Playing a Smart Game: Strategies on how to make meeting women easy
For years I tried to be a pickup artist, approaching girls all the time, taking bootcamps, struggling and working hard to learn tactics, how to get over approach anxiety. While the efforts have paid off, I’m here to say that there is an easy way. Yes, that’s right. I am here to tell you it’s not supposed to be hard.

Focus on Strengths

As a kid, your parents often tell you “work hard and you can achieve anything!” You can achieve anything but some things will come easy and some will be much more difficult. The truth is, each one of us has our own strengths and weaknesses.  Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Some of us are naturally funny, some of us are great listeners, some of us are great at math. Whatever it is, find ways to incorporate these attributes into your game.

Try Multiple Action Plans
One of the best advice I got recently was from a book called “Rework”. It said something along the lines of “don’t call it a marketing plan or sales plan or business plan — call it a marketing guess or a sales guess or a business guess.” Similarly, all guys who are trying to meet women have their own, what I called Meeting Women Action Plans. For example, a guy will come in saying he wants to only meet women at bars and he’s do that for years often with mediocre success. The biggest error is to stick to one plan for a long time. Even guys who are good at meeting women at, say bars, should be changing up their action plans to see

1. If there is another plan would help them be more successful at meeting women
2. Pushing their comfort zone (if you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not growing).

The cold approach is often one of the hardest things to do (which is why few men ever do it at all in their entire lives!). Try cold approaching for a few months, try being a networking commando, try taking salsa lessons, try running a meetup group. Whatever it is, have multiple plans. Eventually you’ll find something you’re having fun with and meeting lots of women at the same time.

Avoid The Path of Most Resistance.

Oftentimes we take the path of most resistance. We’re trained to do this as kids. “Dont quit!” our parents say. And we keep working harder and harder at things we suck at. It’s called “brute force” as well. Sometimes it works. Often, its just painful.The same is true with meeting women.Seek the path of least resistance.If you’re having massive approach anxiety approaching super hot girls, maybe start off talking to whoever you can. Get used to that. If you hate going to bars and clubs to meet women, stop doing that! Pick something you enjoy doing. Ignore advice that tells you you must be a club superhero, when your history has shown you’re better at meeting women at singles mixers. Work with what you’re good at, then work up.

Recognize you’re style
For some guys being funny is their thing. For others, its having a deep connection. For others its holding tension. Whatever your style is, own it. While a lot of dating advice is geared at making you a more “attractive man” (whatever their concept of an attractive man is), recognize that you have a lot of amazing traits already. Heck, ask us! We’ll point them out for you if you’re having a hard time. Whatever it is, don’t try to be something or someone else. Recognize you have a unique style. Build on what you’ve got.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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When I saw the flashing blue and red lights behind me, I almost shat my pants.  “Shat…” is that a word?  I was 16 years old and when he came swaggering up to my window, I felt the same sensation as if I had just asked out a hot girl and was waiting eagerly for her response.  Is she gonna say yes or no?  Is he gonna give me a ticket or let me go?

For a wimpy kid like me, I was most scared of two types of people, authority figures and attractive women. As time went on, I increased my inner confidence and eventually got the women thing handled, but up until recently when I got pulled over for speeding, I had completely forgot about my fear of the police. That same feeling wrenched through my body and it quickly reminded me how freaking scared I was.  After the incident, I realized that if I’m that scared around cops, it’s a sign that I need to make a change and learn how to keep my cool and handle those scary situations better.  I made it a habit to start engaging police officers any chance I got…

Last month I was approaching a red light and I noticed a cop waiting on foot to write people tickets.  I pulled up next to where he was standing on the curb and rolled down my window. “You looking for people on their cell phone?” I asked.  “Anything I see,” he responded in a pissed off tone.  “You need any help?” I said.  “No, im good thanks.” he said.

Seems like a pretty worthless interaction right?  Well, that was actually a big step for me.  I was scared to talk to him at the time.

This scenario happened late one night…

My girlfriend an I were about to J Walk when I spotted two cops getting out of their car.  They got out and J Walked right across the street to the Mexican restaurant we were headed to.  “If they can do it, we can do it too” I told her.  As we were crossing behind them, Allison said “baby, what if they give us a ticket.”  One of the cops turned around and said “I’m gonna give you a ticket.”  I quickly replied “I’m gonna give YOU a ticket.” We had a good laugh.

One more scenario.  Last Thursday I was driving late at night and speeding as usual.  Without realizing, I blew right past a cop without noticing him.  When I stopped at a light a car pulled up next to me.  I didn’t even notice the car until a bright white light beamed through my passenger window.  I rolled down my window and said “Hey, what’s up?”  “What, you blow past me and then you pretend like I’m not even here?  Is that how you roll?” he says.  I replied “HAHA, I didn’t even see you, my bad.”  “Well slow your ass down!” he replies in a pissed off tone and speeds off.  SWEET, got off easy that time.  The interesting thing I noticed about the last interaction was the absence of the gut wrenching sensation that I typically experience in those situations. I was no longer scared!

So what changed?

I learned how to deal with tension around the Po-Po.  When we face our fears head on and deal with them, they quickly dissolve.  So ask yourself, what am I avoiding and how can I start to deal with it?  You can either let fear stop you, or you can have fun and fuck with it.  Try on this motto: Fuck with fear!

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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Do you ever find yourself stuck in situations you’d rather not be in?  About 4 years ago, this was the practically the story of my life.  I hated my job in finance and the majority of my day was spent in boring meetings.  Looking back, I could kick myself for all the missed opportunities that were available if I would have simply applied the secret I’m about to share with you now.

The situations that I dread the most, are BORING ones.  I HATE having to sit through a mindless activity when I would rather be doing something else, ANYTHING else!  The law of attraction states that what we focus on expands and for many years, I found myself stuck in boring situations at an increasingly frequent rate. It wasn’t until I met Karl Wolfe, now one of my most trusted mentors, that things started to shift for me.

Karl called me out one during his weekly class for zoning out.  He said “Are we boring you?” Feeling embarrassed and caught red handed I responded “No, I’m just really tired.”  “Baloney” he said, “you do this every single week and if you keep it up, I’m NOT gonna let you come back.  If you’re doing this behavior in here, you’re probably doing it all the others areas of life so what is the impact, Robbie?”  In that moment I realized how often I zoned out and walked through life virtually “checked out.”  Karl explained that in every moment, there are countless things happening that we could learn from. 

To illustrate this point, let’s take a worst case scenario of being stuck in activity most of us would prefer to avoid.  Let’s pretend we work at McDonalds and we have two options for how we choose to spend out time:

1) We can do the exact minimum amount of work required to avoid getting fired while we constantly glance at the clock waiting for our shift to be over so we can do something more rewarding.

2) We can start to notice all the things that are happening around us that we could learn from. How does the french fryer work?  How do the cash registers operate?  How much money does this place bring in per day and how much is being spent per day.  How does the accounting system work?  What are my coworkers like and why are they working here?  Why does everyone make fun of people who work at McDonalds?  Do they think people like me are stupid? Am I stupid or am I just too lazy to get a higher paying job?

Option 1 will keep us stuck in “Boredom Hell” while option 2 has the potential to open our eyes to something more.  What if we actually used our free time between burger flips at McDonalds to figure out how we could improve the system and make the business run smoother.  We then found a solution and approached our boss to let us be in charge of implementing it.  Do I hear PROMOTION!?!?

So here’s the secret if you haven’t figured it out by now.  Approach every situation as a curious student.  Ask yourself questions that engage your creativity rather then zoning out.  Look at ways to improve things and add value to other people’s lives.

You would think this concept would be an obvious one but look at society.  How many people are actually trying to improve things and create value for others?  Compare that to the amount of people who are just trying to survive and get by comfortably.

When I looked back on my life since graduating college I made an interesting discovery. When my intention in life was to be comfortable, I was usually quite uncomfortable.  But when I switched my intention to serve others and provide value, my bank account starting growing and found myself extremely comfortable by default.  In fact I can’t even remember the last time I found myself in a situation I didn’t want to be in.  And in the rare occasion it does happen, I choose to leave or use the tools I shared above to engage myself and turn things around.  Does it sound like I’m bragging?  Well it should because I AM!   I never thought it would be possible to have the freedom to do whatever I want to, whenever I want to.  But looking back, it was really quite easy once I made this simple shift.

You and I both know that this information is useless unless we put it into action so start by leaving a comment below about the areas in your life where you find yourself bored or stuck.  Next, identify the things that you can focus on instead to add value and engage your curiosity. DO IT NOW!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Would you say that you have a an alter ego or split personalities? If you are member of the seduction community and having less success then you would like then the answer to the last question is YES! When I first joined the community and became an active “sarger” (Sarge – Lame PUA Lingo for the act of hitting on women) I adopted the mindset that I needed to start approaching and flirting with every hot girl I saw. The pickup gurus somehow brainwashed me to actually feel guilty if I did not approach EVERY hot woman I came across. That’s a lot of guilt! I lived in San Diego so I saw at least 10-20 per day. The guilt got so bad that I would avoid places with attractive women or go to the bars in hopes that none of the women would meet my standards, thus relieving me of my mission to approach them. The front running Pickup Artist company I was working for at the time had a mission called the “Girl of the Day.” It meant that you had to approach the hottest girl you saw NO MATTER WHAT for 30 days. I would go to work, see a hot girl, hit on her, go to lunch, see a hotter girl, hit on her, go to the cleaners, see a hotter girl, hit on her, etc… It’s not just the “Girl” of the day, it turned into the “Girlsssss” of the day. I did not realize that this sort of behavior was creating a split personality or my alter ego pickup persona. There was the normal everyday Robbie and the Pickup Artist Robbie. I was doing a buttload of approaches and only about 15% would result in some sort of exchange of contact information. An even smaller percentage would actually show up on a date so I was doing a lot of HARD WORK and having lackluster results at best.

95% of the men who come to my seminars, say they want to get over Approach Anxiety. When a guy says that to me, I laugh to myself and think “Why, so you can turn into a pickup machine and do lots of hard work for poor results?” Obviously they have a different picture in their mind of what it looks like to have the skills to fearlessly approach any woman they see. In 2 years I went from a guy who never approached a woman I didn’t know to a guy who approached over 2,000 women. I had zero approach anxiety but my results did not increase by 2,000%. In fact they probably only doubled or increased by about 100%. Here’s why: I programmed myself unconscioulsy to create this alter ego pickup artist Robbie guy who could approach any woman in just about any scenario. The problem was that I was acting the whole time and women could sense it. Women have the best bullshit detectors in the world, especially the smoking hot ones that get hit on multiple times per day. Sure I had the balls to approach them but they could see how fake I was even though I was saying the right things and had perfected my routines. The two problems were that the routines were not congruent with my real personality and I wasn’t having fun. I was approaching because I got to the point where it felt better to be rejected then to live with the guilt of being a pussy for not talking to her.

Here’s the solution:

If hitting on women becomes part of your everyday life, you won’t have approach anxiety and your approaches will result in success a much higher percentage of the time. The best way to hit on women is to tease them in a playful way and the beauty of improving your teasing skills is that you can practice on anyone, not just attractive women! When I started teasing everyone, I started having WAY more fun and everyone around me got to share in the fun as well. I started teasing servers, bank tellers, janitors, my neighbors, the mailman, even cops! If you are thinking “This won’t work for me Robbie, I don’t have that kind of personality, I never tease people.” My response is BULLSHIT!!!!! I have never met someone who doesn’t engage in playful conversations with their closest friends. Even if it only happens on a blue moon, you still have it in you, you just may be too scared to bring it to the surface or nervous because you are terrified of upsetting someone. When I started teasing EVERYONE, the pickup alter ego naturally disappeared. I was ALWAYS in flirting mode, or what the seduction community would call, ALWAYS IN STATE!

Example - Location: Subway, lunch time

Sandwich Artist: Can I help you?

Me: Why do you guys have so many options on this menu? Everything here is good, why make my life so damn difficult with all the choices, huh! I could sue for the mental anguish I’m experiencing right now you know that?! What’s better, the tuna or the cold cut combo?

Sandwich Artist: The Cold Cut Combo

Me: Great I’ll have the tuna

Sandwich Artist: LOL!

(Hot girl walks in and gets in line behind me)

Me: I bet your gonna ask me a bunch of questions now like what kind of cheese, bread and dressings I like, I bet you didn’t know I was psychic!

Sandwich Artist: HAHA

Me: You want a reading? I charge $5000 an hour?

Me: (turn to hot girl) What about you, do you want a reading?

Her: LOL, no

Me: Why, you can’t afford $5000?

Her: NO!

Me: That’s too bad because I only date rich girls! Excuse me though, this dude back here has a crush on me I think, he keeps asking me all these personal questions about my sandwich preferences.

Sandwich Artist: Oil Vinegar, salt or pepper?

Me: I dunno, ask her, she’s paying!

Her: No im not!

Me: But, you just said you were rich…

I’m already teasing the sandwich artist so when the cute girl walks in she realizes that I’m fun before I even talk to her and everyone ends up having a great time when they least expected it.  Keep in mind, I’m REALLY good at this sort of teasing and witty banter but I used to SUCK at it.  It just comes with practice and having fun.  But remember the golden rule, you have to do it with everyone! If I don’t do it with the sandwich artist and then the hot girl walks in what happens?  I start thinking “What should I say to her?” Then the sandwich artist interrupts me by asking what type of cheese I want and I lose my train of thought.  So I end up saying something SUPER LAME and everyone knows I’m the creepy guy hitting on the girl in the subway line.  Creepy guys hit on hot women, attractive guys hit on everyone by teasing them!  Here’s a simple technique for teasing people.  Blame them for something they have no control over in a really exaggerated way.  I have tons of simple strategies like this and if it fits your personality, it will work.  I will be releasing an audio program shortly with tons of examples and practice drills so when it comes out, just buy it so I can eat more shitty subway sandwiches!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Get ready for a Mindfuck – I usually don’t share this deeper stuff because people aren’t ready for it, or they take it personally but here it goes…

The idea that your life has a purpose is a construction of your ego. You have no purpose, just like a snail or bird has no purpose. You could say that your purpose, just like a bird or snail is to let the life that you were born to live, live through you. In English, that means to follow your intuition or that higher self that urges you forward. Listen to what your body tells you and live out those feelings. For example, a baby is true to its purpose in every moment. If it’s hungry it cries, if its happy it smiles, if it wants to crawl, it crawls. Too often as adults, we create our lives to be a prison and we are the guard. The joy comes from letting go and following your desires only to reason that none of them mean anything and your life in the grand scheme of things means nothing either. You are just a tiny speck of consciousness running around on a dirt ball that is orbiting 1 sun out of trillions in the universe. Your purpose is whatever you choose it to be moment by moment.

I guess what Eleanor Roosevelt wrote above pretty much goes along with what I’m saying too.

-Robbie Kramer

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In this post, I will explain how you can tap into your passion and creativity to have more fun and create more structure to get things done and accomplish your goals !  You know my motto, if it’s not fun, don’t do it!

If you have ever wondered how you can become more masculine and attractive to women then I suggest reading on.

Let’s use the example of a painting.  If you look at a painting, the frame would be the structure and the painting would be the creativity and passion.  We live in a world of duality, up and down, left and right, masculine and feminine.  So if you want to have more fun you must also add in more structure.

If you only have passion, but no structure or vice versa, you will be a very ineffective person.  For example, let’s say you are really good at being an accountant because you can crunch numbers all day long.  This is a very structured activity because you are accomplishing a pretty mundane task.  If you don’t have access to passion and ability to create, you will struggle to create relationships and your life will be nothing but tedious work.  You will never get promoted because your boss won’t have a connection with you and you will never have any fun because you don’t know what fun is if you are disconnected from your passion.  Conversely, if you have lots of access to your passion and creativity but little structure in your life, you may find yourself without a sense of purpose or direction in life.  You may have a lot of connections and creative ideas, but none of them ever turn into anything.  It’s like the guy who has amazing ideas for a book but never sits down to write it.  So you must be able to turn your creative ideas into tangible tools or information that delivers value to others.

Example: I am really passionate about dating and attracting women, so I blog about it and offer my services to others to help them become more successful.  I get to have fun while getting things done all day long!  So here’s a simple set of strategies to turn this information into transformation by taking action:

Look at the activities that take up most of your time.  Are you getting things done without having fun or are you having a lot of fun but getting very little done?  If you answered the former, you need to add in some passion and creativity and if you answered the latter, you need more structure.  Once you’ve identified it, brainstorm some ideas for adding in the ingredients you are missing.

So how does this relate to you?  Where are you lacking and what is the impact on your life and inner confidence?

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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My main intention for the guys at the bootcamp was that they all walked away with the ability to attract women by exuding the best sides of themselves.  I’ve seen other guys drop thousands of dollars on bootcamps to learn canned lines, routines and gimmicks and women can spot the bullshit from a mile away.  The amazing thing about attraction, is everyone and I mean everyone is incredibly attracted when they are fully self expressed, having fun and outcome independent (in other words, you don’t give a shit about the outcome).  I made sure to beat them over the head with this mantra:  Have fun and be selfish! In other words, drop the agenda and interact with people for one reason only, to entertain yourself.  Most guys screw up because they are trying to “get something” from women.  This stuff is so simple, it just takes some practice to bring your natural flirty personality to the surface.  Sometimes, you might have some layers of crap covering it up but it doesn’t take long to dig up the gold.  My favorite story of the week was from a guy we’ll call E who was chatting up a girl at Circle Bar.

E: Listen up! You’re gonna have to stop smiling because you are in great danger of being kissed right now.

Girl: HAHA, smiles again.

E: Alirght, you asked for it.

Fireworks……

This article may annoy you because I’m gonna brag, a lot! Eleven students attended my workshop this weekend, “The Pillars of Powerful Openings.”  The workshop was designed to help them create their own unique personal attraction system to rock a woman’s world.  The first day we focused a lot on playful communication, teasing and other tools to have fun, witty conversations that turn women on.  The guys quickly got into the flow of things and before long, every single one of them was blowing me away with thier new found flirting abilities.  Later that evening we headed out for a night on the town.  We hit up Circle Bar and O’Briens Pub on Main Street in Santa Monica.  We had a blast and I was REALLY pleased with the results of the guys both from what I witnessed personally while out and what I heard the next morning when we reconvened.  Out of the eleven guys, about 80% ended up with phone numbers, a few of them ended up making out with some sexy ladies and one student ended up taking a couple girls home with him and his buddy.  What they did at home, I can’t say but he looked pretty happy about it the next morning.   Aside from the stuff I just mentioned that us guys like to brag about, what ACTUALLY MATTERS isn’t the notches on the bedpost, but rather the boost in their inner confidence and sense of personal power.  The Inner Confidence Girls who helped me facilitate by participating with the guys in exercises and gave feedback were really impressed as well.  And this after only 5 hours of drills and exercises

For more info on the workshop, come to my next FREE seminar: “Be Yourself, Have Fun, and Attract A TON of Amazing Women Into Your Life.” Grab your seat fast because space is filling up fast, and I’m not just saying that, go to the page and see for yourself.  Hope to see you then!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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This post is all about creating a system for success to meet and attract women.  Do you go into conversations with attractive women completely blind and clueless? If so, your results are probably less than stellar.  But sadly, this is the case for about 99.9% of men.  If you are not in the .1%, don’t feel bad you have lots of company and you are in the right place if you want to make the leap toward success.

I’ve always been fascinated by the power of persuasion.  Getting others to do what you want is a pretty powerful skill to have but with great power comes great responsibility.  Are you going to con people and manipulate them into doing something that will affect them negatively or will you use it to create win/win situations to impove your life and the lives of those around you?  The tools are pretty much same, but please use caution…

So what are they, Robbie?  Let me give you quick background.

I started working in sales for a venture capital firm when I graduated from UC San Diego.  My job was to raise large sums of money for high risk/high yield investments.  I basically knew nothing about the product (investments) I was selling but sold a ton of them because I believed in it and my network really trusted me.  The problem was that I always felt very uncomfortable on the phone because I wasn’t sure what to say, how to say it, or how to react to people’s questions, etc… So I started to study sales.  It was fascinating and a lot of fun and I got really good at it.  I noticed that there are a ton of similarities between selling a product and selling yourself.  In fact, in order for anyone to buy a product from you, they have to first be sold on you.  If not, they will go buy it from someone else.  I started studying from the best sales experts in the world and adopting their systems and strategies.  I improved little by little and eventually I developed my own personal style and system that worked much better.  The same exact thing happened when I started studying attraction and how to meet women.  I had trouble getting other people’s methods to work for me and I felt like a phony using canned material and systems created by someone else.  So I said screw it and made up my own.  Did it work, HELL YEAH it worked and it improved my results drastically. Do you want to know what it is?

If you want to know what it is, you are asking the wrong question!  MY SYSTEM WILL NOT WORK FOR YOU! Why?  Because it’s MY system, not yours.  That is why I created a system to help you design YOUR OWN system.  Cool huh!?  I walk men through this step by step process in my free 2 hour seminar “Be Yourself, Have Fun & Attract A Ton of Amazing Women Into Your Life.” so if you are in LA, sign up!

I’m also going to be doing a live tele-seminar soon for the guys who can’t make it to LA so keep a heads up for that.  But let me give you a little taste to help you get started.

Here is the first step:

Take a look at what you are currently doing.  Do you have a system?  Your damn well right you do!!  Everyone has a system whether they are aware of it or not and some systems work so poorly that you would never bother labeling it a system.  The average dude’s system is to engage a woman in conversation by making some ‘chodeball’ obvious comment that she’s heard a gazillion times.  “Wow, its really crowded in here, huh?”  “You out with your friends tonight?”  “Cool place, huh?”  LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME did I mention….. LAME? The next thing they do is ask a douchey interview style question.  “You from around here?”  “So where do you work?”  Also lame.  That system will even be dysfunctional for a guy who looks like Brad Pitt.  It pretty much shows you aren’t original and have no personality.  If you are guilty of this behavior, don’t sweat it, you didn’t know any better an no one ever taught you until now!   It doesn’t mean you are a douche or chodeball, it just means you don’t have a functional system for bringing out the awesome personality you have that only closest friends get to see.  So pat yourself on the back for finding this information because most guys will never have a clue.  What I’m saying is, notice your patterns and how you typically operate.  Think about the last really successful interaction you had with a woman.  How did it go?  What happened?  What sort of things did you say or do that you seem to say or do every time?  These are the steps to uncovering the current system you are using and pinpointing the parts that work and don’t work.

Your assignment is to post a comment below and explain your system and why or why not it’s working for you. If you skip this step, the others will not work and it is the foundation for everything else.   And like I said, I map this out in detail at my free workshop.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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In this post I’m gonna share my 4 Step Process for eliminating procrastination! For as long as I remember, I’ve been a procrastinator.  But last week I noticed that I put off some activites and dive right into others.  You’re probably thinking, duh!  Big freakin whoop, Robbie, tell me something I don’t know.  To take it a step further, I realized that I really put off things I don’t know how to get started on.  I remember a few years back when one of my goals was to approach at least 1 beautiful woman a day during my lunch break.  When I first started, I would think of every excuse why not to and I ended up not doing it – procrastination at its finest.

I realized that the biggest excuse I used was “I don’t know what to say.”  The funny thing was that everytime I actually did it, something random just spilled out of my mouth and that excuse was total bullshit but it still stopped me in my tracks.  So I decided to eliminate that excuse by doing the same approach to get started everyday.  I would just find a cute girl, walk up and say “hey this is totally random, but I think you are really cute.” Sometimes I would immedietely walk away, sometimes I would stay and talk and sometimes I would puss out and not do it at all, but I realized that eliminating that excuse, eliminated procrastination.

I also noticed myself procrastinating when it comes to work.  There were a couple documents I needed to create last week pertaining to an upcoming workshop I am leading and I kept putting it off.  I realized that I was putting it off because I didn’t know how to get started.  I noticed what I was doing and decided to try something new.  Rather then trying to push against the resistance like usual, I came up with a new solution.  I decided to devote 15 minutes and not a minute longer to the project.  It was just a way to get started that eliminated the feeling of overwhelm.  When I did this, I realized that the task was way easier then I thought and the anxiety and procrasination about doing it went right out the window.  I wanted to keep going but I kept my word about only doing it for 15 minutes, so I took a 2 minute break and then finished it.

I’m not claiming to be an expert on procrastination but if you find yourself dealing with the same sort of thing as me, give my method a try and if it works, PLEASE TELL ME ABOUT IT!

Here is the 4 step process broken down:

1. Notice why you are resisting a certain activity

2. Ask yourself what you need to get started

3. Devote a small period of time to take 1 step toward getting the project started

4. Keep your word

Step 4 is really important. If you follow steps 1-3 and you are still having trouble and feeling like crap, make sure you take a break to avoid burning out and getting more frustrated.  Simply take a break, and start over with steps 1-3.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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If you haven’t read Killer Conversations Skills Part 1, read it now and come back to this post.

Let’s assume you are interacting with a woman and you can tell she is attracted to you.  You can tell for sure with this amazing technique I learned from one of my awesome mentors back in the day, Lance Mason.  It’s called the hand test.  There are two ways I like to do the hand test.  The first way is to give her hand a light squeeze, if she squeezes back, she’s digging you.  The other way is to kinda nonchalantly rest your hand in hers or graze her hand and see if she grabs hold of it, if she does, you’re golden.  So once she is into you, now what?

If you’ve taken my advice up until this point, you’ve probably had a 30 second – 2 minute conversation about nothing. Hopefully there was a lot of teasing and joking going on or a lot of sexual tension.  The problem you’ll run into if you keep teasing, bantering and flirting with her is that eventually it will get old.  Five minutes of hardcore flirting is ALMOST always too long and she’ll think you’re just a party guy or a jokester who is never gonna make a move.  The next stop is escalate physically and connect emotionally.

I don’t care where you are, loud environment, or library, once the flirting starts to die down, I highly recommend leading her to another location and getting real with her.  When you change locations, its a visceral signal that the energy of the interaction is shifting and you are a guy who can lead and knows what he wants.  Let’s say there is nowhere else to go or it would be too awkward to try it, simply shift your body position so you’re facing the other direction and get her to follow.

The next step is start to vibe.  Vibing is very simple and everyone can do it.  It’s basically job interview questions with a twist.  The point of vibing is to find commonalities.  Start talking about the things you are passionate about in life and find out what she’s passionate about.  Here’s a few questions I love to ask people.

• “What would you do if you had all the time and money in the world?”  They will say “Travel.”  So then you say “What about when you’ve seen everything?”  This is where the gold will come out…
• “What is your biggest pet peve?”
• The “Would You Rather Game” – “Would you rather have 1 year of mind blowing sex followed by 1 year of no sex at all, or two years of so-so sex?”

Keep in mind, there are tons of deeper and more personal questions you can ask but that is not vibing.  The next step is after vibing is what I call having a dynamic conversation.  I have a whole book on this subject and I would HIGHLY recommend it – obviously !  But I’ll give you a taste of 3 of the 7 dynamics to a successful conversation right now so you can apply them immediately.

1. Acknowledgments – Genuinely acknowledging a woman can be an extremely powerful way to create a deep and instant connection with her.  An acknowledgment goes much deeper than a compliment because it is about her personality, not something she is wearing or the way she looks.  The best way to think of acknowledgments is to compare her to yourself.  What qualities does she have that compare to the best qualities in you.  Then acknowledge her for those and explain how you can see them because you are the same way!

2. Genuine Curiosity - I gave three examples of questions above and the best thing to do while in conversation is to slow down, and ask yourself, what do I really want to know about this person?  Do this exercise RIGHT NOW! Take out a penny and really look at it.  What do you see?  What are you curious about?  I bet you can find a bunch of stuff you never noticed.  If you can get that curious about a penny, imagine what there is to find out about a beautiful woman.

3. Being of Service – Chivalry is not dead, but being a nice guy who does lots of favors expecting stuff in return is!  The best way to be of service nowadays is really simple.  People really want to be listened to!  There are a lot of people who want to talk and very few who want to listen, so if you can just shut up and listen to a woman, you will be miles ahead of the pack.  In order to listen she has to be talking, which is why I mentioned this last.  If you want her to open and be vulnerable, you’re gonna have to go first most of the time.  I like to share about my biggest flaws, biggest regrets and silly mistakes I’ve made in life.  This will give her the space to open up and share, and once she starts, all you have to do is sit back and listen.  She will love you for it.  But I’m not talking about smiling and nodding, really listen!  Don’t be an ear dildo!!

There is so much more I want to share with you guys including the other 4 dynamics of successful conversation but I’m way to lazy to type it all out again, so pick up a copy of my ebook, Dynamic Dating and you can thank me later.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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