About 4 years ago, I went out on a series of date with a beautiful Persian girl.

After the 3rd date, she stopped responding to my texts and phone calls.  This really shocked me because she seemed totally into me and things were going well.

Six months later I decided to send her a text message:

“Hey ____, I’m trying to improve my dating life and I was wondering if you could tell me why you decided to stop seeing me, please be brutally honest, I can take it. Thanks!”

She responded to the text and said that she stopped seeing me because on our last date when I was wearing sandals, she noticed I had really gross and long toenails!

I couldn’t believe it!  I lost a girl due to bad toenails?!?! That was amazing feedback and I really appreciated her honesty because it was from that point on that I really started to pay attention to my grooming and personal hygiene.

If you don’t think it’s important, think again! Here is what my girlfriend, Allison Volk has to say about it:

To the untrained eye, it looks like the man is spending boatloads of money while the woman gets a free ride when it comes to dating.

That may be the case in some instances, but most of the time women are spending just as much to attract the opposite sex… it just looks a little different.

Let’s go on a journey that most men never make, into the woman’s secret world of Read more…

This post comes from my friend, Sarah McDowd.  As you can see in the picture to the left, she is obviously gorgeous and she is also incredibly down to earth, a lot of fun and a really genuine person.

She is a professional model and actor and wrote the article below a few years back because her girlfriends kept getting screwed over by guys they were dating.

Is she single?  Nope, sorry guys she’s actually dating one of my awesome Inner Confidence Coaches, Ryan.

The article is geared for women but it’s always really interesting to hear the perspective from the other side.  Enjoy…

Dating is absolutely what you make it. You can blame the 21st century, you can blame your past relationships, you can blame your parents; you can blame anybody and everybody if you are that determined to have your ego come out unscathed.

Dating should not be about adjusting every facet of your personality to better suit your new partner. It definitely shouldn’t be allowing yourself to be treated like shit, and it should never be the end of your freedom… nor his. Dating isn’t supposed to be bending over backwards just to prove that you can, and are fully willing to at the drop of a hat. Believe it or not… dating is supposed to be enjoyable.

I have never understood the allure of the “bad boy”. I interpret that literally, and really see them for the BAD boys they are. I don’t know why my gender chooses to glorify losers and subject themselves to “relationships” with these fucking douche canoes, but I can say this: you date a jerk and he treats you like shit… good riddance.

Better get the blame-game going, because lord knows it’s not YOUR fault for Read more…

It was a bootcamp that I’ll never forget.

For the first time in over 4 years of coaching, I found an EASY way to teach guys how to confidently approach and attract women in a way that is simple, fun and honest.

On Friday, they learned that women are most attracted to confidence.  I’m a little embarrassed to say this, but I didn’t really know how to define the phrase “Inner Confidence” for quite some time, even though it’s the name of my company.

For the longest time, the meaning of confidence was just an idea or abstract concept I was trying to teach.

It’s not easy teaching something abstract because guess what, you can’t really teach it.

Before last weekend, some guys would walk into my programs and get it and others would walk away a little bit confused.

But then it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I can’t remember what I was doing on the night about 3 weeks ago, but the exact formula for confidence and success with women just popped in my head.  I called one my clients and ran the formula by him.

We spent about 2 hours on the phone and went over every possible scenario trying to prove the formula wrong.  But we couldn’t do it.  I knew I was on to something.  I tested it in field and it worked amazingly well, the only thing left to do was find out how easy it would be to teach.

Turns out, it was even easier then I expected.  When I explained the formula to the guys on Friday afternoon of the bootcamp I could see their heads popping.  They were saying things like Read more…