It’s Friday night and you’ve got your dancing shoes on, except you don’t actually care about dancing tonight, you’re single and you are going out to meet someone.
You and a buddy are trying to decide where to go. “There’s a new club that just opened, kinda a hipster scene but the chicks are hot bro!”
“I’m not into hipster chicks but whatever… if they are hot lets go check it out brosef!” you respond.
As far as going out is concerned, this is a trap!
Most people, and especially men, don’t realize how much the environment of the venue effects their ability to successfully meet someone. All too often guys will just choose the place that has
But what about choosing a place that is known to have what you’re looking for in a woman? The venue is more crucial than you may realize.
I think women get this concept more than men. I don’t know too many women who would go to a biker bar if they weren’t into biker dudes, but I do know plenty of men who would jump at the opportunity to go to a country western bar if they knew it was filled with hot women, even if they hated line dancing, country music and dudes dressed as cowboys!
Ok… I confess, guilty as charged! When I attended college in San Diego, I went to a place every Wednesday night called In Cahoots. I had no interest in girls who liked anything country, other than the fact they were hot. It never dawned on me why I got rejected by almost every girl I approached. Duh!!! I was not a cowboy!
Here’s the problem… the women at the country western bar may be hot, but if you’re not into country music, line dancing and you don’t walk with a swagger, most of them are not looking for you!
You can do as I did and pretend to dress the part, but they won’t be fooled. Just cuz you dress like a cowboy, you aint no cowboy hoss!
Maybe you decide not to dress the part… but it doesn’t matter how smooth you are and how sexy you think you look in your lounge attire. If you want to attract a woman at this type of venue, you’re fighting an uphill battle. She went out to dance, hang out with her friends and maybe meet an urban cowboy, you’re not an urban cowboy, so your only hope is to change her mind.
Don’t waste your time trying to change people’s minds, just go to places where women are looking for guys like you!
It took me years to get this simple concept, but once I realized it, meeting women became a lot easier and more fun.
I knew what I was attracted to: classy, intelligent, athletic women with a bit of sass who can flirt and hold their own in conversation. Someone who has direction and purses what they want. Someone who is social and likes to go out but doesn’t party 7 nights a week.
So where should I look for this type of woman?
1. Online – Online dating isn’t the best arena if you are looking to improve your social skills but as a tool to filter for what you want, it’s the best. It’s like shopping for a car, you just enter in the specs and model and a list of prospects pop up with pictures, descriptions and the data you are looking for.
2. Non-Social Environments (Grocery stores, the gym, shopping malls, etc.) – The best thing about meeting women in a non-social environment is the lack of competition. If you can make a good impression, she will remember you and she’ll also be impressed by your courage to approach her in a situation where most guys wouldn’t dare. But don’t just go to any grocery store, gym or shopping mall. Go to the ones where your type of girl hangs out. For me it’s Whole Foods, Trader Joe’s, girls running along the beach, The Beverly Center in LA, Soho in New York. If you’re into sophisticated women, don’t shop at the Westminster Mall in the slums of Orange County. If you’re into punky Asian chicks and you drive a rice rocket, or you’re a Cholo with long jean shorts and a sideways LA Dodgers cap, the Westminster Mall, or Club Avalon in Hollywood is Mecca.
3. Lounges and happy hour spots - If you’re looking to meet someone classy, go to a classy place. These places have softer music which promote conversation and you’re not gonna find anyone puking in the toilets. You’re also more likely to find someone who is employed. The best part about a lounge is you’ll occasionally find the type of woman who almost never parties who was dragged out by her colleagues after work. So if you like homebodies, its the one social venue where you might actually meet one.
4. Bars and Clubs with a Niche - Berlin is quickly becoming internationally recognized as one of the best party cities in the world. The people who spout off this information are ignorant. If you like
electronic music, dress like a hipster and enjoy partying for 36 hours straight with the option to actually sleep in the club on designated sleeping beds, then Yes, Berlin is one of the best party cities in the world. But if you’re like the other 95% of the population who enjoys a good party, Berlin doesn’t even fall into the top 50.
If you randomly pick a club, there is HUGE chance you will find a DJ spinning deafening electronic music and a mob hipsters. If you’re a hipster and you like hipster chicks, Berlin is the NUTTER BUTTERS! (Poker term meaning the best)
But if you’re like me, don’t go to Berlin to party, go to see the Berlin Wall at Potsdamer Platz, the fascinating Holocaust Memorial, Checkpoint Charlie, and the beautiful parks. There are only two clubs in Berlin that I would ever go for, The Felix and Puro. These are the only two places I know of where you
won’t want walk out wreaking of cigarettes with
sticky shoes, and that will turn you away at the door if you’re wearing neon glasses or you have a peach fuzz mustache. The people inside are not puking in bathrooms and partying 36 hours straight. You may have to be on the guest list, buy a bottle or pay a cover to get in, but if this is your scene I promise you will have much more fun and meet the type of women who will be interested in guys like you!
Club DJ Electro Matrix Boom Shaka Laka may have cheap drinks, a 2 euro cover charge and a plethora of hot hipster chicks, but these girls aren’t gonna talk to you unless you’re “One with the music” in your ripped jeans and mesh trucker hat, get the idea?
Make life easy on yourself, think before you go out! Just because a place has hot girls, it doesn’t they are gonna be hot for you.