Robbie Kramer

95: Mark Sing (NLP)

Mark Sing is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Alpha Symposium. After years of training men how to attract women, Mark and his group of like-minded Alphas created the Instant Attraction Video Mastery Course. Mark firmly believes that all men deserve sexual choice, and he created Alpha Symposium to share his passion with men who want to take their lives to the next level.

Show Notes:

How moving to Japan and having panic attacks brought him to NLP [03:45]
The metaprograms that most guys need to overcome in order to be more attractive [05:48]
The three steps to starting a conversation with a woman [08:20]
What’s a Story of Becoming? [08:57]
How Mark ended up in Japan [14:30]
How Mark worked as a driver and bodyguard for strippers [16:16]
How to learn NLP [21:47]
The biggest fear he had to overcome [24:00]
Mark’s current lifestyle and a major announcement [33:34
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

Coach Mark Sing

Masculine Development

18 Reasons Why Rock Climbing Is The Best Date Idea Ever

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Why you should be rock climbing (for dating)….

I googled ‘rock climbing gym’ then hit images. Notice how many girls are in the images.

18 reasons why you should do this:

There are days I’ve gone to a climbing gym and there have been 42 girls and 26 guys.
Groups of 2-4 girls often go climbing.
Climbing is very social. It’s totally normal for one group of randoms to make friends with another group of randoms.
In one session you could in theory talk to 20 people. You could also talk to zer0 if you choose. Both are common.
If you meet a girl and she climbs, she’s in shape or getting in shape. Climbing while out of shape is not easy.
It’s an amazing first date because you really get to know someone.
Imagine your in a relationship with a climber… If she sucks to climb with she will suck in real life. The end. It can expedite things for you.
Climbing is the most amazing couples thing to do: its problem solving and working together for hours. It’s a work out. It’s a fun atmosphere.
You get into sick shape.
There are a bagillion climbing gyms everywhere.
Once your a part of the climbing community you can go on ‘climbing trips’ to national parks.
You don’t wake up hung over.
You don’t spend much money.
The climbing community tends to be a bit geeky, so competition goes down like 95%.
If u want someone at peace, mentally healthy, non judgmental- climbing doesn’t guarantee that, but climbers are 500x more likely to be that vs a girl doing cocaine in a club bathroom.
Climbers are insanely friendly. It’s sort of a part of the deal.
It will grow some hair on your chest.
If you know how to climb you can demonstrate value helping others solve a route/ you can teach a girl/date.

In summary:
Girls love climbing, less competition, Get in shape, save money, make friends, have a blast.

There’s no reason not to do it. Well, one, afraid of heights.

I had a crippling fear of heights and overcame it. If I can over come it anyone can. Besides, you can ‘boulder’ which is what I do mostly anyway. Boulders are like 10-20 feet with no ropes and huge soft landing pads. Fear of heights aren’t an issue with bouldering.

And for those of you in a relationship- there’s not a single thing I’ve enjoyed doing with my girlfriend more than climbing.

Not even close.

Her answer is the same.

Please note that everyone says ‘I have rock climbed’. I am not talking about what you did. You walked up a simple route that required zero planning and zero technique.

I am talking about one climb taking hours or days or weeks.

Having to work on one specific move.

Needing to build your flexibility to execute one move at one point on one climb.

Learning proper technique.

Building your core and finger strength in a way you had never imagined.

I am talking about intense puzzle solving and requiring several sets of eyes (the social aspect) to map out the route and exactly where to put your feet on ever single step the entire way up.

***When I say rock climbing- imagine a choreographed dance up a wall with the intensity of cross fit while playing chess***

For more info on how to build massive charisma and improve your dating life check out this webinar.

Cheers,

Robbie

A Step-by-Step Guide to a Manly Bathroom Every Chick Will Love

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Generally, men do not like girly baths where they trip over scented candles and essential oils.

However, as a man, you also want to please your girl. So you need a bathroom that she will like just as much as you do. Here are suggestions you can use to help you decorate your manly bathroom in a way that your chick will love. Bathroom with walk in shower and white countertop basin

1. Mix dark and bright colors

As a man, you probably like subtle and dark colors. However, most women like bright colors. It’s a great idea to mix a little bit of both so that you have a balanced color scheme that you and your girl will appreciate. Try dominating with dark colors such as dark blue, black and grey and accessorizing with some splashes of feminine colors such as pink, yellow and teal.

2. Quality bath items

To give your bathroom a clean and sleek look, avoid clutter. Your girl will be impressed by a neat and clean bathroom. Focus on purchasing quality bath accessories.

Start by getting nice absorbent fluffy mats that feel great underfoot. A bathroom is a place where you need to feel luxurious items against your skin. So it’s essential that you get big absorbent towels and bathrobes that are gentle on the skin. Throw in some decorative towels as most women love them.

3. Organizing accessories

If there is something that women find attractive, it is an organized manly bathroom. It will also be of great help to you if you have a place for each item as it will help you maintain a short and efficient bath routine.

Create shelves preferably of dark wood, that are easy to reach on which to place bath essentials such as towels, hand wash, robes, shower gels and other items needed for body care. Have a shower caddy where you can put shampoos and body soap during a shower or bath.

On the sink, find a bathroom organizer to hold hand soap, toothbrushes, and toothpaste as well as shaving kits. It’s a good idea to get a set of beautiful soap dispensers for body wash, shampoo, and hand wash for better aesthetics in the room as well.

4. Waste and laundry basket

A perfect way to keep a bathroom organized and clean is to put dirty clothes and waste in their correct place. Therefore you need a quality waste basket, and dirty clothes hamper in your bathroom.

Nothing annoys women like dirty clothes or wet towels left on the bathroom floor. Having a hamper where you can throw your dirty items will save you from throwing your dirty clothes anywhere and risking the mother of all arguments with your partner.

5. Fog-free mirror

If you shave a lot, a well-lit fog-free mirror is a must-have in a manly bathroom. It’s also crucial for women because they need a mirror to use while applying makeup and doing their hair.

Your girlfriend will appreciate a mirror that she can use after or during a hot shower without having the need to clean steam off it all the time. Make sure the mirror is easy to access from the shower area so that it’s quite easy to bath, shave, tweeze eyebrows or even apply face masks for both of you without having to move from one end of the bathroom to the other.

6. Bathroom Entertainment

Once you have the essentials in your manly bathroom, you can also add a little pizazz to it by adding a few entertainment features. Most women love listening to music in the bathroom or watching their favorite program while soaking in the bath.

Therefore, you will not go wrong if you install a wireless shower head in your bathroom. You will really blow your girl’s socks off if you put in a TV monitor in the bathroom as well. A bonus for you is that you get to check out news and sports while using the bathroom on those days you cannot afford to miss out on updates.

7. Hi-tech toilet

Where money is no object, a hi-tech toilet is a must – have in any manly bathroom. It turns toilet use from a regular activity to a pampering session.

Women are suckers for a toilet with bidet capabilities. You can go a step further and buy a self-cleaning toilet. However, you will get top points if you get a hi-tech toilet that lights up at night and lifts or closes the toilet seat automatically. There will be no more arguments about missing your mark or leaving the toilet seat up, and that’s worth spending a pretty penny on a hi-tech toilet any day.

8. Shower systems

A great shower system is essential in any manly bathroom. The thing to focus on is something with excellent water pressure and temperature control. There are several great shower systems in the market. You can check some here: https://ever-unfolding.net/best-shower-system-reviews/

You only need to pick one that fits your water and electricity consumption. Here are two examples;

– Digital Showers

These shower systems come with digital controls that work with a thermostat to ensure the water temperature is to your preference whenever you want to bath or shower. Women like automatic items that don’t give them hustle and always deliver what they want at any given time. A digital shower meets these criteria and is guaranteed to impress your girl any day.

– Shower panels

These you can install over the tiles and also use them to put in extra features such as steam jets, and massage jets in your shower cabin. The idea is to turn the shower experience into a spa session. They are easy to install and can blend into any color scheme as they come in a variety of finishes.

10. Spa bath

You can never go wrong with women when you install a spa bathtub in your bathroom. These have massage jets that relax the body as you soak in a hot bath. Women enjoy soaking in a bubble bath, and spa bathtubs are a fun way for couples to spend quality time together – get one!

These are a few suggestions to follow when creating a manly bathroom that any chick will love. Remember to keep things simple and functional, and you will have a great bathroom that you and your partner will enjoy.

Text Breakdown: First date was awesome but scheduling a second date is a challenge.

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Context: Met on Tinder, missed getting together for like 3 weeks, finally went out Friday.

She was pretty touchy, made out in uber on way to bar #2, closed out bar 2, it’s 2am and she was going to come home with me but also had to be at work at 6:30 so ended up going home on her own instead, good call.

She was a little drunk and kinda toppled over outside the bar when we were figuring out what to do, dragged me down with her, it was hilarious.

Really like this chick a lot and she seemed enthusiastic but now don’t know where I stand.

I let it sit for for today, she never got back to me about her schedule.

Robbie’s Responses:

I think you made a mistake by not going home with her or taking her home. You let logistical hurdles like work get in the way.

I understand you were trying to do the right thing and make sure she isn’t late for her job but is that really your responsibility? She is the one getting fall over drunk 4 hours before she has to be in the office, or so she says… Clearly she didn’t really care about work that much and was enjoying your company more.

Not to mention, this is Tinder, the easiest hook up app of all time. She says “We could have fun tonight, but I pulled the plug.” Sounds like a hint that if you would have been more decisive and took her home, you would have had fun.

“But this doesn’t have to be the end, I’d have only let us have 60ish percent fun based on your curfew and our sidewalk adventure.”

Thanks Captain White Knight, Save a Ho, Dad!

Here’s a great strategy for girls you meet on Tinder who get wasted and drunk on a work night: Make an insecure comment about this being the end, remind her of her curfew and how you are a law abiding citizen, and tease her getting too drunk. Sigh…

But hey, at least she’s texting in the morning and looks like she was late for work anyway, given the 07:53 time stamp.

Joke about wrists and hospitals – GREAT!

But then you go and explain your joke “Actually I’m fine.” Oh really?!?!

I thought you were really hurt. Good joke Dad!

“I’m glad you’re mostly ok…”

Of course she is ok, why say this?

“Had a really good time…”

She knows you had a good time.

“I’d even consider doing it again.”

This is a joke and obvious sarcasm but your prior jokes followed by explanation are so bad that you risk her thinking that you might be serious and the biggest captain obvious of all time.

“It’s not bad at all, I’m more embarrassed than hurt.”

Duh… notice how your overly protective nice guy texts encourages her to explain this. Menos puntos for you sir.

“Aw, don’t be. It was a pretty solid date, you remember most of it right.”

^NEEDY AF

Rather than being chill and letting her wonder about you, you are ruining all the mystery by texting back and forth about the parts of the date that will make her feel potentially bad about her behavior.

Dark humor… probably best to stay away from early on. High risk, minimal reward.

You’d still be better off saying nothing and remaining a mystery given what has transpired.

Don’t over text!

You’ve demonstrated that you will probably create friction and cockblock her from a fun, drunken hookup if you go on a school night. She wants to fuck and she knows you want to fuck. So what are her options if she really thinks this through? She could:

a) See you on a weekend. If she has a life this won’t sound like a great option because no one with a life schedules 1st or second tinder dates on weekends.

b) Schedule for a useless school night (Monday/Tuesday) and then have second thoughts when the day approaches because she doesn’t want a repeat of the last date. Suggesting you go home early together, or having a date at your house or hers might make her feel like a slut, so she’s probably not gonna do that. But she knows you won’t do it, so that’s more reason to flake.

More evidence that this girl loves to get drunk and clearly isn’t too concerned with her career!

She’s drunk at a bar and you are jamming her into conversation about callback humor from your date. Chill out man! Save it for date #2, if she shows up for it.

I’d give it about a 50/50 chance.

Prior to all this subpar texting you were probably 95/5 to get the second date.

But you could have said everything you needed in 2/3 texts instead of a novel. It all shows over-eagerness, friction to fun and a general nice guy, boring, dad vibe.

I have a feeling this isn’t what a girl who drinks back to back on Sunday and Monday night who you met on Tinder is looking for.

94: Liam McRae (The Natural Lifestyles)

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Since 2009, Liam has been coaching full time with The Natural Lifestyles. He’s head of the Australian Branch as well as running Summer tours through Europe and US annually with James Marshall and the rest of the TNL crew. His philosophy is based on the idea that guys already have what it takes to seduce and date women, they just don’t know it yet. So it’s his job to help them discover that for themselves.

Show Notes:

Liam is embarrassed about how he started with pickup [04:45]
Robbie’s evolution to becoming more comfortable with sex, and why it happened late [08:25]
Consent and boundaries [10:56]
How Liam and Robbie met, and how it shattered the misconceptions Liam had about Robbie’s style of meeting women [13:17]
Why James and Liam almost canceled their elite program, and how Robbie stopped it from happening [31:40]
The difference between social circle game and day game [37:23]
How Liam got to the top of the partying pyramid [54:13]
How to connect with successful guys [65:55]
And much more…

Significant quotes:

“Robbie doesn’t do a lot of work, and he has a pretty fucking cool life.” [41:44]

“Set up the party so the nightclub is next to your bedroom.” [43:48]

Links Mentioned:

Rapid Escalation

93: Using Instagram to Build Your Network and Meet Hotter Women

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Who is this for?

Guys who are getting numbers but a less than usual conversion from a number to a date. A less than usual conversion would be anything under 50%. Under 25% means you are doing a lot of stuff wrong

Guys who are getting dates but the dates aren’t getting as physical as you would hope. In other words, you want to hook up, but she’s not into it.

This is also for guys who have a lot going on socially and they don’t want to go on dates. This is how I currently operate my dating life… I’m always out with a group with a good ratio of girls to guys in my favor, when I meet new girls and exchange contact info, I invite them out to group things and eventually we hook up during/after those group things. I don’t really ever go on dates until after I’ve already hooked up with a girl.

This is for guys who would prefer to operate their social/dating life in the way I do, instead of going on traditional dates.

The biggest mindset shift to this new sort of method I’m going to be talking about today is this: You must NEVER chase!

I’m going to show you how to use Social Media so the people you’re hoping to connect with never feel like you are chasing them.(and this works for courting cool dudes as well)

Once someone feels like you are chasing them, you lose almost all value in their mind. So even if they do end up agreeing to meet, the odds of that meeting ending up in the result you’re hoping for drastically decrease.

I’ve got a student on the line who was a pretty piss poor texter when he came to me, but after working together he is now great and texts in the top 95 percentile of guys. He is looking to make the transition away from texting to a more social circle/social media based approach so I’ve got him on the line to ask questions ask help steer my presentation. So… welcome to the show Jason!

Show Notes:

The process Jason used to go from a terrible texter who couldn’t get girls to respond, to being one of the best [06:12]
Most guys overlook how important being good at following up is for dating [11:10]
The major cultural shift a few years ago from text to Instagram [14:05]
How do you use this strategy if you never use social media? [19:54]
What if a girl’s Tinder or online dating profile says to DM her on Instagram? [24:48]
How to message girls on Instagram [36:05]
What it means when a girl asks you out to a social outing rather than a date [41:45]
Robbie reads a conversation from his Instagram as a case study [57:36]
Case study #2 [66:19]
Case study #3 [74:42]
Robbie gives Jason’s Instagram a tuneup [77:57]
How to use Instagram Stories and Snapchat [82:14]
Can I use social media effectively if I’m not a millenial? [89:20]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

Enlight

Snapseed

92: Matt Artisan (Travel and Dating)

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Matt Artisan is the leading expert in transforming the lives of men and empowering them to create authentic relationships. He was voted world’s best new dating coach. He is the creator of The Attractive Man Academy and currently the President and CEO of The Attractive Man Inc., the legendary dating program for men, based on his groundbreaking understanding of women and psychology. Matt and his team have been interviewed by Fox 13, ABC News Nightline, CNN and MTV.

Show Notes:

How Matt became a dating coach [01:21]
Managing a remote team while traveling [10:16]
Matt’s favorite places to visit in Eastern Europe [12:55]
Couchsurfing, how Matt got into traveling, and why he called off an engagement [13:42]
How he’s traveled to almost 80 countries, including an illegal trip to Russia [17:38]
Living in the Philippines [24:21]
Getting passports from multiple countries [32:36]
Matt’s current relationship status [34:25]
The biggest leverage point in dating [36:46]
Matt’s favorite book [45:01]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

The Attractive Man

The Attractive Man Youtube Channel

91: Haley Reed (Porn Star)

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In her first-ever podcast interview, I talk with Haley Reed, one of the hottest new porn stars today. Haley started when she was 19 years old and prides herself on being your ‘girl next door’. We go behind the scenes with how she got into the industry, what social lives of porn stars are like, and we even discuss alligator sex.

Show Notes:

The question everyone wants to know: how Haley got into the porn industry [01:29]
What it’s like to date as a porn star [07:07]
How Haley makes money through porn when there’s so much free content out there [16:38]
Haley’s approach with her fans [18:11]
How she built her huge Twitter following [20:33]
How filming a porn shoot is different from having sex [22:52]
Why it’s difficult for people in the porn industry to make friends and form relationships [33:35]
What Haley plans to do for the rest of her career [39:50]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

Haley’s Twitter

www.haleyreedonline.com (coming soon)

90: Kalvin Paul

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On this episode I have a conversation with Kalvin Paul, a lifestyle design expert and entrepreneur who discusses his personal journey, and how his growth as an entrepreneur has fueled his lifestyle.

Show Notes:

Kalvin’s approach to lifestyle design, and how he optimized relationships and business [01:56]
The three most impactful experiences of his life [10:20]
Psychedelics and personal growth [17:45]
How he’s able to stay driven and work 100 hours a week using gamification [29:29]
The role mentors have played in Kalvin’s life [39:15]
The books that have played the biggest role in his life [56:05]
Kalvin’s transition to long-term relationships [58:57]
Is it time for Robbie to settle down? [1:25:17]
The key traits to look for in a partner [1:50:50]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

ChoiceCenter

Think and Grow Rich

The 4-Hour Workweek

89: Andrew Lindy (The Travel Bum)

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On this episode I have a conversation with Andrew Lindy (The Travel Bum), a fashion photographer, travel photographer, and dating coach who created the Travel Bum Show focusing on dating culture and social dynamics around the world.

Show Notes:

Going from feeling alone in this world to meeting women all around the world [03:51]
Finding the common humanity in everyone, and how it helps when meeting women [07:10]
How Robbie noticed a calming, still energy in Andrew [09:19]
Meditation, and Andrew’s advice for Robbie’s struggles with it [12:03]
How Andrew’s travel photography career developed out of his experience in college [15:40]
How Andrew got into fashion photography and started photographing models [29:40]
Turning street approaches into a TV show [45:25]
Differences in dating culture around the world [51:30]
The most influential books he’s read [63:39]
And much more…

Significant quotes:

“Who the fuck knows how anything is going on? At some point, you just start doing shit.”

Links Mentioned:

The Andrew Show

The Travel Bum Show

Instagram @andrewlindy

Travel Bum Productions – YouTube