“Always seek to be as objective as you possibly can by seeking out and weighing up all the evidence that supports and goes against your thinking.”

A great mentor of mine named Karl Wolfe, told me that awareness is the first step to change.  In order to be aware, you must be able to think objectively.

A huge mistake I see people make in dating is that they jump to conclusions based on their emotions and try to move forward without knowing or acknowledging their starting point.

It’s like trying to get directions from LA to NY but you aren’t actually in LA, you are in Florida.

I was talking to a client the other day via chat and he was telling me about an experience he had recently on a first date.  They went out, they flirted, she was touching his arm and they were having a great time.

He went in for the kiss and she pulled away and said “Not yet.”  Towards the end of the night he went in again and she said Read more…

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This post is about rounding the bases and I’m not talking about baseball.  Unfortunately, women are labeled as “sluts” in our society if they get too sexual too fast.  It’s an incredibly unfair double standard and unfortunate because it stops them from getting with you even if they really want to.  If you follow the advice below you will be able to physically escalate the interaction without her slut alarm going off.  Obviously this is a win/win scenario for both of you because come on, everyone loves getting booty!

Most guys make the mistake of trying to round the bases by following this formula.

1.  Meet her

2. Talk to her

3. Try to kiss her

4. Hold her hand

5. Play with her boobies

6. Hand up her skirt

7. Get in her pants

8. Slide into home plate

The problem with following this formula is Read more…

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You may have noticed a lot of pushy guys try to con a woman into giving him her number or force his business card on her. If they get the number, they win. If not, they lose. That is why people have a bad reaction to men hitting on women. Women are very savvy to this.

As soon as women feel manipulated or pressured, they will pull away and ignore you. You may or may not be very intuitive and receptive to woman’s signals, but this will help you become more conscious of it, which will make life and dealing with women much easier for you.

Below is a scale called the Attract-O-Meter. On the left side is Aggressive and on the right side is Passive. Most men fall into the “Passive” category.

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Aggressive                                                             Passive

Being passive is tragic, because if you are a passive pushover, you rarely increase the sexual tension and ask women to take the next step, thus robbing them of the experience to be with you. At the same time, you dont want to push women away by being too aggressive. The higher quality women will not tolerate this type of behavior and will walk away.

In the Get Hardwired For Success With Women Intensive you get to practice being sexually forward with beautiful women who will give you feedback.

During the workshop we encourage you to be aggressive so you can see just how far to take things. You would be amazed just how aggressive you can be if you are connected to her and picking up on her sexual cues. I have walked up to women and starting making out with them without saying a word numerous times. A gorgeous woman I met in a bar demanded that I take her home to bed after knowing her for five minutes!  I’m not saying this to brag but simply to illustrate what’s possible.  You have more permission than you think you have if you can handle sexual tension. And I’d rather you experience this in the safety of the workshop so you can really push your limits. Because out in the world, you may get a drink thrown in your face or you may get yelled at.

Now, if you are not so bold with people that they occasionally confuse you with an aggressive pushy guy, you are playing it too safe. As a man, you’ve got permission to be upfront with your intentions if you don’t apologize for it.  That doesn’t mean you have to say anything, it’s more of the energy your exuding.  This is different then being attached. Once you get attached, they may pull away. Now, knowing what to do after they pull away is what separates the men from the boys. In fact, many women will intentionally pull away to “test” you to see just how badly you want them.

If you are not willing to fight for them or stick around when things get intense, how can they trust you? Here is the secret: when you start to get attached, simply admit it by calling it out with a smile. “Im feeling a little bit pushy, but how can you blame me? Look at yourself, how can you not expect me to be turned on?” Just by saying it, you can let it go.

At any given time, the woman you are interacting with may be directing her energy toward you or pulling away from you. Dont worry if she is pulling away from you a little bit. As I said before, she may be testing you, and if a woman does not test you, she is not interested. Women fall in love through resistance, and she has to test you to see if she can trust you with her emotions. If she leans away and every time you come crawling back begging and pleading with her to not be upset or angry with you, she will feel smothered and run.

It is okay to stand your ground, even if she is angry with you. Give her the gift of being angry and allow her to experience her emotions; they will pass quickly if you stop resisting them. Rub your hands together until they get hot and then move them so they are six inches apart. Can you still feel the connection between your hands? That’s like the connection between you and a woman. As your connection gets stronger, they will lean in to the point where your fingertips are touching, and then you may say something to trigger them or they will test you and lean away. You never know, but instead of playing tug-of-war with her, you dance with the sexual tension.

How you respond to her energetic lean away and tests will determine how successful you are with women. Unless you have a really strong lean in, do not ask them to take the next step with you!

In other words, the only time you ask her to take the next step with you, whether that be kissing her, getting her number, asking for a date—make sure you have a strong lean in. When the moment is right and she is leaning in, that is when you go for the kiss.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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In this post, I’m gonna teach you a surefire method to insure that chances of you being flaked on for a date after meeting a woman decrease DRAMATICALLY. I hear guys complain all the time about flaky women.  The problem isn’t that women are flaky, the problem is that you don’t really know how to close the deal.

The formula I’m about to explain that I like to call the ‘Natural Close’ made a huge difference for me when I started using it.  A brilliant teacher of mine named Lance Mason introduced this topic to me when I was coaching for Pickup101 back in the day.  So here is it:

The Natural Close: So you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Most guys make the HUGE mistake of asking for her number and then bailing a few minutes later.  This may be counter intuitive but going for the number is a bad idea because 1 of 3 things can happen.  She can say no, which makes it awkward and is the kiss of death.  She can say yes, hesitantly and give it to you knowing there is no way she is ever gonna return your calls/texts or go out with you but she doesn’t want to hurt your feeling so she gives it to you anyway.  Lastly, she can excitedly give it to you with every intention of seeing you again.  So lets say either option 2 of 3 just happened.  If you don’t have a lot of experience reading woman’s signals then you are probably not really sure how solid the number is.  Most guys then start calling, texting, stalking or sending smoke signals in hopes to turn the number into a date.  When I was doing it this way, 1 out of 5 numbers would convert, not good!  Let me give you a better solution…

NEVER ask for her number!  ALWAYS setup a date instead.  Same scenario, you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Rather then be a chode and ask for her number, get curious about what she likes to do for fun.  Ask her if she plays any sports.  Ask her if she likes video games or arcades.  Ask her if she likes dive bars.  I wrote a list of the top 5 first date ideas so make sure you ask her if she likes those activities.  Example, when I was dating a lot I would always take a woman to the local dive bar by my house which has a ton of fun games to play.  During the initial conversation I would ask her if she likes dive bars and if she would always say yes.  Then I would tell her all about this one in particular:  “There is this ridiculous Dive close to my house, they have the trashiest bar tenders, some are missing teeth, and they have all the best bar games you can imagine, including air hockey.  I am the self proclaimed greatest air hockey player in LA, but if you think you can beat me, I’ll buy you the dive bar special: a nice tall warm glass of their cheapest gin!   At this point, she’ll be laughing and I’ll ask her when she is free to get an ass whipping.  We’ll figure out a date and guess what, then she’ll give me her number and I don’t have to worry about texting, calling or trying to figure out what to do next.  SIMPLE, EASY and WAY MORE FUN!!!

To answer your question, No it doesn’t have to be as elaborate as the example I gave.  Try this one, “You like bowling?” Ok, we’re going, but you’re not allowed to beat me!”  “You like Indian food?  I know this great place, I’m taking you there.” etc…  There you have it, the Natural Close!

What if she won’t commit to a time to meet or isn’t sure about her schedule.  If this happens you can be about 95% sure that SHE ISN’T DIGGING YOU!  That is just her being nice.  Almost everyone has their calendar on their smart phones these days so you can toss that excuse out the window.  If she’s interested and actually doesn’t know when shes free, you can bet your ass that she’ll say something, like “here take my number and call me tomorrow and we’ll figure it out.”  The more experience you have, the easier it will be to tell how she is really feeling.

Last point, after you setup the date and get the number, stick around for a few minutes.  Don’t just bounce or she’ll think you are a scumbag.  In fact, at this point, you know shes into you so why not escalate physically and get that first kiss out of the way or try to take her on an instadate (go somewhere else with her, then and there).

You guys owe me big time for this one!   Go setup some dates!!

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First off, I promise this is not a gimmick or stupid kiss routine!  It’s just a very simple way to find out whether or not shes ready to be kissed.  I learned this one back in the day from my friend Sean Messenger.

All you have to do is start to lean in like you are gonna lay one on her but at the last second rather then go for the lips, go for her ear and whisper her a secret instead.  Don’t worry so much about what the secret is gonna be.  A pretty fool proof one that works every time is “Look at the guy over there, does he look weird to you?”

The key is to notice how her body reacts when you invade her personal space.  Does she lean in or lean away.  If she leans in, your golden and if she leans away shes either not feeling you or shes just not ready yet.  If shes not ready, she needs to be teased more.  In a playful way of course!

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