Robbie Kramer

90: Kalvin Paul

On this episode I have a conversation with Kalvin Paul, a lifestyle design expert and entrepreneur who discusses his personal journey, and how his growth as an entrepreneur has fueled his lifestyle.

Show Notes:

Kalvin’s approach to lifestyle design, and how he optimized relationships and business [01:56]
The three most impactful experiences of his life [10:20]
Psychedelics and personal growth [17:45]
How he’s able to stay driven and work 100 hours a week using gamification [29:29]
The role mentors have played in Kalvin’s life [39:15]
The books that have played the biggest role in his life [56:05]
Kalvin’s transition to long-term relationships [58:57]
Is it time for Robbie to settle down? [1:25:17]
The key traits to look for in a partner [1:50:50]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

ChoiceCenter

Think and Grow Rich

The 4-Hour Workweek

89: Andrew Lindy (The Travel Bum)

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On this episode I have a conversation with Andrew Lindy (The Travel Bum), a fashion photographer, travel photographer, and dating coach who created the Travel Bum Show focusing on dating culture and social dynamics around the world.

Show Notes:

Going from feeling alone in this world to meeting women all around the world [03:51]
Finding the common humanity in everyone, and how it helps when meeting women [07:10]
How Robbie noticed a calming, still energy in Andrew [09:19]
Meditation, and Andrew’s advice for Robbie’s struggles with it [12:03]
How Andrew’s travel photography career developed out of his experience in college [15:40]
How Andrew got into fashion photography and started photographing models [29:40]
Turning street approaches into a TV show [45:25]
Differences in dating culture around the world [51:30]
The most influential books he’s read [63:39]
And much more…

Significant quotes:

“Who the fuck knows how anything is going on? At some point, you just start doing shit.”

Links Mentioned:

The Andrew Show

The Travel Bum Show

Instagram @andrewlindy

Travel Bum Productions – YouTube

88: Brian Begin

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On this episode I have a conversation with Brian Begin, the founder of FEARLESS. Brian specializes in presence work: getting people “out of their heads” (over-analysis) and into a deeper, more conscious relationship with their bodies.

Brian discusses his personal transformation and how he went from being so shy that he hated to talk to people, to being one of the most sought out hypnotherapists for men and running a massively successful coaching business. He also offers his unique experience on how he overcome gut problems and health issues that most guys overlook.

Show Notes:

Why and how Inner Confidence was created [08:55]
The steps Brian took to be able to travel as much as he wants and run an international business [18:24]
Building a multi-million dollar business and traveling full time despite not being a Type A personality [21:50]
Why gut damage and chronic inflammation can affect your mood and confidence [28:30[
The easiest way to heal gut issues [31:18]
Brian’s experience with the carnivore diet and how he improved it [35:31]
Consistency and why it matters [58:45]
The biggest leverage points he’s identified in life [60:35]
The only piece of dating advice from this episode [67:01]
And much more…

Links Mentioned:

The Fearless Man

The Fearless Man YouTube Channel

Joe Rogan interview with Jordan Peterson

Joe Rogan interview with Dr. Shawn Baker

The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

87: Gordon Cowie (Meditation)

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On this episode I have a conversation with Gordon Cowie, a movie director, experienced meditator, and men’s coach, who discusses his personal transformation through meditation and how you can recreate breakthroughs just like his. He shares his own personal journey of how he overcoming childhood trauma, developed abundance with women, and success in his professional life as a movie director.

Show Notes:

How Gordon was exposed to early childhood trauma, including [01:30]
His slow but steady journey into personal growth begins [5:25]
Why Gordon did something everyone advises against, and cashed out his 401k [08:10]
How Robbie’s best friend’s experience on his deathbed brought him to meditation [12:55]
The crazy experience he had on his first 10 day of silence Vipassana meditation retreat [16:50]
How you carry pain from past traumas in your body [19:00]
How he woke up with the sensation of someone cutting off his leg with a chainsaw then realized that his pain of fear of women was gone [21:20]
The transformation he experienced after his first meditation retreat, including how it changed his interactions with women [31:51]
Gordon’s daily meditation practice [35:39]
What he would say to someone who’s skeptical of meditation [45:46]
Robbie’s struggle with meditation [49:36]
His experience with girls who aren’t into personal development [52:50]
How he shot his first feature film [55:21]
The biggest leverage points he’s identified in life [60:35. 64:56]
And much more…

Significant quotes:

“Vipassana was the one thing I found where it just felt like it was endless and limitless.” [11:44]

“Life’s still gonna life. Good shit’s gonna happen; bad shit’s gonna happen.” [12:30]

Links Mentioned:

Gordon Cowie website

Seven Devils movie trailer

Vipassana Meditation

86: James Whittet

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On this episode I have a conversation with James Whittet, a professional mindset coach, former poker professional and digital nomad, who shares his secrets on getting past your negative internal dialogue and adopting a healthy, positive, mindset.

Show Notes:

Expected Value and ICM poker terms that relate to life > [05:30]
How James taught himself how to focus without drugs [20:43]
The best meditation app [22:00]
James’s favorite book [28:00]
The bet that changed his life [40:24]
How James was able to work 14 hour days for 68/73 days [51:14]
How to avoid the egoic self-image around money and women [53:14]
Building your castle before you find your queen [1:01:04]
His experience with Ayahuasca [1:04:03]
The four targets that your career must hit [1:07:05]
The important of choosing a legit Ayahuasca Center [1:13:00]
The “Stoned Ape Theory”[1:16:03]
Problems Underneath It All: The voice in head is a dickhead, you don’t love yourself, and you don’t feel like you’re good enough [1:17:40]
“But is it true” – Stop asking yourself if things are true and instead ask if it useful [1:20:15]
And much more…

Significant quotes:

“It’s not our darkness that scares us, it’s our light.” [1:02:00]

“The one thing you want to turn away from is what you turn toward because that’s the thing that will make you better” [1:19:10]

“You can be right or you can be happy – Chris Rock” [1:20:46]

“We’re in an era now where the strange and unique is accepted and interesting” [44:45]

Links Mentioned:

Instagram.com/jameswhittet
[email protected]

What Women Really Think About Your Beard

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My friend Wesley, over at iManscape. wrote an article around that subject that focuses on what women really think of men with beards. He broke down information from many studies into an easy to read article covering the topic and threw in some tips for the men.

Some of the data might surprise you…

https://imanscape.com/what-women-think-about-beards/

85: Jason Hartman

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On this episode I have a wide-ranging conversation with Jason Hartman where we discuss everything from traveling around the world, to modern dating cultures, to the recent Hugh Hefner documentary.

84: Sasha (Lifestyle)

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On this episode we have Sasha, one of the moderators from the Leverage Program. Sasha is one of the best guys I know with women. He’s a former professional poker player and startup founder who’s been a digital nomad for nearly a decade. We go in depth into how his eccentric upbringing and life formed the foundation of who he is today, and how underrated skills like pattern recognition and body language make him amazing with women.

Meeting women through nightlife

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My buddy Drew is on the short list of people I respect in the world of nightclub promoting. He’s the newest moderator in the Leverage Program, and he has a great story of how he stumbled on club promoting and became wildly successful at it.

Last week I had him on the podcast where we talked about his story. He shares his tips of how normal guys can be successful in the nightlife scene. Check out the episode here.

This week, I’m bringing him back to discuss how you can use nightlife networking skills to meet women and have fun when you go out. Meeting women through nightlife can be easy when you’re using the right skills.

Enter Drew.

Guys often ask me how they can get started in promoting. They know that it’s probably the easiest way in the world to meet hot girls, and that you can even get paid doing it.

The fact is, it’s a lot more straightforward than most guys think. You can start doing it without even having any connections. What you need to do is make sure you have at least 5 hot girls that will go out with you consistently. If you don’t have girls your first night, or you do and they’re not up to par, you’ll have a tough time.

But that’s not as hard as it sounds, because getting your first 5 girls is a great way to practice casual conversation as your opener instead of “hitting on” them. Create a friendly back and forth and if you think they fit the bill, end with “Some friends and I got a table tonight at so and so club, you should join us. Feel free to invite a friend.”

Having her invite out one friend creates a non-threatening hang out scenario since it isn’t one-on-one. If she has fun time with you maybe you even get laid, but I don’t recommend this if you can’t constantly pull in new groups of girls because if anything goes wrong she stops coming out with you and so do her friends.

Be careful with asking her to invite more than one friend because almost every group of girls has a DUFF: the Designated Ugly Fat Friend. But most likely a hot girl has a hot best friend, so it’s cool to ask for one friend. In a nightclub scenario, if she brings an ugly friend she might not get in and she probably knows that if she’s hot and been to any nice club before.

Once you have a solid group, it’s really as simple as going to the club. Nine out of ten times even just a decent looking dude with a few hot girls will get in with no problems.

From there, find a promoter table. Promoter tables are easy to find. Look for tables that have the most girls and the cheapest liquor, and a guy who looks like he is auditioning for an H&M campaign (even I was guilty of this). That guys is probably the promoter in charge.

Politely introduce yourself and say you have a group of girls and you were just looking to join a table. If he’s not a douche, he will invite you to join. Promoters always love more girls at their table, and will always try to flex on other promoters based on quality and quantity.

Now, if promoting for you is strictly for your social circle, you don’t even have to mention to the guy that you want to promote. Just say something like “dude, I always have girls with me looking to go out. I’m not looking to get paid, but would definitely like a consistent group to go out and hang with.” If he knows anything about promoting as a business he’ll bring you in. We call them “key guys”. It gives the girls another guy to talk to at the table who isn’t a creep and it frees up the promoter to stop babysitting, roam the club, and grab more girls/shake hands/bullshit with staff, and everything else he’s expected to do.

If you are looking to get paid for some side income, just ask. “Hey man, I’ve been looking to get into this and I always have girls that want to go out. Any chance I can work with you”? Again, promoters love this. Sub-promoters allow the main promoter to do half the work and they only have to pay you on what you agree to.

Most importantly, after you’ve done all of this, don’t get to wrapped up in the party. Remember, this is for your social circle. Talk to everyone, shake hands, suck up to the client next to you and always be looking to make new associates. They’ll invite you to other events and parties, and each time they do so you level up, since you’re constantly meeting new people. Most of the time they have lucrative careers which helps social validation to a girl you’re talking to (because how many rich guys hang out with broke dudes that don’t work for them in some capacity lol).

And also a PS for if and when you’re invited in to the table- always remember you’re a guest at that table. Don’t double pour your drinks, don’t hit on the girls you don’t know, don’t be rambunctious. 99% of girls will tell you they prefer a guy who keeps their cool in party situation: somewhere between having a great time and you couldn’t care less about being there. And finally, you don’t want to drink too much and embarrass yourself because that limits your access to the table in the future.

I hope you enjoyed that writeup from Drew. For more on how to optimize your experience at clubs, check out this article I wrote on the Unspoken Rules of Bottle Service.

83: The Digital Nomad Lifestyle

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In this episode, we discuss the myth of the digital nomad lifestyle, and how time management skills are still crucial even when you have freedom and full-time travel.

We bring on two full-time digital nomads who talk about their lessons learned, and why most digital nomads have bad dating lives.

We also go in depth about how to leverage your skill in a way you’re passionate about and use it to create a side hustle or a new career.