Being dynamic is the whole package – 360 degrees of awesome — and girls will pretty much do anything to be with a guy who’s dynamic.
If you don’t know how to dress, it immediately sends out a signal that you’re not dynamic. Your appearance is the easiest and fastest way to communicate a message to others as to whether or not you’re worth spending time with.
To a hot chick, if you don’t know how to dress, it means that you probably don’t have cool friends, which means that you probably don’t party much or get laid ever. She’ll make this assessment in a split second and you’re done.
The One Exception to Dressing Well
There is only one kind of dude that’s an exception to the universal law of dressing fashionably: he’s someone who’s a rock star in some other part of his life. I have a bunch of MMA buddies, as an example. These guys are white trash. They dress like shit, but they’re badass motherfuckers with 2% body fat and they’ve literally been paid to beat the shit out of people. Chicks are into that.
Another example: if you’re some quasi-famous Silicon Valley millionaire, you’re exempt from this rule. You can dress in a potato sack and chicks will still be all over you since they already know who you are. If they don’t recognize you, well then you’re no better off.
For everyone else, you have to step up your fashion game if you don’t want hot girls to shoot you down instantly.
How Dressing Like an Idiot Destroyed this Guy’s Odds
I had a business partner who was great with girls one-on-one. He was funny, charming and he was solid. But his opening game was zero: he was a total math dork, he was completely bald at 31 and he dressed like shit. I told him all the time that he dressed like shit but he was stubborn as hell and wouldn’t do anything about it.
So we go to a club in the Meatpacking District with a couple of smoke shows I know. We get to the door of this club and the bouncer says to me, “Look, you guys are fine but I can’t let this guy in,” gesturing to my business partner.
I said to the bouncer, “He’s my business partner. You have to let him in.” But he wouldn’t. So this guy missed out on a chance to hang with girls that are much younger and much hotter than most girls he usually hangs out with because he wouldn’t go to Zara or Nordstrom and buy some decent clothes.
The Quick Fix for Fashion
If you want to make a change that will make a huge difference, go buy some new clothes. Let’s just be clear: I’m not talking about name brand only. I’ve seen dudes walk in to the room with $350 shoes that look ridiculous. I’m talking about being in style, regardless of the brand name.
Go to Target, Zara, H&M, Nordstrom or wherever and look at what the mannequins are wearing. Most of the time, you can buy those clothes. Get 10 or so outfits and cycle through them in your day-to-day life. It’s not quite that easy but that’s a great start.
Your shirt should gently hug your rib cage; your jeans should angle slightly down toward the floor and lightly hug your quads. Baggy jeans are done – throw away your baggy jeans. They’ve been done forever and they make you look like an idiot. Black shiny, square toed dress shoes make you look like a middle manager loser. Your Kenneth Cole Reactions go in the garbage.
The Lesson: Hot girls don’t date guys that dress like shit unless they’re rock stars in some other area of their lives. Go buy some clothes that fit your body and are in style to give off a more dynamic vibe.
For all of us who are feeling as though their online dating lives have been dim and dismal lately, we finally have something better, more simplified and modernized than more traditional sites like Match and eHarmony. There is no denying it: Tinder is the newest craze in the dating world. If you’re not familiar with tinder, you’re a nerd living under a rock and I’m not going to bother explaining what it is.
Due to the platform, the strategy is slightly different but all the rules of dating and more specifically, online dating, still apply.
Building Your Profile:
My favorite part about Tinder is that it is basically runs through your Facebook profile – choosing your more recent pictures through Facebook and you can see if you have mutual friends with girls you are matching with.
Its important to realize the difference between where men and women are coming from using a dating app like Tinder. Men are on there to fulfill a sexual desire and find a girl to hook up with. In the process you also get to check out a bunch of hot chicks , which is addictive in itself. The prospect of easy dates with the built in “hot or not” experience makes these apps extremely popular. Unfortunately, easy is not the reality. Sure you’ve heard some stories that are probably bogus but anytime you’ve gotta take a woman from completely cold from the interwebz and into your bed it’s gonna be a process and time investment. As much as men wish it were true, most women will not just hook up with you because you’re good looking, they need/want a connection to satisfy their own desires for safety, comfort and not feeling/looking like a ho. If you want to succeed in Tinder, you’ve got a lot of competition.
A man’s experience: You log in in to the app and you’re fed a picture of a girl. If you dig her you click yes, if you don’t you click no and if you’re not sure you can look at more of her pictures (up to 5), read her headline, see if you have mutual friends or mutual interests and then click yes or no. You cannot see the next girl without making a decision. His decision is based almost completely on looks. I couldn’t care less what her headline says. If you both click yes, you’re given access to send her a message. From there it becomes the game to convince her to see you in person.
A hot woman’s experience: She logs in and sees pictures of dudes. She is overwhelmed by losers who have no idea how to choose a picture, dudes who are shirtless, selfie pics, and a variety of other blunders guys make on their profiles. Anytime she clicks yes she is getting a match because every guy will click yes to a hot girl. I watched a girlfriend of mine scroll through and every single guy she liked also liked her and I was watching this happen for 10 minutes. There had to be at least 50 matches. A hot girl is almost never going to message a guy, she doesn’t need to. Once she matches, it becomes a game to weed out dudes who can’t hold her attention and if she is bored or adventurous enough, she might see one of these guys in person (most likely in a group situation so she feels safe) but she’ll certainly feel silly about it.
How to build your profile:
– Choose 5 photos from your Facebook profile.
– No shirtless pics
– No selfies
– No pictures with you and other girls your age (your mom or grandma is fine if your other pictures give off the “bad boy” vibe. If you look like a dork, don’t put up a picture with your mom)
– No more than one picture with a group
– Your pictures should portray you as a well-dressed, social, cool, dynamic guy.
– Something short and witty to show you have personality. Example: “I promise I’m really awesome, charismatic, funny and all around good guy… don’t believe me, just ask my Jewish mom.”
Choose a few interests but don’t go crazy, Choose 3-5 max. Sports, books, music, TV shows and movies are great for this.
You can also share your Pinterest profile. This is a great tool to showcase more of yourself. Women love Pinterest, so having a cool Pinterest profile attached to your tinder can give you massive bonus points in the eyes of some women.
How to message:
If you’ve matched with a girl your opening message should be short and witty. The only information you’ll have is her pictures, her tagline, any shared interests or friends, and possibly her Pinterest. Do not comment on her physical appearance. You already told her she was hot when you clicked “yes”; if you tell her again, you’ll look like every other idiot. You must stand out from the competition and to do that you must know what the competition is doing. I’ll just tell you, you’re welcome….
You can find a list of our favorite opening lines, and follow ups in our Free Tinder Guide.