I recently surveyed about 100 men and asked them two questions:

1. What is your biggest frustration when it comes to meeting and attracting women?
2. What worries you? What are you afraid will happen if you don’t do something immediately to improve?

The majority of people had the same exact answers:

1. Getting into a conversation – This included getting past approach anxiety and figuring out what to say
2. Missed opportunities – This included settling for women you aren’t really into, staying stuck and getting too old to attract the women you really want.

I was a little surprised by these responses considering the ridiculous amount of free information available on the internet teaching guys how to start a conversation with women. The problem with the information is that it is very difficult to sift through it and find exactly what you need. I’ve written a ton of articles relating to starting conversations with women and posted them on this blog, but I realize it might take a while to look through all the old posts and piece together some useful action steps that yield results. So I’m gonna make it easy on you. I’m in the process of creating a “Conversation Blueprint” to help you get over this frustration once and for all. This blueprint will be a simple step by step process for creating your unique system for attracting women. I’m not talking about routines or gimmicks, it will be authentic and specifically for you because you’ll be the one creating it. If you haven’t signed up for my mailing list to get the free trainings and registered for the free teleclass make sure you do that here now!

Some of you may be wondering why I’m not focusing on Inner Game. This is Inner Confidence right? I am focusing on inner game and I also realize that if you can’t at least get the ball rolling, focusing on inner game isn’t the best use of your time. I looked at my 3 year process of becoming successful with women and the process of many of my most successful friends and clients. I discovered that it’s really a simple 3-Part System:

Stage 1. Training Wheels – Create a template to initiate and maintain conversations. This stage is really simple and easy because all you have to do is follow the instructions. If you don’t take this step you’ll be riddled by anxiety and the problem of not knowing what to say. You’ll use this as an excuse to stay stuck and you’ll eventually give up and quit.

Stage 2. Become Fearless – If you want to attract and date the women who really turn you on you must identify and eliminate the behaviors that sabotage you. These behaviors include the nice guy syndrome, seeking validation from women, not owning your sexual masculine energy, not being honest with yourself and others, playing it safe, being a victim, being ashamed of your sexual wants needs and desires as a man and being too concerned about how you look and what other people think about you. This step is not for the weak at heart, if it were then 10% of the men on this planet would not get 90% of the gorgeous women. It takes dedication, focus and a significant amount of time to eliminate old habits and ingrain new mindsets and belief systems that work. If you don’t take this step and stop after step 1, you’ll get more dates, more sex and more relationships with the same caliber of women you’ve always gotten. For some guys this is good enough.

Stage 3. The Upper Echelon - If you want fulfill all of your fantasies with women and settle for nothing but your ideal love life you must take your performance to the next level. This not only involves meeting new women but managing the relationships you have. In karate they say the training really begins once you are a black belt and the same goes for here. If you don’t take this step and stop after step 2, you’ll date gorgeous women but you will struggle to create your ideal relationship, love and sex life.

So there you have it. The first step towards success is knowing your starting point so here is some action you can take right now to figure that out: If you think I missed anything or left something out, please drop a comment below. If not, leave a comment about your process and which stage you are at so I can give you feedback.

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer