Question: “If you had to give one tool, concept, or understanding right away to help the guys out there to start to transition into sex more efficiently, what would it be?”

Answer: Seducing a woman is more like a dance or feeling then it is about a technique or knowing what to do.  It’s about feeling into her resistance and dancing with it.  Her resistance aka ‘shit tests’ are part of the dance. Its about taking your time and not rushing it.
The easiest way to move toward sex is to allow yourself to be completely turned on by her.  The more turned on you become while staying grounded or, in other words, letting go of all need for her to validate you, the more attracted she will become.  Emotions are contagious so don’t be afraid to let yourself be turned on by her, just don’t look for anything in return.  Now you can start to dance with sexual tension.  This is where you look for places to raise tension.

Now, the key to playing with tension is to be able to feel it in relation to how it is affecting her and to raise it right to her limits and sometimes maybe just a little beyond.  You can then back off for a bit then raise it again.  Each time you will get closer and closer to sex.  This is where women will often start to through up road blocks.  You might bump into her, look her dead in the eyes for a little to long slide down her forearm and start holding her hand.  Now you can feel the tension building, it’s actually palpable. She is holding your hand, squeezing it back and you look in her eyes again.  The gaze lasts a little longer than last time and again the tension raises so you gently start to lean in for the kiss and suddenly she turns away.  So you take this with stride back up a step or two and then start raising it again.

Eventually, if you don’t lose your calm centered place when she turns away, she will be begging for the kiss.  Continue the dance and don’t rush it.  If you play with tension well (moving two steps forward and one step back) and stay calm in the resistance you will get comments like “you are such a tease  which is her way of saying I want more now.  When figuring out how to dance with tension look at your sense and ask yourself “how can I push into tensions with each sense?”  You might touch to much or in more vulnerable places.  You might check her out in an obvious way.  You might use inference and sexual innuendos… I’m sure you can make some up for taste and smell. The key is that you own your desire, be turned on, connected and in control.  You don’t need her. You have chosen her.