What really sets the men apart from the boys is the ability and confidence to exude sexuality through the eyes.  Gay cliché: “The eyes are the window to the soul.”  But its true.  If you are not able to look at a girl in a sexual way then you will never be really attractive to women.

I (Robbie) used to be terrified at looking an attractive woman in the eye.  I would always get caught stealing a glance or checking her out and feel embarrassed, ashamed and like a little boy.  If I knew a girl liked me or if I was in a relationship I obviously had the confidence to exude my sexuality through my eyes but to strangers, it didn’t happen.

How to look at a woman:  It’s a combination of intrigue, curiosity and turn on.  If you only look at her with a feeling of ‘turn on’ it will usually come across creepy.  But if you leave out the ‘turn on’ completely you will fail to turn her on and it makes everything 100 times harder.

Which is more powerful?

Scenario 1: Guy approaches girl, hes really funny, connects with her, they talk for hours and set up a date.

Scenario 2: Guy and girl catch each others glance and they both feel the spark.  He finds her hovering around his vicinity and he says hi.  They connect and set up a date.

I hope you picked option 2.  The typical pickup dude or aspiring PUA thinks its all about the content of the conversation, WRONG!  Communication is 93% non verbal.  7% is verbal, 35% is tonality and the rest body language and eye contact.  If you can learn how to express yourself through your eyes, you will skyrocket yourself way ahead of the pack.

Eye Contact Drill:

Get comfortable just holding a gaze with a stranger.  Practice looking women in the eye and don’t look away before they do.  Be careful if you practice this with guys because it increases the tension FAST and can start a fight.  Notice what sort of reactions you get from women.  Once you have gotten to the point where you feel comfortable, start increasing the tension.  This exercise just like everything else we talk about at Inner Confidence is all about managing tension.  It’s the key to attraction, for more info, watch the video in our videos & training section of this blog.

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