There are three ways to meet women, either you engage her, she engages you or someone else introduces you to each other.

This article will teach you how to make an immediate connection and eliminate any nervous or awkward tension during the first 30 seconds of an interaction.

I like to think of the first 2 Seconds – 60 Seconds as the do or die part of the interaction.

Stage 1: Break her bubble (So she realizes she is talking to someone)

Stage 2: Eliminate the “bad” tension if any exists

Stage 3: You are both comfortable, time to create “good” tension.

Stage 1:  Break her bubble.  Most guys get rejected because they fail to break her bubble.  Have you ever been in the middle of something when someone asks you a question out of the blue?  You never hear what they said because your mind was pre-occupied.  I watch guys approach women with hilarious comments and openers but if they fail to break her bubble, she won’t even hear the first 3-6 words that come out of their mouth and will stand there looking confused and say, “Huh?”  When this happens, most guys think that they’ve been rejected, huge mistake!  Make sure you Read more…

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If a woman doesn’t put up at least a small amount of resistance, she isn’t interested in you!

In the video below I demonstrate how to deal with any type of emotional or verbal curve ball a woman throws at you.

This is a tough concept to get at first because most of the time, we think of resistance as something we want to avoid.  Growing up, I did everything possible to avoid these type of situations.

I wanted everyone to like me and I went out of my way to make sure I never offended anyone or said the wrong thing because if I did, I would have to deal with resistance.

When I first started approaching women during the day, I would usually open the conversation with this: “Hi, this may seem random, but I had to tell you that you are really cute.”

99% of the time, she would do one of two things:

1) Thanks! (big smile & she would light up like a christmas tree)

2) Ummm thanks (bored facial expression followed by eye roll to imply “nice try buddy”)

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I dunno about you, but life is a lot more fun when I’m not thinking too hard.  When we are faced with a tough situation that makes us a little uncomfortable, our built in response is to try and think our way through it.  “If we think hard enough, we’ll figure it out and get it right!”  Unfortunately, this is typically not the case.

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from guys is that they don’t know what to say to start a conversation and keep it going with a beautiful woman. Ironically, the more you think about what to say, the harder time you’re gonna have.  So I decided to do some experimenting.  Rather then trying to figure out good stuff to say, why not just spew out the dialogue in your head?  It’s real, it’s honest and you don’t have to try.

So last night I was out with a client who has been absolutely KILLING IT.  He complains that he doesn’t have nearly enough time to spend with all the women that are calling/texting and practically begging to hang out with him.  Good problem to have right?  He was in town for the weekend so we headed out to Colony, one of the posh new clubs in Hollywood.  When I first walked in I wasn’t really in a social mood at all and I quickly went into my head.  I started thinking about a million things at once and I wasn’t having much fun.  In order to stop thinking, you have to start “doing.” So I started chatting up some of the people at the table we were at.  That got me in a social mode and a few minutes later, I was starting to have a lot more fun.  My favorite thing to do at clubs Read more…

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Most people think that flirting is about being funny. The first question I always get after telling people what I do for a living is this: “So what’s your best flirting line?”  That questions drives me nuts because flirting has very little to do with the lines or for that matter, the words.  So I ussually just answer by saying in a really stern and annoyed tone of voice “I don’t flirt!”  Then they giggle and say “That’s not flirting” and I say “Then why are you laughing?”

Flirting is about playing with sexual tension. Your ability to successfully initiate conversations with beautiful woman is dependent on your ability to play with tension.

Here is the definition of Tension: mental or emotional strain; intense, suppressed suspense, anxiety, or excitement.

To explain what this means lets start with an analogy.  Learning how to drive a stick shift (manual transmission car) is exactly like learning how to improve your ability to create intense sexual tension in women.  There are four stages to each of these activities. Read more…

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This post is about rounding the bases and I’m not talking about baseball.  Unfortunately, women are labeled as “sluts” in our society if they get too sexual too fast.  It’s an incredibly unfair double standard and unfortunate because it stops them from getting with you even if they really want to.  If you follow the advice below you will be able to physically escalate the interaction without her slut alarm going off.  Obviously this is a win/win scenario for both of you because come on, everyone loves getting booty!

Most guys make the mistake of trying to round the bases by following this formula.

1.  Meet her

2. Talk to her

3. Try to kiss her

4. Hold her hand

5. Play with her boobies

6. Hand up her skirt

7. Get in her pants

8. Slide into home plate

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Another great tool for having fun flirty conversations is Banter. I first learned this from Lance Mason and it’s an amazing tool.  Below is a compilation of Banter Lines. Instead of memorizing a bunch of random lines, it is much easier, more fun and generates more attraction to use them in the form of a role play described below. Keep in mind, these lines will not work unless you deliver them with the right tone and energy. Its not the lines, its how you say it.

Boyfriend Girlfriend / Married Couple Routines

1.”I was gonna kidnap you to vegas and get us married by elvis, but
nevermind..:)”
2.I’m too high maintenance for you.
3.Careful girl, I’m a heartbreak waiting to happen.
4.Well, It wouldn’t work between us. It’s just not possible. We’d get along
TOO well and the sex would be TOO good.
5.”ok were broken up. i want my cds back”
6.I’m so out of your league
7.Don’t get your hopes up. I’m not easy.
8.”THATS IT! I WANT A DIVORCE! I’m taking the HOUSE and the CAR! You can get the kids”
9.that’s it, im breaking up with you! it is so over. i’m sorry im just a needy
guy and im not getting enough attention.
10.”you are the worst girl friend EVER!” “i feel like i dont even know you
anymore!”
11.Hey! I’m not just some trophy husband you can use for sex! I have feelings
too, you know!
12.”you’re sleeping on the couch tonight!”
13.You: We’re too much a like. We’d never get along
Her: Why?
You: Because we’d never have anything significant to argue about. So we’d
have to make
up petty little things to fight about… And I’d always win.
Her: No you wouldn’t
You: Yes I would
Her: No
You: You see, we’re arguing right now… And you started it
Her: No I didn’t. You did
You: OMG, just let it go. If you’re going to keep acting like this, I will
so have to break up
with you
You: Do you want to have an argument?
Her: No
You: Yes you do

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What if I told you that I could flirt with a girl for 5 minutes plus without her even saying a single word? You would probably think that I’m full of shit but I can and I’m gonna show you how. First off, there is no reason why you would ever need to flirt for 5 minutes or even 2 minutes for that matter if a girl is saying nothing back. If she isn’t saying anything back, she is either completely not interested, or she is laughing to hard to speak. My girlfriend loves when I do this to her. Its really funny, she tells me to pretend like I don’t know her, walk into the room and flirt with her.

OK Robbie, what is this amazing technique?!?!

It’s what I like to call “Flirty Direct.” and its just 1 of 7 different forms of flirting styles that I teach.  Not all techniques will work for everyone because everyone has their own sense of humor and way of communicating.  But in a couple weeks I’ll be releasing an audio program that teaches all 7 in detail so you can pick the one that matches your personality best and perfect it.

‘Flirty Direct’ is basically exactly what it sounds like.  You are showing interest in her in a fun/flirty way and the mindset to have is that you are a victim of her seduction.  What I do, is immediately reprimand her for looking too fucking cute and tell her that she is ruining my day. For example girl walking down the street:

Me: You know I really don’t appreciate what is going on over here.

Her: ??? Huh, what do you mean?

Me: I’m just a nice guy trying to enjoy my day and mind my own business but you had to come over here looking all fucking cuteand ruin everything for me. I mean seriously, how am I supposed to concentrate with these sorts of distractions! ))))))

(The key here is to over exaggerate A LOT! If you don’t, you will look really weird.)

Her: HAHAHAHA I’m sorry

Me: Yeah you better be! I wasn’t prepared for this at all. My dog ate my guide to flirting book and I have nothing. I have absolutely no game at all, and I can’t even get it up!

Her: HAHAHAHAHA

Me: But, I do like romance novels, long walks on the beach, ponies, unicorns and rainbows.

Her: HAHAHA

Me: So you are just gonna sit there and laugh, you are very evil, do you enjoy inflicting this sort of pain on people?

I good literally go on all day. Its a simple formula, call out the elephant in the room which creates humor, then just accuse her of being a seductress and manipulating you. In the example I gave above, she really doesn’t have to say anything and I can just go on all day, but that would never be necessary. I challenge you to send me a scenario that would not work using this model.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Would you say that you have a an alter ego or split personalities? If you are member of the seduction community and having less success then you would like then the answer to the last question is YES! When I first joined the community and became an active “sarger” (Sarge – Lame PUA Lingo for the act of hitting on women) I adopted the mindset that I needed to start approaching and flirting with every hot girl I saw. The pickup gurus somehow brainwashed me to actually feel guilty if I did not approach EVERY hot woman I came across. That’s a lot of guilt! I lived in San Diego so I saw at least 10-20 per day. The guilt got so bad that I would avoid places with attractive women or go to the bars in hopes that none of the women would meet my standards, thus relieving me of my mission to approach them. The front running Pickup Artist company I was working for at the time had a mission called the “Girl of the Day.” It meant that you had to approach the hottest girl you saw NO MATTER WHAT for 30 days. I would go to work, see a hot girl, hit on her, go to lunch, see a hotter girl, hit on her, go to the cleaners, see a hotter girl, hit on her, etc… It’s not just the “Girl” of the day, it turned into the “Girlsssss” of the day. I did not realize that this sort of behavior was creating a split personality or my alter ego pickup persona. There was the normal everyday Robbie and the Pickup Artist Robbie. I was doing a buttload of approaches and only about 15% would result in some sort of exchange of contact information. An even smaller percentage would actually show up on a date so I was doing a lot of HARD WORK and having lackluster results at best.

95% of the men who come to my seminars, say they want to get over Approach Anxiety. When a guy says that to me, I laugh to myself and think “Why, so you can turn into a pickup machine and do lots of hard work for poor results?” Obviously they have a different picture in their mind of what it looks like to have the skills to fearlessly approach any woman they see. In 2 years I went from a guy who never approached a woman I didn’t know to a guy who approached over 2,000 women. I had zero approach anxiety but my results did not increase by 2,000%. In fact they probably only doubled or increased by about 100%. Here’s why: I programmed myself unconscioulsy to create this alter ego pickup artist Robbie guy who could approach any woman in just about any scenario. The problem was that I was acting the whole time and women could sense it. Women have the best bullshit detectors in the world, especially the smoking hot ones that get hit on multiple times per day. Sure I had the balls to approach them but they could see how fake I was even though I was saying the right things and had perfected my routines. The two problems were that the routines were not congruent with my real personality and I wasn’t having fun. I was approaching because I got to the point where it felt better to be rejected then to live with the guilt of being a pussy for not talking to her.

Here’s the solution:

If hitting on women becomes part of your everyday life, you won’t have approach anxiety and your approaches will result in success a much higher percentage of the time. The best way to hit on women is to tease them in a playful way and the beauty of improving your teasing skills is that you can practice on anyone, not just attractive women! When I started teasing everyone, I started having WAY more fun and everyone around me got to share in the fun as well. I started teasing servers, bank tellers, janitors, my neighbors, the mailman, even cops! If you are thinking “This won’t work for me Robbie, I don’t have that kind of personality, I never tease people.” My response is BULLSHIT!!!!! I have never met someone who doesn’t engage in playful conversations with their closest friends. Even if it only happens on a blue moon, you still have it in you, you just may be too scared to bring it to the surface or nervous because you are terrified of upsetting someone. When I started teasing EVERYONE, the pickup alter ego naturally disappeared. I was ALWAYS in flirting mode, or what the seduction community would call, ALWAYS IN STATE!

Example - Location: Subway, lunch time

Sandwich Artist: Can I help you?

Me: Why do you guys have so many options on this menu? Everything here is good, why make my life so damn difficult with all the choices, huh! I could sue for the mental anguish I’m experiencing right now you know that?! What’s better, the tuna or the cold cut combo?

Sandwich Artist: The Cold Cut Combo

Me: Great I’ll have the tuna

Sandwich Artist: LOL!

(Hot girl walks in and gets in line behind me)

Me: I bet your gonna ask me a bunch of questions now like what kind of cheese, bread and dressings I like, I bet you didn’t know I was psychic!

Sandwich Artist: HAHA

Me: You want a reading? I charge $5000 an hour?

Me: (turn to hot girl) What about you, do you want a reading?

Her: LOL, no

Me: Why, you can’t afford $5000?

Her: NO!

Me: That’s too bad because I only date rich girls! Excuse me though, this dude back here has a crush on me I think, he keeps asking me all these personal questions about my sandwich preferences.

Sandwich Artist: Oil Vinegar, salt or pepper?

Me: I dunno, ask her, she’s paying!

Her: No im not!

Me: But, you just said you were rich…

I’m already teasing the sandwich artist so when the cute girl walks in she realizes that I’m fun before I even talk to her and everyone ends up having a great time when they least expected it.  Keep in mind, I’m REALLY good at this sort of teasing and witty banter but I used to SUCK at it.  It just comes with practice and having fun.  But remember the golden rule, you have to do it with everyone! If I don’t do it with the sandwich artist and then the hot girl walks in what happens?  I start thinking “What should I say to her?” Then the sandwich artist interrupts me by asking what type of cheese I want and I lose my train of thought.  So I end up saying something SUPER LAME and everyone knows I’m the creepy guy hitting on the girl in the subway line.  Creepy guys hit on hot women, attractive guys hit on everyone by teasing them!  Here’s a simple technique for teasing people.  Blame them for something they have no control over in a really exaggerated way.  I have tons of simple strategies like this and if it fits your personality, it will work.  I will be releasing an audio program shortly with tons of examples and practice drills so when it comes out, just buy it so I can eat more shitty subway sandwiches!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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My main intention for the guys at the bootcamp was that they all walked away with the ability to attract women by exuding the best sides of themselves.  I’ve seen other guys drop thousands of dollars on bootcamps to learn canned lines, routines and gimmicks and women can spot the bullshit from a mile away.  The amazing thing about attraction, is everyone and I mean everyone is incredibly attracted when they are fully self expressed, having fun and outcome independent (in other words, you don’t give a shit about the outcome).  I made sure to beat them over the head with this mantra:  Have fun and be selfish! In other words, drop the agenda and interact with people for one reason only, to entertain yourself.  Most guys screw up because they are trying to “get something” from women.  This stuff is so simple, it just takes some practice to bring your natural flirty personality to the surface.  Sometimes, you might have some layers of crap covering it up but it doesn’t take long to dig up the gold.  My favorite story of the week was from a guy we’ll call E who was chatting up a girl at Circle Bar.

E: Listen up! You’re gonna have to stop smiling because you are in great danger of being kissed right now.

Girl: HAHA, smiles again.

E: Alirght, you asked for it.

Fireworks……

This article may annoy you because I’m gonna brag, a lot! Eleven students attended my workshop this weekend, “The Pillars of Powerful Openings.”  The workshop was designed to help them create their own unique personal attraction system to rock a woman’s world.  The first day we focused a lot on playful communication, teasing and other tools to have fun, witty conversations that turn women on.  The guys quickly got into the flow of things and before long, every single one of them was blowing me away with thier new found flirting abilities.  Later that evening we headed out for a night on the town.  We hit up Circle Bar and O’Briens Pub on Main Street in Santa Monica.  We had a blast and I was REALLY pleased with the results of the guys both from what I witnessed personally while out and what I heard the next morning when we reconvened.  Out of the eleven guys, about 80% ended up with phone numbers, a few of them ended up making out with some sexy ladies and one student ended up taking a couple girls home with him and his buddy.  What they did at home, I can’t say but he looked pretty happy about it the next morning.   Aside from the stuff I just mentioned that us guys like to brag about, what ACTUALLY MATTERS isn’t the notches on the bedpost, but rather the boost in their inner confidence and sense of personal power.  The Inner Confidence Girls who helped me facilitate by participating with the guys in exercises and gave feedback were really impressed as well.  And this after only 5 hours of drills and exercises

For more info on the workshop, come to my next FREE seminar: “Be Yourself, Have Fun, and Attract A TON of Amazing Women Into Your Life.” Grab your seat fast because space is filling up fast, and I’m not just saying that, go to the page and see for yourself.  Hope to see you then!

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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This post is all about creating a system for success to meet and attract women.  Do you go into conversations with attractive women completely blind and clueless? If so, your results are probably less than stellar.  But sadly, this is the case for about 99.9% of men.  If you are not in the .1%, don’t feel bad you have lots of company and you are in the right place if you want to make the leap toward success.

I’ve always been fascinated by the power of persuasion.  Getting others to do what you want is a pretty powerful skill to have but with great power comes great responsibility.  Are you going to con people and manipulate them into doing something that will affect them negatively or will you use it to create win/win situations to impove your life and the lives of those around you?  The tools are pretty much same, but please use caution…

So what are they, Robbie?  Let me give you quick background.

I started working in sales for a venture capital firm when I graduated from UC San Diego.  My job was to raise large sums of money for high risk/high yield investments.  I basically knew nothing about the product (investments) I was selling but sold a ton of them because I believed in it and my network really trusted me.  The problem was that I always felt very uncomfortable on the phone because I wasn’t sure what to say, how to say it, or how to react to people’s questions, etc… So I started to study sales.  It was fascinating and a lot of fun and I got really good at it.  I noticed that there are a ton of similarities between selling a product and selling yourself.  In fact, in order for anyone to buy a product from you, they have to first be sold on you.  If not, they will go buy it from someone else.  I started studying from the best sales experts in the world and adopting their systems and strategies.  I improved little by little and eventually I developed my own personal style and system that worked much better.  The same exact thing happened when I started studying attraction and how to meet women.  I had trouble getting other people’s methods to work for me and I felt like a phony using canned material and systems created by someone else.  So I said screw it and made up my own.  Did it work, HELL YEAH it worked and it improved my results drastically. Do you want to know what it is?

If you want to know what it is, you are asking the wrong question!  MY SYSTEM WILL NOT WORK FOR YOU! Why?  Because it’s MY system, not yours.  That is why I created a system to help you design YOUR OWN system.  Cool huh!?  I walk men through this step by step process in my free 2 hour seminar “Be Yourself, Have Fun & Attract A Ton of Amazing Women Into Your Life.” so if you are in LA, sign up!

I’m also going to be doing a live tele-seminar soon for the guys who can’t make it to LA so keep a heads up for that.  But let me give you a little taste to help you get started.

Here is the first step:

Take a look at what you are currently doing.  Do you have a system?  Your damn well right you do!!  Everyone has a system whether they are aware of it or not and some systems work so poorly that you would never bother labeling it a system.  The average dude’s system is to engage a woman in conversation by making some ‘chodeball’ obvious comment that she’s heard a gazillion times.  “Wow, its really crowded in here, huh?”  “You out with your friends tonight?”  “Cool place, huh?”  LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME did I mention….. LAME? The next thing they do is ask a douchey interview style question.  “You from around here?”  “So where do you work?”  Also lame.  That system will even be dysfunctional for a guy who looks like Brad Pitt.  It pretty much shows you aren’t original and have no personality.  If you are guilty of this behavior, don’t sweat it, you didn’t know any better an no one ever taught you until now!   It doesn’t mean you are a douche or chodeball, it just means you don’t have a functional system for bringing out the awesome personality you have that only closest friends get to see.  So pat yourself on the back for finding this information because most guys will never have a clue.  What I’m saying is, notice your patterns and how you typically operate.  Think about the last really successful interaction you had with a woman.  How did it go?  What happened?  What sort of things did you say or do that you seem to say or do every time?  These are the steps to uncovering the current system you are using and pinpointing the parts that work and don’t work.

Your assignment is to post a comment below and explain your system and why or why not it’s working for you. If you skip this step, the others will not work and it is the foundation for everything else.   And like I said, I map this out in detail at my free workshop.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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