While playing NCAA collegiate golf for UC San Diego, I got consistently worse over my 5 year college career.

As a senior in high school, I carried a +1.2 handicap.

For those of you who don’t know what that means, I averaged 1 under par per round and shot around 70 the majority of the time. This is just a few strokes worse then professional golfers.

I qualified for the state championship as a junior and won about a dozen events in the Southern California area.

I was recruited to play for UCSD and by the time I graduated college, I averaged in the mid 70′s and carried a 2 handicap.  (which means I shot in the mid 70′s most of the time – which might impress some but is no where close to good enough to compete on a professional level)

My hopes of playing on the PGA Tour quickly faded.

During college, I played at least five rounds of golf per week and practiced on the driving range and putting green everyday.

I also had at least 5 coaches at any particular time. Read more…

What if they don’t like me?

What if they think I’m a jerk?

What if I piss them off?

What if they talk sh*t behind my back?

“I had a realization today,” said Marty, one of my students. “What I realized is that to be successful and confident not everyone is going to like me…

And if I am pushing myself I will most likely annoy and piss some people off because they may see me as a jerk, creepy or arrogant.

But I can’t let that affect how I feel about myself.”

Marty had this realization during a particular incident. He started speaking with a woman who worked in a store. He said something that was sexual and direct. Read more…

Do you know what a wormhole is?

A wormhole is a theoretical passageway in space between a black hole and white hole.

Scientists say that spaceships that get sucked into these time warp passages can be lost for eons.  Wormholes should be avoided… or should they?

When you’re in a wormhole, life sucks.

You feel like crap, everything is difficult, you want to quit but you know you can’t, and your trusty tools you’ve used in the past to turn things around stop working.

I just learned about the concept of a how a “Wormhole” applies to your life from my mentor, Lisa Cherney.  Lisa teaches conscious entrepreneurs how identify their passion and helps them articulate it through their marketing communications.

My most recent wormhole experience started in June of 2010.  I was incredibly frustrated with the state of my business.

Money wasn’t coming, the phone wasn’t ringing, I wasn’t having any fun and I had no idea what to do.

I decided that the solution was to learn marketing.  Not just learn it, but master it!  I had been studying for years and I was pretty good at it, but I knew I needed to step it up and learn from an expert. Read more…

Today we have another excellent post by my good friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety

Nice is predictable. Nice eradicates tension. Nice smooths over conflict.Nice is guaranteed to be inoffensive.

“How are you?” you text her the day after your date.

Nice is not cocky. Nice is not selfish.

Nice picks up the tab. Nice is chivalrous. Nice is polite. Nice is kind because you’re supposed to be kind.

Nice puts her first, because she’s a woman.

Nice doesn’t take the lead because you’re trying to figure out what she wants.

“I’m up for whatever. What do you want to do?”

Nice is that feeling that you can’t keep her guessing. Nice is confessing and confessing and confessing.

Nice is low expectations. Nice is high tolerance.  Nice doesn’t judge. Nice always Read more…

What have you done lately that really scared the shit out of you?

What have you done lately that pushed your comfort zone?

What have you done lately that made you slightly nervous?

If you answered “NOTHING” to the questions above then I’ve got one question for you.  How do you feel right now?

I’ve spent the last week in sunny Florida.

I’m with my girlfriend, visiting my grandparents and her grandparents and also spending some time at Disney World.  I’ve been eating lots of unhealthy food and spending a lot of time playing “Angry Birds” on my new Droid smart-phone.

If you haven’t heard of that game, don’t bother checking it out, it is a tremendous waste of time as are most video games.

I realized this evening that I’ve spent the last few days really beating myself up.  I feel fat, I feel bored, I feel useless and I feel numb.

What is going on? Read more…