One of my clients recently said to me, “I feel like you’ve given me permission to speak my mind.”

He went on to talk about how he had always felt disrespected and belittled by his older brother but now he has the courage to stand up to him and tell him how he feels.

I think that is freaking cool and it has EVERYTHING to do with confidently attracting women.

I used to be the classic “In-Authentic Nice-Guy” you hear about in the seduction community.  I couldn’t handle confrontation so I made sure to keep my mouth shut and avoid pissing people off.

I thought this was a good strategy until I realized the incredibly negative impact this was having on my confidence.

Every time I bit my tongue, it felt like a small part of me died.

Looking back, I can see how things got progressively Read more…

Today we have another excellent post by my friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety

I’ve talked a lot about how problematic it is to be too much of a nice guy.

But how do you know when you’ve crossed the line between nice guy and uncaring asshole?

This is a big fear for guys when they stop being nice and start being “real.”

What if you accidentally go too far?

The answer is that there is no way to know if you’ve gone too far until you actually go too far.

It happens to me all the time. I’m constantly crossing that line between simply being confident and being a selfish dick.

A woman will Read more…

What if they don’t like me?

What if they think I’m a jerk?

What if I piss them off?

What if they talk sh*t behind my back?

“I had a realization today,” said Marty, one of my students. “What I realized is that to be successful and confident not everyone is going to like me…

And if I am pushing myself I will most likely annoy and piss some people off because they may see me as a jerk, creepy or arrogant.

But I can’t let that affect how I feel about myself.”

Marty had this realization during a particular incident. He started speaking with a woman who worked in a store. He said something that was sexual and direct. Read more…

Today we have another excellent post by my good friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety

“Okay, so you got the girl,” guys ask me, “but at what point can you just relax and let your guard down?”

The short answer: Never.

Look at it this way, when can you stop being a man around women and just be submissive and sexless? Never.

Once you get used to it, maintaining the sexual tension in relationships is actually quite easy and fun–as long as you set it up that way from the start.

Much of relationship management is not slipping into nice guy mode and instead always remaining a challenge. And a lot of this is done by being fun and playful.

Here are eight ways to maintain that fun, playful tension in relationships.

How much of an asshole can I be? The running joke is that I’m an asshole. I’m not really an asshole, I just play one around women.

She says she’s sore from working out.  I respond, Read more…

It was a bootcamp that I’ll never forget.

For the first time in over 4 years of coaching, I found an EASY way to teach guys how to confidently approach and attract women in a way that is simple, fun and honest.

On Friday, they learned that women are most attracted to confidence.  I’m a little embarrassed to say this, but I didn’t really know how to define the phrase “Inner Confidence” for quite some time, even though it’s the name of my company.

For the longest time, the meaning of confidence was just an idea or abstract concept I was trying to teach.

It’s not easy teaching something abstract because guess what, you can’t really teach it.

Before last weekend, some guys would walk into my programs and get it and others would walk away a little bit confused.

But then it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I can’t remember what I was doing on the night about 3 weeks ago, but the exact formula for confidence and success with women just popped in my head.  I called one my clients and ran the formula by him.

We spent about 2 hours on the phone and went over every possible scenario trying to prove the formula wrong.  But we couldn’t do it.  I knew I was on to something.  I tested it in field and it worked amazingly well, the only thing left to do was find out how easy it would be to teach.

Turns out, it was even easier then I expected.  When I explained the formula to the guys on Friday afternoon of the bootcamp I could see their heads popping.  They were saying things like Read more…