One of the most challenging hurdles that stop most men is fear. While a powerful, confident man acts in spite of fear, most men let fear stop them.

When you let fear run your life, you rarely take action and action is the bridge between what you want in your life and what you have.

Let’s take the example of men who spend more time talking, strategizing, and debating tactics of how to meet women on message boards than actually spending time talking to women.

I’m sure you have heard of the famous 80/20 rule.
80% of your results come from 20% of your actions. If you are committed to a life full of happiness with women and you are not spending at least 80% of your allocated time interacting with them, you will have mediocre results at best.

Guys that spend 80% of their time thinking about women but 20% or less of their time taking action never really improve. Start by learning to face your fears, little by little.

This process is called managing tension. If you really want to grow and develop yourself as an attractive man, you must take at least one action a day that is outside of your comfort zone.

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This post is from one my clients who has come along way in the past few months.

I can certainly relate to it and you probably can too…

Looking back on my journey with dating, I think I’ve realized the major flaw in how I approached meeting women.

Guys who want to get good with women usually come from a place of scarcity.

Meaning that they haven’t had a girlfriend in a while or they haven’t had sex in a while.

They aren’t happy with either the women they have or the women they don’t have.  They want to improve on how they attract more women.  So what do guys do?  They focus on how to get women, how to attract them, what to do, what to say.. etc.

This seems to make logical sense.  The idea is: “Hey I don’t have women, let me focus on how to get women.”

The key problem in my journey was I followed the same strategy.  I started making women the focus of my life and obsessed about how to meet women, what to say, how do I approach them, etc.  Now, while I have learned a lot on my journey, I wish I had made a simple shift in how I was approaching things.

Training your mind
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Think about the last time you were confronted with a difficult task.

Did you find yourself torn between following a set of rules or using a technique versus winging it and going with your gut and what feels right?

If so, then this post will help you improve your confidence when you are faced with a similar problem the next time around.

For example, let’s take the problem of approaching a woman and asking her out on a date.

If you don’t feel exceptionally confident doing this, chances are you’ve searched for advice on this topic.  You may even be reading this post for this exact reason.

Odds are, if you searched on Google, you found a gazillion articles that all say that they have the solution.  But if they all say that have the solution and there are a gazillion of them, you know that most of them are wrong.

Sadly, a HUGE problem I see in the dating industry is that guys simply have too much information that is conflicting.

There are so many methods and gurus out there all offering the same thing in a different way that it is almost impossible to cut through all that noise and find answers that work for you. It doesn’t matter if you’re searching for Read more…

Meet Matthew Vaughn, he’s Claudia Schiffer’s Husband.

She is pregnant in this picture but we all know that her body is insane otherwise!

So how does a guy who looks like that get a girl like her?

Most men would say “It’s because he’s rich! Duh!”  Do you think Claudia needs anymore money?  I think she’s doing quite well on her own and doesn’t have much need to go gold digging.

I’ve never met the guy but just by looking at this picture, you can tell he’s probably not the funniest guy in the world.

So we know that it’s not his looks, it’s not his money, it’s not his sense of humor, so what is it?!

He is GROUNDED!

The best way to describe what being grounded is, is to describe what being grounded isn’t. Read more…

A few months ago I was being interviewed by Vince Kelvin for a short segment for the 2010 PUA World Summit.

One of the other guys on the call was James Marshall. http://thenaturallifestyles.com When James started speaking I was not only really impressed by his content but the energy he conveyed with his voice made me listen even more closely.

So I decided to interview him so I could spread the wealth to my awesome readers and subscribers!

On this podcast James and I discuss some really important topics that aren’t talked about nearly as much as they should in the dating and seduction community.

Topics include:

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