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The Words Don’t Matter

by Robbie Leave a Comment

When you're walking up to a girl and meeting her, your first impression is crucial, but there's one step here that I see a lot of guys mess up. They're so nervous that they forget to use the same social skills they use in all their other interactions. When you're nervous, your intelligence drops. Your fight or flight system gets triggered. You get overly literal and hang onto every word she says. Contrast that to a conversation you have with a close friend or a family member. In these interactions, you're able to read the emotions beneath their words. If you came home and said to your … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Social Skills, Uncomfortable

You Should Watch Dating Shows

by Robbie Leave a Comment

You guys should be watching TONS of dating shows. I've watched almost every episode of Blind Date, Millionaire Matchmaker, Elimidate, Singled Out, etc...reality TV's finest programming. I'm sure I picked up a million how to's, do's and dont's, and pop culture references. If you're not consistently meeting women this is a must do. And guess what, these shows are immensely entertaining so this exercise is easy. While nerds were playing Starcraft, I was watching reality dating shows on my 85 inch tv. Watching dates is one of the best ways to study human psychology. It is politically … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Procrastination, Uncomfortable Tagged With: dating shows

Where You Should Be Meeting Women

by Robbie Leave a Comment

It's Friday night and you've got your dancing shoes on, except you don't actually care about dancing tonight- you're single and you are going out to meet women. You and a buddy are trying to decide where to go. "There's a new club that just opened, kinda a hipster scene, but the chicks are hot, bro!"    "I'm not into hipster chicks, but whatever...If they're hot, let's go check it out!" you respond. Sound familiar? Places like that are a waste of the limited free time you have! Busy guys quickly forget how much the environment of places we go out to affects our ability to meet … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Procrastination, Uncomfortable

Embarass Yourself to Overcome Social Anxiety

by Robbie 2 Comments

James, Leverage Program moderator, doing a social freedom exercise in Budapest

One of my favorite Inner Confidence exercises is our social freedom exercises. We do things like lie down in a crowded public area, pretend to text on our phones in a crosswalk until the light turns green and we get honked at, and go to Chipotle and ask for free guacamole. Pictured left is Leverage Program moderator, doing a social freedom exercise during this year's EuroTrip in Budapest. The point of these exercises is to embarrass yourself in public and learn to deal with whatever reaction you get. There's actual psychology behind it: the original cognitive-behavioral therapist Albert Ellis … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Blog, Confidence, Connection, Inner Game, Procrastination, Uncomfortable Tagged With: albert ellis, cognitive behavioral therapy, confidence, Embarrass Yourself, Inner Confidence, overcoming shyness, rational emotive behavioral therapy, REBT, shame-attacking exercises, shyness, social anxiety, social anxiety disorder, social confidence, social freedom exercises, social mishap exposure

The 3 F’s: How to Become An Expert At Anything

by Robbie Leave a Comment

I love when someone tells me that something is "simple, but not easy." Many of the best things in life fit this saying. Fitness. Nutrition. Confidence. Meeting women. Day game. These areas have simple rules for success, and then they require hard work applying those rules. Expert performance is the same way. It's simple, but not easy. How simple? The path to becoming an expert can be broken down into three steps that anyone can understand and apply immediately. 1. Focus This doesn't mean a general sense of focus. This is referring to taking a microscope on the skills that comprise … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Confidence, Connection, Inner Game, Procrastination, Uncomfortable Tagged With: become an expert, Inner Confidence, meet more women, meeting women, Robbie Kramer

Why Getting Rejected Is Good…

by Robbie 22 Comments

Why is rejection so scary? Our society does a great job of instilling shame in men. Growing up as kids, and even into our adult lives, we’re told toxic messages that can hold us back for a lifetime. Sometimes this shame originates from the people around us. Our parents or friends tell us these messages explicitly: that guy’s a player and you shouldn’t be like that. Or they could be more subtle messages from the media and movies: in order to get a girl to like you, you need to be nice and submissive. People mean well when they give us this kind of advice. Despite their good intentions, … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Confidence, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Inner Game, Procrastination, Uncomfortable Tagged With: dealing with rejection, fear, get rejected more, getting rejected by women, meet more women, meeting women, rejection, social anxiety

5 Ways To Always Be In Style

by Carly Leave a Comment

Women pay attention to your clothing. Your personal style can signal your positive, attractive traits, or it can repel hot women away from you. What's the minimalist, easy way to make sure you always look good? It's simple. Keep items in your wardrobe that will always be in style, and nail down your fundamentals. 1. The White Shirt Any combination of crew-neck/long sleeve or long sleeve/v-neck will work. You could even explore different styles of dress shirts if you want to. Make sure you get a few of each style that works for you. White gets dirty easily, and to a woman, there’s nothing … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Confidence, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Fashion, Uncomfortable Tagged With: always be in style, meet women, meeting women, style

Building Location Independence

by Robbie Leave a Comment

Guest post by Patrick, Leverage Program member For the past month, I have been building a new lifestyle for myself. I've been working towards complete location independence. I spoke with a friend yesterday who's also interested in a similar lifestyle. He wants to work remotely and travel comfortably, while not depleting his bank account. I told him he should work while he travels, and his first response to me was “It’s a good idea, but I'm just trying to figure out the kind of work I can do while I travel. I've been in the restaurant industry for 15 years, and the skills I have aren’t … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Connection, Lifestyle, Wealth

You Should Dump Your Girlfriend

by Robbie 1 Comment

Guest post by Jay, Leverage Program member It’s easy to fall into the trap of letting a girl who isn’t really a good fit for you stick around because she prevents you from feeling lonely. We all feel lonely at times. It’s part of the human condition. And for guys who aren’t naturally good with women, it’s normal to feel lonely most or even all of the time. When you start developing your skills, having success is inevitable. You’ll start to get numbers, you’ll start to get dates, you’ll start to make out with women, and you’ll start to sleep with ones you like. Once you start … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Access, Blog, Confidence, Connection, Dating & Attraction, Procrastination, Uncomfortable Tagged With: authentic dating, dating advice, get a girlfriend, get better with women, get laid, get laid more, girlfriend, meeting women, Robbie Kramer, seduction, sleep with her, taking risks, threesomes

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