This post is by my good friend Eric Disco from Approach Anxiety.

The video below (safe for work) is probably one of the scariest things I’ve ever seen. Fresh out of one of my nightmares.

It shows what it’s like to climb to the top of a 1700 foot tower–with no safety lines.

If you had the opportunity, would you climb the 1700 foot tower in the video? Some of you would do it because have balls the size of Texas (or are extremely stupid). But most of you probably would not do it.

That’s your fear acting in a good way.

It’s same fear is trying to keep you alive when you go to talk to women. It’s a remnant of your primal brain telling you to stay alive Read more…

There are three ways to meet women, either you engage her, she engages you or someone else introduces you to each other.

This article will teach you how to make an immediate connection and eliminate any nervous or awkward tension during the first 30 seconds of an interaction.

I like to think of the first 2 Seconds – 60 Seconds as the do or die part of the interaction.

Stage 1: Break her bubble (So she realizes she is talking to someone)

Stage 2: Eliminate the “bad” tension if any exists

Stage 3: You are both comfortable, time to create “good” tension.

Stage 1:  Break her bubble.  Most guys get rejected because they fail to break her bubble.  Have you ever been in the middle of something when someone asks you a question out of the blue?

You never hear what they said because your mind was pre-occupied.  I watch guys approach women with hilarious comments and openers but if they fail to break her bubble, she won’t even hear the first 3-6 words that come out of their mouth and will stand there looking confused and say, “Huh?”

When this happens, most guys think that they’ve been rejected, huge mistake!  Make sure you Read more…

Meet Matthew Vaughn, he’s Claudia Schiffer’s Husband.

She is pregnant in this picture but we all know that her body is insane otherwise!

So how does a guy who looks like that get a girl like her?

Most men would say “It’s because he’s rich! Duh!”  Do you think Claudia needs anymore money?  I think she’s doing quite well on her own and doesn’t have much need to go gold digging.

I’ve never met the guy but just by looking at this picture, you can tell he’s probably not the funniest guy in the world.

So we know that it’s not his looks, it’s not his money, it’s not his sense of humor, so what is it?!

He is GROUNDED!

The best way to describe what being grounded is, is to describe what being grounded isn’t. Read more…

“Always seek to be as objective as you possibly can by seeking out and weighing up all the evidence that supports and goes against your thinking.”

A great mentor of mine named Karl Wolfe, told me that awareness is the first step to change.  In order to be aware, you must be able to think objectively.

A huge mistake I see people make in dating is that they jump to conclusions based on their emotions and try to move forward without knowing or acknowledging their starting point.

It’s like trying to get directions from LA to NY but you aren’t actually in LA, you are in Florida.

I was talking to a client the other day via chat and he was telling me about an experience he had recently on a first date.  They went out, they flirted, she was touching his arm and they were having a great time.

He went in for the kiss and she pulled away and said “Not yet.”  Towards the end of the night he went in again and she said Read more…

If a woman doesn’t put up at least a small amount of resistance, she isn’t interested in you!

In the video below I demonstrate how to deal with any type of emotional or verbal curve ball a woman throws at you.

This is a tough concept to get at first because most of the time, we think of resistance as something we want to avoid.  Growing up, I did everything possible to avoid these type of situations.

I wanted everyone to like me and I went out of my way to make sure I never offended anyone or said the wrong thing because if I did, I would have to deal with resistance.

When I first started approaching women during the day, I would usually open the conversation with this: “Hi, this may seem random, but I had to tell you that you are really cute.”

99% of the time, she would do one of two things:

1) Thanks! (big smile & she would light up like a christmas tree)

2) Ummm thanks (bored facial expression followed by eye roll to imply “nice try buddy”)

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