I’m writing this article in honor of a student of ours.  His name is Cary and he has been improving at an insane rate since he started our 90 Day Training Program a few months back.

Cary decided to start using a very direct method of approaching women, it consists of saying:

Hi.

What are you doing later?

Wanna come back to my place?

Yeah, I know!  Pretty ballsy!  Here is a report from Cary from a couple nights back:

So it’s almost 11 PM now and some decent looking chicks are starting to come in. Looks like it’s not going to be that bad after all. There’s this one particular blonde that was looking hot in her 80’s outfit for a birthday. She had the curly/frizzy hair, black gloves, pink tank top, black skirt with black leggings, and black heels. Kinda punkish. She was definitely outgoing and social, greeting everyone. She was tall, pretty, and had social value. I don’t know if this is going to work.  (Here responses are in red)

[She's walking towards the door where I was standing and I extend my hand out to stop her. She reaches for my hand like she's shaking it.]

Hey, how’s it going?

Hi! [Smiles.]

What are you doing later?

Blah, blah.

Cool. Do you want to come back to my place?

[Her face is slightly jolted. She pauses and I can tell she's thinking about something.]…Where do you live?

[WTF?!?! That jolted me back.] Uhhh…West LA.

I don’t have your number.

[I whip out my phone as this 5'10" 200 lbs. dude with a shaved head and wearing a solid white sweater walks near us. Yeah, he looked like a gangster.]

What’s your area code?

[She turns her back towards the big dude and faces me with a cringed sorry look on her face.] I can’t do that right now. My boyfriend is right here.

[I just realized she was talking about the big dude. He looked scary, so I played it off like I was just showing her my phone and not trying to get her number.]

Hey check out my new phone. It’s awesome. [In hindsight, what I really should have done was have her introduce me to the boyfriend. That would amp up the tension and attraction some more. I could have also then told the bf that her gf was cool but I didn’t.

I didn’t even get your name.

It’s…..uhh it doesn’t matter. I’ll catch up with you later.

I was frankly shocked by her response. She was an interested party girl. My plan was to find her alone again later and get the digits, but that didn’t happen. She was quite social and rarely alone. On top of that, as time went on, the bf looked scarier and scarier and I gave it up. It hooked though! And hooked hard.

Now, why will this approach work for Cary but maybe not for you?  Cary has gotten to the point where he is no longer seeking approval from women.  He is unattached to the outcome and is non-reactive to her response.  If you’re wondering how to improve this in yourself then watch the video on grounding in our Video & Trainings Section on the top bar on this blog.  Cary also started his own blog on becoming a badass.  Check it out here: Cary’s Blog

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