“Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body but, rather, to skid in sideways, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ‘WOO HOO! What a Ride!’ – One of my favorite quotes.  Life is all about pushing your comfort zone, if you live life trying to be comfortable and avoid confrontation, you will end up with very little, but if you face challenges head on and do something that pushes your boundaries each day, you will make a huge impact in this world.  One of the best ways for a man to push his comfort zone is to approach women.  Changing how people respond to you and how women perceive you is a fun journey that can lead to crazy adventures.  If you are still hanging by the bar and noticing all the pretty girls passing you by, bumping into you and smiling in your direction and you’re playing the mister too cool for school game then it’s time take some initiative. How far has holding up the wall and nursing your drink gotten you?

1.  Its part of your biology.

Men are expected to approach, which is an extension of their provider and protector’s evolutionary hunter and gatherer-type traits. The attractive men went after what they wanted while the weaker men died off due to not fulfilling their gender roles. Women are expected to filter out men; while they become more attractive their filtering systems become more complex. You too can develop a filtering system to find great women.  It is no longer ‘does she like me?’ but, ‘do I like her?’ and this causes her to invest in the interaction and investment equals attraction on your part.

2. You have high value.

You have high value if you believe you do.  This is the most simple yet most complex concept guys spend years trying to figure out. It’s just that easy. You decide whether you have high personal value or not. As soon as you feel like you deserve the best, you act like you deserve the best, and you will tend to get the best. You are now seeing what the world has to offer you.  Find the value in other people.  Instead of thinking about how badly you want the attractive woman in front of you, ask yourself like “What can I learn from this person, what makes her tick?”

3. Rejection is a good thing.

We all get rejected.  Some people are so scared of rejection that they completely avoid life.  I don’t care what you want but if you don’t ask for it, you will never get it.  In order to get a “Yes” you must be willing to risk hearing the word “No.”  Rejection is only bad if you take it personally.  The next time you are out in public, play this game: try to get three people to say the word “no” to you.  You might find this more difficult then you imagined.  The only way to fail is to quit.

4. The times have changed.

In ancient times, approaching a women could be a very dangerous activity.  If you approached the wrong guys woman, you ran the risk of getting physically assaulted, shot or ostracized from society.  This is no longer an issue.  I’ve approached thousands of women and I’ve never had anyone become combative towards me.  In fact, I’ve never even been yelled at.  The only thing you risk hurting when you approach a woman is your ego.

5.  Your looks and the size of your wallet don’t matter.

The only difference between attractive men and guy’s who are still looking for the elusive magic pill is that the attractive men go for it.  I remember a girlfriend of mine was dating this repulsive looking guy.  I mean this guy just looked like a goofball, no style, out-of-shape and talked like he had no real confidence.  I wondered why the hell she was with him. One day I asked her “Why are you dating this guy?”  She said it was simple; it was because he was so persistent.  That put a lot of thing into perspective for me.  He was able to let go of his ego and after many failed attempts still went after what he wanted. Take that into account in all aspects of life.  If you act like you’ve been there before, stay consistent and don’t fold in the face of rejection than you will get the job the girl and the life someone more qualified than you failed to follow-up on.

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