There are a million and one ways to spark up a conversation with a beautiful woman, this post is about how to find one that will work for you – EVERY TIME!

Most guys make the mistake of trying to come up with something really clever on the spot.

For this to work you have to not only be clever, but quick witted and very observant.

It’s scientifically proven that men get dumber in the presence of a beautiful woman so this strategy is pretty much worthless.

By the time you think of something clever the opportunity will have came and went.  The next mistake guys make is to open with something innocuous and situationally relevant.  “Lots of people here tonight, eh…”

This is just boring!

And the third mistake I see is guys opening with something indirect and unexpected.  “Who do you think lies more, men or women?”

This doesn’t work because most women will see right through your plan and think you’re creepy for having a hidden agenda.

They know you are interested because you approached them and they also know you don’t really care about the question you are asking.  They’ll sense the agenda and close off.

So let me explain what will actually work…If you want to make a powerful first impression, the words coming out of your mouth need to be congruent with the emotions you are feeling inside.

If you tell George Clooney to walk up to a beautiful woman and say “Hi, my name is George, I’m really shy and trying to meet new people to build my confidence,” how do you think they would respond?

Most would laugh because it’s obvious from his energy that he is neither shy or lacking confidence.  If you tell someone who is actually shy and scared to use that same line, most people will sympathize and be nice.

Try on this scenario. Tell George Clooney to walk up to a beautiful woman and say “Hi, my name is George and I can’t stop thinking about what you would look like naked.”

My guess is that 50% are going to be offended and 50% are going to eventually sleep with him.  What would happen if you tell the shy, scared guy to use that line?  CRASH & BURN!!! Why?

Because just saying something like that would be completely counter to what he is feeling inside.

The key to success is making sure that your feelings match your words and for a lot of guys, this can be a difficult thing to master because we aren’t really sure what we are feeling.

Up until about 3 years ago, if you asked me how I was feeling I would have responded “Dude! Are you gay?!”  I didn’t think feelings were “Cool” enough to talk about.

But the truth is, we connect with others through our feelings, not our words.  If you don’t connect emotionally with the woman you approach, she will have no interest in continuing the conversation with you.

This may shock you, but pissing her off is ALWAYS better then coming across as boring. If you are boring, you make it easy for others to ignore you and walk away.  But if you are edgy while still being honest, she may get pissed off but you can always recover.

Same scenario:  Tell George Clooney to walk up to a beautiful woman and say:

George: “Hi, my name is George and I can’t stop thinking about what you would look like naked.”

Her: “You are a pervert, how can you say that to me?”

George: “Have you looked in the mirror recently?  You do realize that you are beautiful don’t you?”

Her: “Uhh, ummm, errr” (Trying to stay angry)

George: “Let’s discuss your hatred for me over a drink…”

Her: “Haha, ok fine.”

All George had to do was be honest. He didn’t have to think of anything clever or witty because the conversation was filled with sexual tension anyway.

Would this work if George was actually scared and nervous?  No, because rather then simply stating what he felt, he would have apologized (either verbally or energetically with his body language, tonality) and killed the attraction.

The key is to find what is slightly edgy and authentic for how you’re feeling and give it a try.  It might be this:

“Hey this is random but I’m really shy and trying to meet new people to build my confidence, my name is _____.”

It might be this:

“I walked all the way across the bar to come and flirt with you so you better not disappoint me!  Come on, what you got?”

Or it might be this:

“You look familiar, have we had sex?  No? Well, last week I had sex with a girl that looks just like you and I feel really bad because I forgot to call her the next day.  Are you sure it wasn’t you?   Well I wouldn’t admit it either but just in case it was you I just want to say I’m sorry and it won’t happen again! ”  (Credit Brad P)

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer