a bit.

BE  –> DO –>  HAVE

First, you BE attractive, then you will naturally DO the things that suck extraordinary women into your reality, and then you will HAVE an abundance of beautiful women in your life.  Cool, huh?

Unfortunately, most self-help and dating products tell you a bunch of things to do, but they forget to focus on who you are “being” first.

Okay, let me break this down for you in one sentence. Ready?

Women are attracted to a man’s sexual presence and masculinity, not his “attempt” at sexual presence and masculinity…

The true power of your attractiveness to women isn’t in the words.  It’s in the MAN BEHIND THE WORDS.  It’s in your sexual masculine nature, your ability to be grounded in the face of tension or danger, your ability to connect on a deep emotional, your discipline, your focus and your presence.

This is so true, that if you were truly grounded and connected, you could say to a woman, “Do you like pancakes?” and she would melt like butter.  You want to make women melt?  Or one woman melt for decades?  Then know the difference between conveying confidence and BEING confident.  Between conveying masculine solidity and BEING solid.  And that’s not something you can just hope and wish for.  It’s a switch you need to make.  It’s a CHOICE you need to make.

And then you need to follow it up with practices that support your choice.

So if you want to attract a lot of women, develop these ways of being and you will never need to rehearse pickup lines, routines, magic tricks, suck in your gut, flash your wad of cash, go on elaborate dates, brag, or buy her diamond earrings again.

Easier said than done, right?

Don’t worry.

We know you probably haven’t been practicing your “connection” and “groundedness” exercises regularly.

In fact, this may be the first time you’ve even heard these terms in detail.

That is, unless you’re a yoga master, a highly trained martial artist, or a natural, social genius.

And yes, it takes time to develop these core areas of your being.

•    It means training your subconscious to rise up and above the insecurities, pains, and frustrations of the past.

•    It means taking control of your emotions and being completely grounded in your heart, with no agenda or attachment to outcome.

•    It means being absolutely certain of your masculinity and your solidarity in the moment.

•    And usually, it takes years of practice and discipline to get to this state.

•    Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be this way for you…

I wrote an ebook called “Dynamic Dating: How to Attract Women in an Authentic and Natural Way”

The Dynamic Dating Ebook focuses on your BEING.  In other words, how you feel and the energy you radiate as you are talking with women.  It’s using your right brain and body rather then your analytical mind and without it, you would just be practicing a bunch of techniques that wouldn’t feel authentic to you.

The best part?

It’s in a very simple, easy to learn format for you to digest.  You see, there are 7 dynamics of every successful Dynamic Dating conversation, and by absorbing and understanding them, you can quickly and easily trigger massive respect, intrigue, and attraction, no matter what you say or do.  To pick up a copy or learn more, visit www.innerconfidence.com/page3.html

I also just posted a ton of training videos on the Inner Confidence Blog that will help you shift your way of being around sexy women.  You can watch them all by clicking this Link.  If you have any questions please leave a comment or email me at Robbie@innerconfidence.com.  I love answering emails from you guys so don’t hesitate!

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