In this post, I’m gonna teach you a surefire method to insure that chances of you being flaked on for a date after meeting a woman decrease DRAMATICALLY. I hear guys complain all the time about flaky women.  The problem isn’t that women are flaky, the problem is that you don’t really know how to close the deal.

The formula I’m about to explain that I like to call the ‘Natural Close’ made a huge difference for me when I started using it.  A brilliant teacher of mine named Lance Mason introduced this topic to me when I was coaching for Pickup101 back in the day.  So here is it:

The Natural Close: So you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Most guys make the HUGE mistake of asking for her number and then bailing a few minutes later.  This may be counter intuitive but going for the number is a bad idea because 1 of 3 things can happen.  She can say no, which makes it awkward and is the kiss of death.  She can say yes, hesitantly and give it to you knowing there is no way she is ever gonna return your calls/texts or go out with you but she doesn’t want to hurt your feeling so she gives it to you anyway.  Lastly, she can excitedly give it to you with every intention of seeing you again.  So lets say either option 2 of 3 just happened.  If you don’t have a lot of experience reading woman’s signals then you are probably not really sure how solid the number is.  Most guys then start calling, texting, stalking or sending smoke signals in hopes to turn the number into a date.  When I was doing it this way, 1 out of 5 numbers would convert, not good!  Let me give you a better solution…

NEVER ask for her number!  ALWAYS setup a date instead.  Same scenario, you’re interacting with a woman and you are starting to get the hint that she likes you, what do you do?  Rather then be a chode and ask for her number, get curious about what she likes to do for fun.  Ask her if she plays any sports.  Ask her if she likes video games or arcades.  Ask her if she likes dive bars.  I wrote a list of the top 5 first date ideas so make sure you ask her if she likes those activities.  Example, when I was dating a lot I would always take a woman to the local dive bar by my house which has a ton of fun games to play.  During the initial conversation I would ask her if she likes dive bars and if she would always say yes.  Then I would tell her all about this one in particular:  “There is this ridiculous Dive close to my house, they have the trashiest bar tenders, some are missing teeth, and they have all the best bar games you can imagine, including air hockey.  I am the self proclaimed greatest air hockey player in LA, but if you think you can beat me, I’ll buy you the dive bar special: a nice tall warm glass of their cheapest gin!   At this point, she’ll be laughing and I’ll ask her when she is free to get an ass whipping.  We’ll figure out a date and guess what, then she’ll give me her number and I don’t have to worry about texting, calling or trying to figure out what to do next.  SIMPLE, EASY and WAY MORE FUN!!!

To answer your question, No it doesn’t have to be as elaborate as the example I gave.  Try this one, “You like bowling?” Ok, we’re going, but you’re not allowed to beat me!”  “You like Indian food?  I know this great place, I’m taking you there.” etc…  There you have it, the Natural Close!

What if she won’t commit to a time to meet or isn’t sure about her schedule.  If this happens you can be about 95% sure that SHE ISN’T DIGGING YOU!  That is just her being nice.  Almost everyone has their calendar on their smart phones these days so you can toss that excuse out the window.  If she’s interested and actually doesn’t know when shes free, you can bet your ass that she’ll say something, like “here take my number and call me tomorrow and we’ll figure it out.”  The more experience you have, the easier it will be to tell how she is really feeling.

Last point, after you setup the date and get the number, stick around for a few minutes.  Don’t just bounce or she’ll think you are a scumbag.  In fact, at this point, you know shes into you so why not escalate physically and get that first kiss out of the way or try to take her on an instadate (go somewhere else with her, then and there).

You guys owe me big time for this one!   Go setup some dates!!