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Today I had a great experience of how the work I’m doing with IC improves not just my success with women, but also in business. Over the last two weeks, I’ve done 14 hours of sessions and it’s paying off. I do IT consulting and today I had an appointment at an office filled with women.
Even at work, women love banter. I kept it light since it was at an office, but they ate up anyways. I walk up to the counter:
You kinda look like a Chammie. Are you Chammie?
Girl 1: [Laughes.] No I’m not Chammie.
Girl 2: I’m Chammie!
Oh. You look more like a Channy. [It was a stupid joke, but they both laughed.] Anyways, do you know what Tasha looks like?
[Laughes again.] Yes! Let me buzz her.
Tasha (a white girl) comes around the corner, but is a little preoccupied with some paperwork.
Girl 1: She doesn’t look like a Tasha, does she? She’s not black!
No she doesn’t look like a Tasha, but I’m sure she’s got a diva inside her. [It was extra funny because she was pregnant.]
[Laughes.] Yeah, look at that tummy!
Yeah, she’s all knocked up! [The comment was a little crude for the workplace, but I calibrated from their reactions to my banter that it was OK to be a little more edgy and go there.]
[They laugh hard.]
Tasha: What did you say? [She heard the girls laugh, but didn't hear my comment.]
I said that I knocked on the door and no one answered.
[The two girls at the front desk laugh some more.]
From here, I get walked into the private office where I have my tech stuff to do. I work on that for 30 minutes or so and then the Office Manager woman walks in and is very friendly towards me. (She was in the adjacent office and heard/saw the positive reactions from the girls at the front desk earlier when we were bantering.)
Hey, you work for a tech company. We’re looking to replace our main IT guy because they’re horrible. They’re too small of an operation and can’t handle all the complex stuff we have going on.
Oh yeah. We can do that. I bet they don’t have any company polo shirts like this one I’m wearing.
[Laughes.] No they don’t. And I don’t think they really know what they’re doing.
Yeah, I’m kinda surprised you guys asked me to come in here and sync this BlackBerry using the cable. All our BlackBerries are synchronized wirelessly in real-time nowadays. No one in business uses cables to sync anymore.
Really? You should come over to my house and set mine up like that.
I don’t know…we don’t really do house calls [with a naughty smirk on my face].
Oh…[while processing the sexual innuendo].
[After holding the tension for a couple of seconds] What are you going to make for dinner?
I’m an excellent cook! No meat though. I’m vegetarian. Sometimes I do fish.
Oh that’s awesome. I took vegan cooking lessons for some time. My favorite thing to make is quinoa. I can cook fish too, but not with a pan because I can’t get both sides to cook evenly. I only know how to cook it using my George Foreman Grill.
[Laughes.]
Anyways, what do we do next in order for you to show us what tech stuff you got going on and how we can help?
And the rest of the conversation goes into the logistics of setting up a meeting. I later overhear her reporting to the owner that I’m “amazing!”
All this might sound like I’m tooting my own horn here, but I wanted to share this because it illustrates something interesting that I hadn’t really consciously experienced prior to doing this work with IC. Her excitement about my tech services had virtually nothing to do with my technical ability. In our above conversation, I make one small technical comment and the other 95% of the interaction had nothing to do with technology.
I had a touch of sass with my banter, but was mostly just grounded and connected. And it’s amazing that with just having that way of being, I conveyed competence (the ability to get things done) and authority on my industry. It was more than enough to be considered a strong candidate for replacing their current tech guys and get my foot in the door to get that meeting.
So the moral of the story: This stuff changes not just your dating life, but everything else around it also gets better.
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