Over the past year, Brian and I have been helping guys strip away the anxiety and nervousness they feel around women.  In no time at all, a huge percentage of these guys have completely turned their social lives around and last week I took 4 clients out to a college type bar in Hollywood called Happy Endings to see how they’d do in a high energy environment.  This bar is basically filled with college girls, a lot of them looked underage and frat boy types.  The music is loud, the drinks are cheap and everyone gets wasted playing beer pong and flip cup.  Yeah, I told you… College bar!

Of the 4 clients I had with me, one of them clearly had a way higher level of anxiety and nervousness, yet over the course of the evening, he made out with multiple women including 2 girls at once and had the time of his life!  Lets call him Client A.  Interestingly, the client who had the least amount of anxiety and the best communication skills had a very tough time in that environment.  Lets call him Client B.  This lead me to a realization…

Even though client B had way less anxiety, better communication skills, more money, rockin style and a grounded energy, he was not able to let go, get out of his head and have fun in that sort of crazy environment.  Now, if we had been out meeting women during the day at Nordstroms, client B would have had a MUCH easier time then client A.  I noticed what was going on that night, so rather then instructing client B to do a bunch of approaches which would have failed miserably, I instructed him to stare at a flyer I found on the floor and talk jibberish to it until it made him laugh.  After a minute, he substantially let go of all his thoughts and got out of his head enough to start connecting with the crazy people in the bar.  But the concept of not thinking logically and acting like a total idiot was so foreign to him that staying in that state was very difficult.

If you are wondering what the point of all of this is then I’ll let you have it.  I constantly meet analytical guy after analytical guy that wants to get better with women and rock the bar and club scene but they are looking for a logical and analytical way to approach it.  This is why analytical approaches, techniques and step by step systems WILL NOT work if you’re in your head.  So the next time you are out, forget all that mumbo jumbo bullshit that these pickup artists are preaching to you and just try to let go, be crazy, make a fool of yourself and have some fun.  Meeting women in a bar should be crazy, fun, exciting and completely insane, and if its not, I guarantee you are sucking and not having a good time.