Most people think that flirting is about being funny.

The first question I always get after telling people what I do for a living is this: “So what’s your best flirting line?”

That questions drives me nuts because flirting has very little to do with the lines or for that matter, the words.

So I ussually just answer by saying in a really stern and annoyed tone of voice “I don’t flirt!”  Then they giggle and say “That’s not flirting” and I say “Then why are you laughing?”

Flirting is about playing with sexual tension. Your ability to successfully initiate conversations with beautiful woman is dependent on your ability to play with tension.

Here is the definition of Tension: mental or emotional strain; intense, suppressed suspense, anxiety, or excitement.

To explain what this means lets start with an analogy.  Learning how to drive a stick shift (manual transmission car) is exactly like learning how to improve your ability to create intense sexual tension in women.  There are four stages to each of these activities.

Stage 1:  Learn the mechanics

Before we can drive a ‘stick’ we must realize that it operates differently then a automatic transmission.  It is essential to learn how the clutch functions, how the gear box operates and to realize that there is an extra pedal next to the brake.  Next we must learn the purpose of all the different gears and how to shift between them.

Similarly, in order to create intense sexual attraction in women, first we must realize the role that tension plays during an interaction.  What kind of tension is in the air during the stages of the conversation?  Is it nervous tension?  Is there too little or too much tension?  Is it sexual tension?  Is it excitement or anxiety?

Next we must have a step-by-step system to smoothly transition from one gear to the next.  Open the conversation by saying X, increase the sexual tension by saying Y, increase it a little more with your body language, etc…  This is your Personal Attraction System in action.

Step 2: Practice In Safe Place To Build Confidence

Let’s say you just finished reading a book on how to drive a car with a manual transmission and you know exactly how everything works mechanically.  Would it be smart to practice for the first time on a freeway in bumper to bumper traffic?  What if I told you to just do it?  Would you feel scared, anxious or nervous?  A better solution might be to practice in an empty parking lot with a mentor who can coach you through the process so you can get the feeling of the clutch and train your body to shift through the gears smoothly.  Once you feel proficient enough, you could drive around a quiet neighborhood to build your confidence.

Unfortunately, most men decide to practice playing with sexual tension by immediately hitting the bars and clubs and attempting to drink enough beers to approach the most beautiful woman in the bar.  That’s about as smart as the example I gave above about the bumper to bumper freeway scenario.  Start off by practicing in safe place.  In my workshop,
“Never Get Tongue-Tied Again”, we spend an entire day practicing playing with sexual tension with the incredibly sexy Inner Confidence Girls.  These girls along with my coaches and I give you personalized feedback on your approach and how to smoothly build sexual attraction with the most beautiful and intimidating women that most guys would never dream of talking to.

Step 3: Operate on Autopilot

Once you build up the muscle memory of smoothly shifting gears and operate the clutch, it becomes second nature.  You can drive a stick shift while eating a burger and talking on a cell phone while speeding down the freeway.  You don’t even have to think about it anymore, you can drive on autopilot.

Playing with sexual tension works the same way.  Once you get the feeling in your body, you no longer have to think about shifting gears or what to say.  You will be able to attract women unconsciously.

Step 4: Burn Rubber

If you really want to take the experience of driving to the next level you can start to compete.  You may decide to upgrade to a high performance sports car.   There are more tools available at this level like double clutching and high speed downshifting to really enhance the performance of your car.  High speed racing takes focus and precision and the stakes are high.

You can guess where I’m going with this one right?  The men who are masters with women have skills far more advanced than playing with tension.  They have the ability to create tension in any moment and use it their advantage.  These are the skills required to handle the most sought after and intimidating women, date multiple women, and live out your sexual fantasies.

And don’t forget to have fun with this stuff!

Cheers,
Robbie Kramer