Would you say that you have a an alter ego or split personalities?

If you are member of the seduction community and having less success then you would like then the answer to the last question is YES!

When I first joined the community and became an active “sarger” (Sarge – Lame PUA Lingo for the act of hitting on women) I adopted the mindset that I needed to start approaching and flirting with every hot girl I saw.

The pickup gurus somehow brainwashed me to actually feel guilty if I did not approach EVERY hot woman I came across.

That’s a lot of guilt!

I lived in San Diego so I saw at least 10-20 per day.

The guilt got so bad that I would avoid places with attractive women or go to the bars in hopes that none of the women would meet my standards, thus relieving me of my mission to approach them.

The front running Pickup Artist company I was working for at the time had a mission called the “Girl of the Day.” It meant that you had to approach the hottest girl you saw NO MATTER WHAT for 30 days.

I would go to work, see a hot girl, hit on her, go to lunch, see a hotter girl, hit on her, go to the cleaners, see a hotter girl, hit on her, etc…

It’s not just the “Girl” of the day, it turned into the “Girlsssss” of the day.

I did not realize that this sort of behavior was creating a split personality or my alter ego pickup persona.

There was the normal everyday Robbie and the Pickup Artist Robbie. I was doing a buttload of approaches and only about 15% would result in some sort of exchange of contact information.

An even smaller percentage would actually show up on a date so I was doing a lot of HARD WORK and having lackluster results at best.

95% of the men who come to my seminars, say they want to get over Approach Anxiety.

When a guy says that to me, I laugh to myself and think “Why, so you can turn into a pickup machine and do lots of hard work for poor results?”

Obviously they have a different picture in their mind of what it looks like to have the skills to fearlessly approach any woman they see. In 2 years I went from a guy who never approached a woman I didn’t know to a guy who approached over 2,000 women.

I had zero approach anxiety but my results did not increase by 2,000%. In fact they probably only doubled or increased by about 100%.

Here’s why: I programmed myself unconscioulsy to create this alter ego pickup artist Robbie guy who could approach any woman in just about any scenario.

The problem was that I was acting the whole time and women could sense it.

Women have the best bullshit detectors in the world, especially the smoking hot ones that get hit on multiple times per day. Sure I had the balls to approach them but they could see how fake I was even though I was saying the right things and had perfected my routines.

The two problems were that the routines were not congruent with my real personality and I wasn’t having fun. I was approaching because I got to the point where it felt better to be rejected then to live with the guilt of being a pussy for not talking to her.

Here’s the solution:

If hitting on women becomes part of your everyday life, you won’t have approach anxiety and your approaches will result in success a much higher percentage of the time.

A great way to hit on women is to tease them in a playful way and the beauty of improving your teasing skills is that you can practice on anyone, not just attractive women!

When I started teasing everyone, I started having WAY more fun and everyone around me got to share in the fun as well. I started teasing servers, bank tellers, janitors, my neighbors, the mailman, even cops!

If you are thinking “This won’t work for me Robbie, I don’t have that kind of personality, I never tease people.” My response is BULLSHIT!!!!!

I have never met someone who doesn’t engage in playful conversations with their closest friends.

Even if it only happens on a blue moon, you still have it in you, you just may be too scared to bring it to the surface or nervous because you are terrified of upsetting someone.

When I started teasing EVERYONE, the pickup alter ego naturally disappeared. I was ALWAYS in flirting mode, or what the seduction community would call, ALWAYS IN STATE!

Example - Location: Subway, lunch time

Sandwich Artist: Can I help you?

Me: Why do you guys have so many options on this menu? Everything here is good, why make my life so damn difficult with all the choices, huh! I could sue for the mental anguish I’m experiencing right now you know that?! What’s better, the tuna or the cold cut combo?

Sandwich Artist: The Cold Cut Combo

Me: Great I’ll have the tuna

Sandwich Artist: LOL!

(Hot girl walks in and gets in line behind me)

Me: I bet your gonna ask me a bunch of questions now like what kind of cheese, bread and dressings I like, I bet you didn’t know I was psychic!

Sandwich Artist: HAHA

Me: You want a reading? I charge $5000 an hour?

Me: (turn to hot girl) What about you, do you want a reading?

Her: LOL, no

Me: Why, you can’t afford $5000?

Her: NO!

Me: That’s too bad because I only date rich girls! Excuse me though, this dude back here has a crush on me I think, he keeps asking me all these personal questions about my sandwich preferences.

Sandwich Artist: Oil Vinegar, salt or pepper?

Me: I dunno, ask her, she’s paying!

Her: No im not!

Me: But, you just said you were rich…

I’m already teasing the sandwich artist so when the cute girl walks in she realizes that I’m fun before I even talk to her and everyone ends up having a great time when they least expected it.

Keep in mind, I’m REALLY good at this sort of teasing and witty banter but I used to SUCK at it.  It just comes with practice and having fun.

But remember the golden rule, you have to do it with everyone!

If I don’t do it with the sandwich artist and then the hot girl walks in what happens?  I start thinking “What should I say to her?”

Then the sandwich artist interrupts me by asking what type of cheese I want and I lose my train of thought.  So I end up saying something SUPER LAME and everyone knows I’m the creepy guy hitting on the girl in the subway line.

Creepy guys hit on hot women, attractive guys hit on everyone by teasing them!  Here’s a simple technique for teasing people.  Blame them for something they have no control over in a really exaggerated way.

I have tons of simple strategies like this and if it fits your personality, it will work.

Cheers,

Robbie Kramer