I dunno about you, but life is a lot more fun when I’m not thinking too hard.

When we are faced with a tough situation that makes us a little uncomfortable, our built in response is to try and think our way through it.

“If we think hard enough, we’ll figure it out and get it right!” Unfortunately, this is typically not the case.

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from guys is that they don’t know what to say to start a conversation and keep it going with a beautiful woman.

Ironically, the more you think about what to say, the harder time you’re gonna have.  So I decided to do some experimenting.

Rather then trying to figure out good stuff to say, why not just spew out the dialogue in your head?  It’s real, it’s honest and you don’t have to try.

So last night I was out with a client who has been absolutely KILLING IT.

He complains that he doesn’t have nearly enough time to spend with all the women that are calling/texting and practically begging to hang out with him.

Good problem to have right?

He was in town for the weekend so we headed out to Colony, one of the posh new clubs in Hollywood.  When I first walked in I wasn’t really in a social mood at all and I quickly went into my head.

I started thinking about a million things at once and I wasn’t having much fun.  In order to stop thinking, you have to start “doing.” So I started chatting up some of the people at the table we were at.

That got me in a social mode and a few minutes later, I was starting to have a lot more fun.  My favorite thing to do at clubs Read more…

In July 2010, I took a Mediterranean cruise with three of my single cousins who are quite suave with the ladies.

There were quite a few single girls on the dance floor and none of the guys on the ship had the nerve to dance with them. 

I can understand why, it’s not easy to approach a woman on the dance floor, especially if you don’t think you are a good dancer.  So what should you do?

Before I had any idea of how the art of flirting and seduction worked I still managed to meet women here and there.

The way I did it was by what the dating community refers to as “cave-manning” on the dance floor.

In English, this means that I would basically just start to dirty dance with a woman and proceed to escalate the interaction physically.

Most of the time, they would get creeped out and walk away when I started humping their leg but occasionally, one would be interested and we’d hit it off.

I certainly had no idea of what to say to a woman to start a conversation so this seemed like the most obvious strategy.  So what can you do instead?

The key is to work the dance floor:
Working the dance floor is just like working the room but instead of talking to everyone, you dance with everyone.  And yes, everyone includes the other guys and women you don’t find attractive.

So how do you do that?  The first step is to simply be yourself.

If you suck at dancing, own your suckiness!

If you are good, own that too.  It doesn’t matter what type of dance moves you are busting out, the key is to simply ping all the people around you by quickly dancing with them and then bouncing to the next person.

Imagine you were going to give a high five to everyone at a crowded bar in the shortest amount of time possible…  You would get the high five and be on to the next person.

Same thing applies on the dance floor.  I consider myself a “fun” dancer.

I’m by no means good and I have very little rhythm.  Luckily, it doesn’t matter because I just go out there and have fun and get crazy.  I do what most other people wouldn’t dare to do and risk looking stupid.

This includes ridiculous moves like the “sprinkler, grocery cart, running man, disco eyes,” etc…

Remember the scene in “Hitch” when Will Smith tells his client do avoid the outrageous dance moves and stick to the boring back and forth hip movement?

Remember what happens?

He breaks the rules and gets the girl.  But remember, if your style is more mellow, don’t try to be someone you are not out there. 

So let me tell you what sort of results you can expect by utilizing this strategy:

This is me ripping it up back in the day! (I’m in the white shirt)

What you are essentially doing when you work the dance floor is opening a conversation with everyone out there in a non-verbal way.

These interactions are very short which gives off the impression that you are not needy, you are just having fun and being social and you are the life (or host) of the party.

Most guys stand awkwardly on the side of the dance floor clutching their drinks while staring at the girls dancing.

They might as well be wearing a t-shirt that says “Hi, my name is Johnny Greaseball.”  CREEPY! So don’t be that guy.

If you take my advice, you will quickly become the most attractive guy on the dance floor because you’ll be having the most fun and women won’t understand why you keep dancing with them and then leaving.

It will make them want to chase after you and that is when you know that you are “In.”

Here’s what I do…
Dance with everyone on the floor for 2-10 seconds each and then go back and dance with my friends and people close around me.

Then I do it again and notice which women are receptive and checking me out, smiling, laughing, etc…

When this happens, I know they are into me so I’ll dance with them a little longer and most of the time they will start to escalate physically with me by grinding on my leg and getting closer.

It’s pretty much on auto-pilot from there.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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Most people think that flirting is about being funny.

The first question I always get after telling people what I do for a living is this: “So what’s your best flirting line?”

That questions drives me nuts because flirting has very little to do with the lines or for that matter, the words.

So I ussually just answer by saying in a really stern and annoyed tone of voice “I don’t flirt!”  Then they giggle and say “That’s not flirting” and I say “Then why are you laughing?”

Flirting is about playing with sexual tension. Your ability to successfully initiate conversations with beautiful woman is dependent on your ability to play with tension.

Here is the definition of Tension: mental or emotional strain; intense, suppressed suspense, anxiety, or excitement.

To explain what this means lets start with an analogy.  Learning how to drive a stick shift (manual transmission car) is exactly like learning how to improve your ability to create intense sexual tension in women.  There are four stages to each of these activities. Read more…

This post is about rounding the bases and I’m not talking about baseball.

Unfortunately, women are labeled as “sluts” in our society if they get too sexual too fast.

It’s an incredibly unfair double standard and unfortunate because it stops them from getting with you even if they really want to.

If you follow the advice below you will be able to physically escalate the interaction without her slut alarm going off.

Obviously this is a win/win scenario for both of you because come on, everyone loves getting booty!

Most guys make the mistake of trying to round the bases by following this formula.

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1.  Meet her

2. Talk to her

3. Try to kiss her

4. Hold her hand

5. Play with her boobies

6. Hand up her skirt

7. Get in her pants

8. Slide into home plate

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Another great tool for having fun flirty conversations is Banter. I first learned this from Lance Mason and it’s an amazing tool.  Below is a compilation of Banter Lines. Instead of memorizing a bunch of random lines, it is much easier, more fun and generates more attraction to use them in the form of a role play described below. Keep in mind, these lines will not work unless you deliver them with the right tone and energy. Its not the lines, its how you say it.

Boyfriend Girlfriend / Married Couple Routines

1.”I was gonna kidnap you to vegas and get us married by elvis, but
nevermind..:)”
2.I’m too high maintenance for you.
3.Careful girl, I’m a heartbreak waiting to happen.
4.Well, It wouldn’t work between us. It’s just not possible. We’d get along
TOO well and the sex would be TOO good.
5.”ok were broken up. i want my cds back”
6.I’m so out of your league
7.Don’t get your hopes up. I’m not easy.
8.”THATS IT! I WANT A DIVORCE! I’m taking the HOUSE and the CAR! You can get the kids”
9.that’s it, im breaking up with you! it is so over. i’m sorry im just a needy
guy and im not getting enough attention.
10.”you are the worst girl friend EVER!” “i feel like i dont even know you
anymore!”
11.Hey! I’m not just some trophy husband you can use for sex! I have feelings
too, you know!
12.”you’re sleeping on the couch tonight!”
13.You: We’re too much a like. We’d never get along
Her: Why?
You: Because we’d never have anything significant to argue about. So we’d
have to make
up petty little things to fight about… And I’d always win.
Her: No you wouldn’t
You: Yes I would
Her: No
You: You see, we’re arguing right now… And you started it
Her: No I didn’t. You did
You: OMG, just let it go. If you’re going to keep acting like this, I will
so have to break up
with you
You: Do you want to have an argument?
Her: No
You: Yes you do

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