Archive

Posts Tagged ‘Conversation Skills’

Attraction vs. Connection – What Matters More?

February 2nd, 2011 3 comments

It’s funny how often we make assumptions that lead to action and movement in the completely wrong direction.

“What is your focus in regards to improving your situation with women?

Is it more dates, more confidence, more sex, to find the one, to date multiple women, all of the above…”

“I think I want to focus on having higher quality interactions.”

“What does that mean?”

“I dunno, I guess I want more sex with women I find really attractive.”

“How many interactions with women you find attractive are you having per month?”

“Ten”

“How often do those interactions lead to a date?”

“About two out of ten.”

“How many of those dates result in sex?” Read more…

Share

Get Her To Say “YES!”

January 7th, 2011 2 comments

It’s funny how we make things a lot more difficult then they have to be.  By we I mean men, and what I’m talking about specifically is approaching women.

Has something like this ever happened to you before:

You see a woman you find attractive.

You walk up to her and compliment her and then ask for her phone number or date.  It probably went something like this:

“Hey I just wanted to tell you that you are really beautiful, would you like to have coffee with me?”

She blows you off by either rolling her eyes, flat out saying no or says “Sorry I have a boyfriend.”

You walk away feeling deflated and a little stupid but at least you tried.  Better to walk away having tried then regretting would could have been, right?

I’ve been studying this stuff for a LONG time and during that time I approached thousands of women.  Hundreds of these approaches went Read more…

Share

The Halloween Hookup Guide – Top 5 Tips

October 27th, 2010 2 comments

The second easiest night of the year to meet the fairer sex is upon us.  The easiest is always New Years Eve but Halloween is a very close second.  Here are my top 5 tips and some silly pictures of me over the years in various costumes, feel free to leave a comment making fun of me, but beware, I will probably retaliate!

1.  Your Costume:

Halloween is the one night of the year where you can wear ANYTHING without anyone thinking you are weird.  For example, for the past few years I’ve sported the Team Viagra costume you see in the picture.  But beware, walking around with a fake strap on dildo will surely get a lot of attention and grabs from the ladies.

  • Don’t wear masks! Only creepy dudes wear masks, and the worst ones are the ones that cover your whole face.  Women will typically freaked out in a bad way by a dude approaching her in a Freddy Kruger mask carrying a knife.  If you are just wearing something that covers your eyes, like a power rangers blind fold, that’s  ok.
  • Don’t wear huge, boxy costumes. I’ve seen some guys dressing up in these gigantic costumes: Ipods, One Night Stands (he was wearing a lampshade and had a night stand around his waist), cereal box, etc…  These costumes can be funny and original, but it’s gonna make it really hard to get physically close to women if you are wearing a box around your body.
  • Wear something that shows off your assets. If you are in really good shape, it’s the one night you can get away with going shirtless or wearing minimal clothing so use it to your advantage.
  • If you are interested in hooking up on Halloween night, if your costume has some sort of sexual connotation, it will naturally come up in conversation.

2.  The Venue: Read more…

Share

The #1 Reason Guys Fail When Approaching Women

September 14th, 2010 4 comments

Have you been approaching women but not getting the results you want because you have too much anxiety?

Then read on!

There is a tragic mistake men make over and over when they approach women.

I did it for years without even realizing it.

And a lot of the advice out there actually makes the problem worse.

This mistake leads to more approach anxiety, more rejection and leads most guys to eventually give up on this area of their life.

It’s funny but it took me almost four years to come to this realization even though I had been doing this stuff and teaching it for all that time.

Everyone knows that women are most attracted to confidence, but here’s the conundrum. Read more…

Share

Have You Lost Your Sexual Polarity? – 3 Easy Steps To Get it Back!

September 2nd, 2010 2 comments

There are three ways to meet women, either you engage her, she engages you or someone else introduces you to each other.

This article will teach you how to make an immediate connection and eliminate any nervous or awkward tension during the first 30 seconds of an interaction.

I like to think of the first 2 Seconds – 60 Seconds as the do or die part of the interaction.

Stage 1: Break her bubble (So she realizes she is talking to someone)

Stage 2: Eliminate the “bad” tension if any exists

Stage 3: You are both comfortable, time to create “good” tension.

Stage 1:  Break her bubble.  Most guys get rejected because they fail to break her bubble.  Have you ever been in the middle of something when someone asks you a question out of the blue?

You never hear what they said because your mind was pre-occupied.  I watch guys approach women with hilarious comments and openers but if they fail to break her bubble, she won’t even hear the first 3-6 words that come out of their mouth and will stand there looking confused and say, “Huh?”

When this happens, most guys think that they’ve been rejected, huge mistake!  Make sure you Read more…

Share