I often get a lot of questions about specific pickup skills from guys who are trying to improve with women.

“How do I open a mixed 5 set?” (mixed 5 set = a group of 5 people with both men and women)

“How do I isolate my target?” (target = girl I like)

“How do I deal with LMR?” (LMR = resistance women give you before sex)

Do you ask yourself questions like this? If so, you are probably making life much harder on yourself than it has to be.  The language we use creates our context for how we view the world.  Kinda like how a pair of sunglasses makes everything look darker then reality.  If you are writing in pickup lingo (targets, LMR, HB, sets, DHV, etc…) then you are thinking in terms of pickup lingo.  If you are thinking in terms of pickup, it means you are using strategy to meet women.  Even if you are really good at the strategies and a master at the game, you are shooting yourself in the foot!

If you think you need a strategy or game plan, you are telling yourself that you are not good enough as you are.  Women are attracted to one thing Read more…

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What if I told you that I could flirt with a girl for 5 minutes plus without her even saying a single word? You would probably think that I’m full of shit but I can and I’m gonna show you how. First off, there is no reason why you would ever need to flirt for 5 minutes or even 2 minutes for that matter if a girl is saying nothing back. If she isn’t saying anything back, she is either completely not interested, or she is laughing to hard to speak. My girlfriend loves when I do this to her. Its really funny, she tells me to pretend like I don’t know her, walk into the room and flirt with her.

OK Robbie, what is this amazing technique?!?!

It’s what I like to call “Flirty Direct.” and its just 1 of 7 different forms of flirting styles that I teach.  Not all techniques will work for everyone because everyone has their own sense of humor and way of communicating.  But in a couple weeks I’ll be releasing an audio program that teaches all 7 in detail so you can pick the one that matches your personality best and perfect it.

‘Flirty Direct’ is basically exactly what it sounds like.  You are showing interest in her in a fun/flirty way and the mindset to have is that you are a victim of her seduction.  What I do, is immediately reprimand her for looking too fucking cute and tell her that she is ruining my day. For example girl walking down the street:

Me: You know I really don’t appreciate what is going on over here.

Her: ??? Huh, what do you mean?

Me: I’m just a nice guy trying to enjoy my day and mind my own business but you had to come over here looking all fucking cuteand ruin everything for me. I mean seriously, how am I supposed to concentrate with these sorts of distractions! ))))))

(The key here is to over exaggerate A LOT! If you don’t, you will look really weird.)

Her: HAHAHAHA I’m sorry

Me: Yeah you better be! I wasn’t prepared for this at all. My dog ate my guide to flirting book and I have nothing. I have absolutely no game at all, and I can’t even get it up!

Her: HAHAHAHAHA

Me: But, I do like romance novels, long walks on the beach, ponies, unicorns and rainbows.

Her: HAHAHA

Me: So you are just gonna sit there and laugh, you are very evil, do you enjoy inflicting this sort of pain on people?

I good literally go on all day. Its a simple formula, call out the elephant in the room which creates humor, then just accuse her of being a seductress and manipulating you. In the example I gave above, she really doesn’t have to say anything and I can just go on all day, but that would never be necessary. I challenge you to send me a scenario that would not work using this model.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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Playing a Smart Game: Strategies on how to make meeting women easy
For years I tried to be a pickup artist, approaching girls all the time, taking bootcamps, struggling and working hard to learn tactics, how to get over approach anxiety. While the efforts have paid off, I’m here to say that there is an easy way. Yes, that’s right. I am here to tell you it’s not supposed to be hard.

Focus on Strengths

As a kid, your parents often tell you “work hard and you can achieve anything!” You can achieve anything but some things will come easy and some will be much more difficult. The truth is, each one of us has our own strengths and weaknesses.  Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Some of us are naturally funny, some of us are great listeners, some of us are great at math. Whatever it is, find ways to incorporate these attributes into your game.

Try Multiple Action Plans
One of the best advice I got recently was from a book called “Rework”. It said something along the lines of “don’t call it a marketing plan or sales plan or business plan — call it a marketing guess or a sales guess or a business guess.” Similarly, all guys who are trying to meet women have their own, what I called Meeting Women Action Plans. For example, a guy will come in saying he wants to only meet women at bars and he’s do that for years often with mediocre success. The biggest error is to stick to one plan for a long time. Even guys who are good at meeting women at, say bars, should be changing up their action plans to see

1. If there is another plan would help them be more successful at meeting women
2. Pushing their comfort zone (if you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not growing).

The cold approach is often one of the hardest things to do (which is why few men ever do it at all in their entire lives!). Try cold approaching for a few months, try being a networking commando, try taking salsa lessons, try running a meetup group. Whatever it is, have multiple plans. Eventually you’ll find something you’re having fun with and meeting lots of women at the same time.

Avoid The Path of Most Resistance.

Oftentimes we take the path of most resistance. We’re trained to do this as kids. “Dont quit!” our parents say. And we keep working harder and harder at things we suck at. It’s called “brute force” as well. Sometimes it works. Often, its just painful.The same is true with meeting women.Seek the path of least resistance.If you’re having massive approach anxiety approaching super hot girls, maybe start off talking to whoever you can. Get used to that. If you hate going to bars and clubs to meet women, stop doing that! Pick something you enjoy doing. Ignore advice that tells you you must be a club superhero, when your history has shown you’re better at meeting women at singles mixers. Work with what you’re good at, then work up.

Recognize you’re style
For some guys being funny is their thing. For others, its having a deep connection. For others its holding tension. Whatever your style is, own it. While a lot of dating advice is geared at making you a more “attractive man” (whatever their concept of an attractive man is), recognize that you have a lot of amazing traits already. Heck, ask us! We’ll point them out for you if you’re having a hard time. Whatever it is, don’t try to be something or someone else. Recognize you have a unique style. Build on what you’ve got.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer

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In this post, I will explain how you can tap into your passion and creativity to have more fun and create more structure to get things done and accomplish your goals !  You know my motto, if it’s not fun, don’t do it!

If you have ever wondered how you can become more masculine and attractive to women then I suggest reading on.

Let’s use the example of a painting.  If you look at a painting, the frame would be the structure and the painting would be the creativity and passion.  We live in a world of duality, up and down, left and right, masculine and feminine.  So if you want to have more fun you must also add in more structure.

If you only have passion, but no structure or vice versa, you will be a very ineffective person.  For example, let’s say you are really good at being an accountant because you can crunch numbers all day long.  This is a very structured activity because you are accomplishing a pretty mundane task.  If you don’t have access to passion and ability to create, you will struggle to create relationships and your life will be nothing but tedious work.  You will never get promoted because your boss won’t have a connection with you and you will never have any fun because you don’t know what fun is if you are disconnected from your passion.  Conversely, if you have lots of access to your passion and creativity but little structure in your life, you may find yourself without a sense of purpose or direction in life.  You may have a lot of connections and creative ideas, but none of them ever turn into anything.  It’s like the guy who has amazing ideas for a book but never sits down to write it.  So you must be able to turn your creative ideas into tangible tools or information that delivers value to others.

Example: I am really passionate about dating and attracting women, so I blog about it and offer my services to others to help them become more successful.  I get to have fun while getting things done all day long!  So here’s a simple set of strategies to turn this information into transformation by taking action:

Look at the activities that take up most of your time.  Are you getting things done without having fun or are you having a lot of fun but getting very little done?  If you answered the former, you need to add in some passion and creativity and if you answered the latter, you need more structure.  Once you’ve identified it, brainstorm some ideas for adding in the ingredients you are missing.

So how does this relate to you?  Where are you lacking and what is the impact on your life and inner confidence?

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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This post is all about creating a system for success to meet and attract women.  Do you go into conversations with attractive women completely blind and clueless? If so, your results are probably less than stellar.  But sadly, this is the case for about 99.9% of men.  If you are not in the .1%, don’t feel bad you have lots of company and you are in the right place if you want to make the leap toward success.

I’ve always been fascinated by the power of persuasion.  Getting others to do what you want is a pretty powerful skill to have but with great power comes great responsibility.  Are you going to con people and manipulate them into doing something that will affect them negatively or will you use it to create win/win situations to impove your life and the lives of those around you?  The tools are pretty much same, but please use caution…

So what are they, Robbie?  Let me give you quick background.

I started working in sales for a venture capital firm when I graduated from UC San Diego.  My job was to raise large sums of money for high risk/high yield investments.  I basically knew nothing about the product (investments) I was selling but sold a ton of them because I believed in it and my network really trusted me.  The problem was that I always felt very uncomfortable on the phone because I wasn’t sure what to say, how to say it, or how to react to people’s questions, etc… So I started to study sales.  It was fascinating and a lot of fun and I got really good at it.  I noticed that there are a ton of similarities between selling a product and selling yourself.  In fact, in order for anyone to buy a product from you, they have to first be sold on you.  If not, they will go buy it from someone else.  I started studying from the best sales experts in the world and adopting their systems and strategies.  I improved little by little and eventually I developed my own personal style and system that worked much better.  The same exact thing happened when I started studying attraction and how to meet women.  I had trouble getting other people’s methods to work for me and I felt like a phony using canned material and systems created by someone else.  So I said screw it and made up my own.  Did it work, HELL YEAH it worked and it improved my results drastically. Do you want to know what it is?

If you want to know what it is, you are asking the wrong question!  MY SYSTEM WILL NOT WORK FOR YOU! Why?  Because it’s MY system, not yours.  That is why I created a system to help you design YOUR OWN system.  Cool huh!?  I walk men through this step by step process in my free 2 hour seminar “Be Yourself, Have Fun & Attract A Ton of Amazing Women Into Your Life.” so if you are in LA, sign up!

I’m also going to be doing a live tele-seminar soon for the guys who can’t make it to LA so keep a heads up for that.  But let me give you a little taste to help you get started.

Here is the first step:

Take a look at what you are currently doing.  Do you have a system?  Your damn well right you do!!  Everyone has a system whether they are aware of it or not and some systems work so poorly that you would never bother labeling it a system.  The average dude’s system is to engage a woman in conversation by making some ‘chodeball’ obvious comment that she’s heard a gazillion times.  “Wow, its really crowded in here, huh?”  “You out with your friends tonight?”  “Cool place, huh?”  LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME did I mention….. LAME? The next thing they do is ask a douchey interview style question.  “You from around here?”  “So where do you work?”  Also lame.  That system will even be dysfunctional for a guy who looks like Brad Pitt.  It pretty much shows you aren’t original and have no personality.  If you are guilty of this behavior, don’t sweat it, you didn’t know any better an no one ever taught you until now!   It doesn’t mean you are a douche or chodeball, it just means you don’t have a functional system for bringing out the awesome personality you have that only closest friends get to see.  So pat yourself on the back for finding this information because most guys will never have a clue.  What I’m saying is, notice your patterns and how you typically operate.  Think about the last really successful interaction you had with a woman.  How did it go?  What happened?  What sort of things did you say or do that you seem to say or do every time?  These are the steps to uncovering the current system you are using and pinpointing the parts that work and don’t work.

Your assignment is to post a comment below and explain your system and why or why not it’s working for you. If you skip this step, the others will not work and it is the foundation for everything else.   And like I said, I map this out in detail at my free workshop.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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In this post I’m gonna share my 4 Step Process for eliminating procrastination! For as long as I remember, I’ve been a procrastinator.  But last week I noticed that I put off some activites and dive right into others.  You’re probably thinking, duh!  Big freakin whoop, Robbie, tell me something I don’t know.  To take it a step further, I realized that I really put off things I don’t know how to get started on.  I remember a few years back when one of my goals was to approach at least 1 beautiful woman a day during my lunch break.  When I first started, I would think of every excuse why not to and I ended up not doing it – procrastination at its finest.

I realized that the biggest excuse I used was “I don’t know what to say.”  The funny thing was that everytime I actually did it, something random just spilled out of my mouth and that excuse was total bullshit but it still stopped me in my tracks.  So I decided to eliminate that excuse by doing the same approach to get started everyday.  I would just find a cute girl, walk up and say “hey this is totally random, but I think you are really cute.” Sometimes I would immedietely walk away, sometimes I would stay and talk and sometimes I would puss out and not do it at all, but I realized that eliminating that excuse, eliminated procrastination.

I also noticed myself procrastinating when it comes to work.  There were a couple documents I needed to create last week pertaining to an upcoming workshop I am leading and I kept putting it off.  I realized that I was putting it off because I didn’t know how to get started.  I noticed what I was doing and decided to try something new.  Rather then trying to push against the resistance like usual, I came up with a new solution.  I decided to devote 15 minutes and not a minute longer to the project.  It was just a way to get started that eliminated the feeling of overwhelm.  When I did this, I realized that the task was way easier then I thought and the anxiety and procrasination about doing it went right out the window.  I wanted to keep going but I kept my word about only doing it for 15 minutes, so I took a 2 minute break and then finished it.

I’m not claiming to be an expert on procrastination but if you find yourself dealing with the same sort of thing as me, give my method a try and if it works, PLEASE TELL ME ABOUT IT!

Here is the 4 step process broken down:

1. Notice why you are resisting a certain activity

2. Ask yourself what you need to get started

3. Devote a small period of time to take 1 step toward getting the project started

4. Keep your word

Step 4 is really important. If you follow steps 1-3 and you are still having trouble and feeling like crap, make sure you take a break to avoid burning out and getting more frustrated.  Simply take a break, and start over with steps 1-3.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer

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This article is about avoiding the common trap of the “chase” mentality that most men fall into and what to do instead to get women chasing you.  I’m also gonna talk about why women flake and how to put an end to it once and for all. The beauty of this topic is that it relates perfectly to sales, which is why im going to give you an analogy to clarify. You’re also gonna get quized!

Let’s say you are selling timeshares (vacation property) and I am an interested customer you meet at a convention. Your job is to look at the two scenarios below to decipher which is a more effective interaction.

Option 1:
You: Hi, do you have any questions about the properties?
Me: Yes, I am interested in the properties in the Mazatlan, how much are they?
You: They range from $300/month to $1500/month.
Me: Ok, and what comes with that?
You: All the homeowner fees, full use, gardening, maintenance.
Me: Great, i’m gonna think about it and let you know.
You: Ok, is there anything specific that you want to think about that will make your decision easier?
Me: Yeah, actually, I was wondering if some of the other companies are offering better deals.
You: I’m not 100% sure, we have the best deals that I know of, but if you can find one better, I’de be more then happy to match and beat it by 5%.  Would you like me to do a little research and let you know?
Me: OK great, thanks.
You: Is there anything else you need to consider before moving forward?
Me: Umm, im not sure…
You: Well, why don’t you think it over and I’ll follow up with you next week. Is that enough time for you to decide?
Me: Yeah thats great…

Option 2:
You: Hi, do you have any questions about the properties?
Me: Yes, I am interested in the properties in the Mazatlan, how much are they?
You: I’m so glad you asked, they range from $300/month to $1500/month. Some come with a pool, exercise room, cabana, full maintenance included. You should see the views on some of them, they are magnificent and there are some of the best golf courses around really close by. You would love it! Let’s get you started on the paper work alright!
Me: I’m not so sure im ready just yet, do you have any information I can take to look over?
You: Sure, here is a brochure and my business card if you have any questions, feel free to call.
Me: Great, thanks for the help…
You: Let’s follow up next week when are you free?
Me: I don’t really know my schedule, but I’ve got your business card so I’ll get back to you. Thanks.
You: You’re welcome, you’re really gonna love the properties, they are the best out there, looking forward to hearing from you.

So which strategy is more effective? Option 1 for many reasons but the main reason being that you (the salesman) simply answered the questions that were asked and got the customer (me) to commit to a follow up conversation. The salesman did it without being pushy or aggressive either. In Option 2, the mistake the salesman made was answering questions that were not asked and making assumptions about the customer (that they like golf, cabanas, views). They also failed to gain a commitment from the customer. Hopefully you noticed that you as the salesman from option 2 was pursuing me, the customer. When you pursue someone, they only have two options. They can either RESIST or they can SUBMIT. Can they pursue you if you are pursuing them? NO!! This is the mistake almost everyone in sales and almost every man who chases women make.  You can never get women to pursue you if you are always in pursuit.  So what can you do instead?

When you meet women, in essence you are selling yourself so the same basic rules apply.  Rather then pursuing, you can make offers and give them a choice.  Notice how in Option 1, the salesman simply answered questions and made an offer based on the customers needs?  A successful interaction with a woman would look something like this:

-Flirting (you are having fun and providing everyone around you value, thus your value and her attraction for you goes up)

-Connecting (the two of you are finding out if you connect emotionally and enjoy each others company)

-Future Projection (setting up a date, increasing sexual tension if you want to have fun that night, etc..)

-Make an offer, she accepts or rejects.  If she rejects but is still interested, she will counter offer.  If not, you can be pretty sure she isn’t interested and you screwed up one of the earlier steps.

Here’s one more example, you decide which is better… (assume that you think she is already attracted to you)

Option 1:

You: So here’s the deal, I’m gonna take you to this awesome little dive bar next week, but you have to promise to let me beat you at pool because I can’t take the damage to my ego.

Her: No way, i’m gonna kick your ass.

You: We’ll see about that, I’m pretty good and I cheat!

Her: haha, whatever so do I.

You: What day is good for you next week?

Her: I’m not sure, i’m pretty busy but lemme check my schedule when I get home.

You: Ok, what’s your number, we’ll figure it out later.

Her: Ok, its (658) 343-eryx

Option 2:

You: So here’s the deal, I’m gonna take you to this awesome little dive bar next week, but you have to promise to let me beat you at pool because I can’t take the damage to my ego.

Her: I hate dive bars.

You: We’ll aren’t you sassy, we can go somewhere else instead if you want?

Her: Yeah we’ll see, im super swamped at work right now so we’ll have to figure it out later.

You: What day is good for you next week?

Her: I’m not sure, i’m pretty busy.

You: Ok, what’s your number, we’ll figure it out later.

Her: I don’t think my boyfriend would like it if I gave it to you.

You: Oh come on, he doesn’t have to know.

Her: Ok, ill seeya later. Bye.

OK THIS ONE WAS OBVIOUS! But I wanted you to see the obvious difference.  If you go out and watch for this, you will see this type of interaction constantly because most guys simply don’t get it.  In option 1, you were making offers and giving her the space to either say yes or make a counter offer.  In option 2, you were only pursuing and her only option was to at first submit, and later resist.  If you are getting flakes, it is because they are submitting.  People submit when they know they can back out later and they resist otherwise.  Think of some examples where you were the in the position of the person being sold to and leave a comment about your experience.

Cheers,
Robbie

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This thread is about setting up your lifestyle for a ton of PASSIVE SOCIAL INCOME (credit: James Marshall – The Natural Lifestyles). Or in other words, having a lifestyle that brings you attractive women while you’re sitting on your couch.  It is an exchange between a couple of my members of the Inner Confidence Forums.

Brando Asks:

I’m bored on a friday night.  i went to the beach and did some thinking…

I was thinking again about a friend of mine who’s trying to be a dj.  i was imagining the lifestyle he is trying to go for.  how he has a clear vision — he can even make a vision wall for it.  A DJ in front of a massive crowd of people.  I can’t seem to imagine a lifestyle for myself.  a dj sets the stage, the venue.  he is the “leader” of the party.  by default he gets status and chicks.  I don’t want to be a DJ cuz i don’t think that’s super fun for me.  my friend, will have fun djing, he wont be in his head, and he’ll have tons of chicks.

How do i have fun meeting people?  is there some activity or something that makes it less like a chore?  where can i meet tons of women — based on who i am?  I can’t think of ideas.  I can’t imagine a vision!  It used to have a vision of being a “pickup artist” who could approach women on the streets and get tons of dates, but I’ve never been good at it cuz i’m always so agenda based. Do you guys have any ideas?

C-Dub (One of my All-Star Students) Responds:

Looks like there are two goals here.  You want to do something that a bunch of women are into.  And you want to do something that’s fun for you.  In an ideal world, this activity has both qualities.  For example, a lot of hot chicks are into fashion.  So something you can do is become a fashion designer, but that might not be fun for you.  On the other hand, you might like hunting deer.  But on the down side, there probably aren’t a lot of hot chicks that are into killing animals.  So where do you start?  Since you don’t know yet what’s fun for you, you start from both ends until you find something.

From the girl end:
Describe your ideal woman.  Then think about what your ideal women likely does for fun.  Start doing those things.  For example, if you like a girl who is fit and can move her body, then start taking dance lessons.  There are free classes at most gyms.  Hopefully you’ll find one of these activities that your chicks are into as fun for you too.

From your end:
Start doing things that you think you’d have fun doing irrespective of whether chicks are into it.  A bookstore probably has all the good categories/topics covered.  (Another good source is 43Things.com.)  Go in there, give yourself a 30-minute deadline and come out with a list of the top 5 things.  Commit to investing a minimum of something like 10 cumulative hours into each of those 5 activities before deciding whether you want to dump it or continue.

Bottom line
Pick something and start doing it.  Two things I’ve noticed about you is that you can really improve on your decisiveness and commitment.  Decide on something, anything, even if it’s wrong because a wrong decision will likely lead to a right decision, whereas no decision likely leads to nothing.  Then do it for a sufficient amount of time.  Don’t be ADD like a chick.  Stop “being” and start “doing” or else I’m going to slap you.

I couldn’t have said it any better myself!  This is great advice and anyone in the same boat as Brando should take it!  Don’t wait until later, do it now and post a comment about what you’re going to do!

Also, joining the forums is FREE, just create a username and password and gain access to free advice from expert coaches and successful clients.  Inner Confidence Forums

-Robbie

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This post is about creating a lifestyle that draws beautiful women to you without any extra work on your part. I’m gonna walk you through my step by step process I created to get more dates with minimal effort rather then going out and stressing about meeting women at a nightclub.

I’m gonna call it Passive Opening as opposed to actively going out to meet women (‘sarging’ in pua lingo). I like to make the analogy that meeting women is kinda like sales because you are always selling yourself. If you are in sales, you can either go out, hit the street and hustle or you can setup a website with a sales page, drive traffic to it and make money in your sleep. If you do a little of both, you increase your success.

The beauty of today’s society is that we are becoming increasingly social by never leaving the house or office. Social media allows us to interact with 100′s of our friends and others via facebook, twitter, match.com etc… The trap is when you decide to never actually go out because you lose your ability to think on your feet, be witty and experience life outside your comfort zone. Here is what I did.

Step 1: Get comfortable in social situations, or in other words, get out of your house! Here are two great exercises to get you past the fear of interacting with strangers. 1. Talk to 100 people in less then 2 hours. I don’t care how you do it, just do it. 2. Go to a bar by yourself and just stand around. You may be thinking, Robbie these exercises are lame and stupid I would feel like a douchebag doing them! Well, you’re right! The exercises are designed to push your comfort zone, that’s it! If you talk to 100 people and 99 of them tell you to get lost or ignore you completely, then your doing something wrong and your basic social skills need to be calibrated. The standing at the bar exercise is great, because you’ll realize that no one really gives a shit about anyone except themselves. Trust me, the hot girl is way to preoccupied making sure her boobs look good to care whether or not you came with anyone. If you already feel confident in social situations you can skip this step but I recommend it anyway because it did wonders for me. Beware, if you are not social calibrated and you skip this step, the next steps will not work you.

Step 2: Build your online social circle. If you are already spending lots of time online and chances are high if you are reading this, then start interacting with your friends more on facebook. You can take this a step further by creating a blog about your passion and writing about it. Don’t judge your passion, there is no such thing as a lame passion. I don’t care if you are passionate about World of Warcraft, it doesn’t matter. But if you blog about something you’re not passionate about, you will get bored. So why blog? Because you are creating value for others and building your own personal brand. To learn more about building your personal brand and why it’s the absolute best thing you could do for yourself, read Gary Vaynerchuk’s book “Crush It.” In a short period of time, you will be connected with tons of people who are interested in what you have to say.

Step 3: Turn your online social circle into your face to face social circle. Create a profile page on Meetup.com and start attending events that look fun for you. You can meet like minded people and attend events that are right up your alley. It’s great because everyone is a stranger so they usually have ice breakers so you can meet new friends easily. It’s like going to a bar full of people who are just like you. Need I say more?

Step 4: Take it to the next level by hosting your own events. As the host, you are the MAN! No one in the room is more sought after then you and everyone is vying for your attention. You can throw parties or setup your own meetup group about your passion. For an example, check out mine: http://meetup.com/innerconfidence I setup mine for business but I also have one for one of my favorite hobbies – Golf: http://www.meetup.com/Serious-Golfers/. The better your events are, the more people will show up and pretty soon, you’ll be at the top of social food chain.

Step 5: Reap the Rewards. Remember, it’s all about FUN! If it’s not fun, don’t do it.

So there you have it. If you combine these 5 steps with your typical social activities, you will meet a LOT more women and increase your social circle exponentially. If you have any questions, please leave a comment and let me know if you start a blog so I can track your progress.

-Robbie

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In this post, I’m gonna teach you a surefire method to insure that chances of you being flaked on for a date after meeting a woman decrease DRAMATICALLY. I hear guys complain all the time about flaky women.  The problem isn’t that women are flaky, the problem is that you don’t really know how to close the deal.

The formula I’m about to explain that I like to call the ‘Natural Close’ made a huge difference for me when I started using it.  A brilliant teacher of mine named Lance Mason introduced this topic to me when I was coaching for Pickup101 back in the day.  So here is it:

The Natural Close: So you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Most guys make the HUGE mistake of asking for her number and then bailing a few minutes later.  This may be counter intuitive but going for the number is a bad idea because 1 of 3 things can happen.  She can say no, which makes it awkward and is the kiss of death.  She can say yes, hesitantly and give it to you knowing there is no way she is ever gonna return your calls/texts or go out with you but she doesn’t want to hurt your feeling so she gives it to you anyway.  Lastly, she can excitedly give it to you with every intention of seeing you again.  So lets say either option 2 of 3 just happened.  If you don’t have a lot of experience reading woman’s signals then you are probably not really sure how solid the number is.  Most guys then start calling, texting, stalking or sending smoke signals in hopes to turn the number into a date.  When I was doing it this way, 1 out of 5 numbers would convert, not good!  Let me give you a better solution…

NEVER ask for her number!  ALWAYS setup a date instead.  Same scenario, you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Rather then be a chode and ask for her number, get curious about what she likes to do for fun.  Ask her if she plays any sports.  Ask her if she likes video games or arcades.  Ask her if she likes dive bars.  I wrote a list of the top 5 first date ideas so make sure you ask her if she likes those activities.  Example, when I was dating a lot I would always take a woman to the local dive bar by my house which has a ton of fun games to play.  During the initial conversation I would ask her if she likes dive bars and if she would always say yes.  Then I would tell her all about this one in particular:  “There is this ridiculous Dive close to my house, they have the trashiest bar tenders, some are missing teeth, and they have all the best bar games you can imagine, including air hockey.  I am the self proclaimed greatest air hockey player in LA, but if you think you can beat me, I’ll buy you the dive bar special: a nice tall warm glass of their cheapest gin!   At this point, she’ll be laughing and I’ll ask her when she is free to get an ass whipping.  We’ll figure out a date and guess what, then she’ll give me her number and I don’t have to worry about texting, calling or trying to figure out what to do next.  SIMPLE, EASY and WAY MORE FUN!!!

To answer your question, No it doesn’t have to be as elaborate as the example I gave.  Try this one, “You like bowling?” Ok, we’re going, but you’re not allowed to beat me!”  “You like Indian food?  I know this great place, I’m taking you there.” etc…  There you have it, the Natural Close!

What if she won’t commit to a time to meet or isn’t sure about her schedule.  If this happens you can be about 95% sure that SHE ISN’T DIGGING YOU!  That is just her being nice.  Almost everyone has their calendar on their smart phones these days so you can toss that excuse out the window.  If she’s interested and actually doesn’t know when shes free, you can bet your ass that she’ll say something, like “here take my number and call me tomorrow and we’ll figure it out.”  The more experience you have, the easier it will be to tell how she is really feeling.

Last point, after you setup the date and get the number, stick around for a few minutes.  Don’t just bounce or she’ll think you are a scumbag.  In fact, at this point, you know shes into you so why not escalate physically and get that first kiss out of the way or try to take her on an instadate (go somewhere else with her, then and there).

You guys owe me big time for this one!   Go setup some dates!!

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