Why you should be rock climbing (for dating).... I googled ‘rock climbing gym’ then hit images. Notice how many girls are in the images. 18 reasons why you should do this: There are days I’ve gone to a climbing gym and there have been 42 girls and 26 guys. Groups of 2-4 girls often go climbing. Climbing is very social. It’s totally normal for one group of randoms to make friends with another group of randoms. In one session you could in theory talk to 20 people. You could also talk to zer0 if you choose. Both are common. If you meet a girl and she climbs, she’s in shape … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Mistakes To Avoid
In my early 20s I sucked with women. I was fat. I wasn't making any money. I didn't know how to dress. No wonder I couldn't get dates. I wanted to change everything at once. I didn't know what to do. Things are different now. I date hot women. I choose what kind of relationships I want. I'm in shape. All of the problems of the typical American dude are solved in my life. I never have to settle. I don't feel guilty bragging about my lifestyle because I hustled my ass off to get here. So how did I get here? I got here because I failed. A lot. I've made the same mistakes … [Read more...]
Which is more important: looks or confidence?
I'm 5'8 and almost obese. I've never received attention from women the past year despite becoming more social. 3 years ago, when I was almost 40 pounds slimmer, I took a summer class and I noticed the prettiest girl in class hitting on me. However I was too aloof to notice that she was interested. Why do people keep saying that attracting women relies on confidence when my experience proves otherwise? When people say that being attractive to women relies on confidence, they’re correct. But being attractive isn’t solely about confidence. A healthy sense of confidence isn’t enough to overcome … [Read more...]
The Value of Coaching We Often Forget
Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator One of the biggest influences during my childhood wasn’t a part of my family, schooling, or friends. It was my soccer coach, Brian Malloy. As a child, I was always willing to listen to what he said. He was a major part of my life. He pushed me to be a better teammate, a better player, and to achieve success in and out of the classroom. My life would be drastically different without his coaching in my adolescence. During adulthood, I lost the understanding of how valuable a coach can be. Growing up I needed people who saw the world … [Read more...]
Healthy Eating 101…When You’re A Lazy Fuck
Guest post by Jay, Leverage Program member and resident lazy fuck Let’s be real: you want to have a great body that makes women go crazy, but grocery shopping, healthy eating, and constant cooking sounds like a bitch. It's actual work, and just thinking about it makes me tired. Actually, I’m gonna take a nap right now instead of finishing this article. I’m so fucking sleepy. Wake me up at 3pm. Goodnight. But really, it’s very simple. There are two types of lazy people. 1. Smart lazy people who build a good system and sit on auto pilot kicking ass yet putting in no effort 2. Dumb lazy … [Read more...]
The Keys To Fixing Your Body Language
Body language is one of the most important ways you communicate. Women and successful men perceive what your body language shows about you in less than a second. Since it's processed on the subconscious level, your body language will make or break the interaction before you ever open your mouth. Unfortunately, guys who didn’t grow up with a masculine, athletic, macho, infrastructure in their lives never absorbed the confident body language that turns women on, so they're at a disadvantage on the dating market. Being aware of your own unconfident body language is a crucial step, … [Read more...]
How To Assess Your Fitness Level & Hit The Next Milestone
6 Reasons Why You’re Screwing Yourself If You Don’t Work Out
I graduated high school as a shy nerdy kid, and one of the things that has helped me the most in coming out of my shell and getting more confident socially has been working out, which I started taking seriously in college. Inner Confidence places a lot of weight on getting the fundamentals down, and working out is one of those fundamentals for good reason. If you aren’t working out regularly, you’re screwing yourself over, and making it a lot harder to connect with women. Here are my favorite reasons why: 1. It's one of the best conversation starters. At Inner Confidence we talk … [Read more...]
Young Men Age 18-24, A Note To My Younger Self…
I sat in my office earlier today listening to Pandora when Brad Paisley's "Letter to Me" came on (I'm from Texas give me a break). It's basically a song about the advice the older Brad Paisley would give to his 17 year old self. This made me think of you. A blank canvas.You're very forward-thinking which is impressive for a 17 year old. I applaud you, sir - stay in this group and you're going to be absolutely unstoppable by the time you've finished your education. Having just turned 24, I realize that I have very little time left in the 18-24 young adult age bracket. Which is a good thing … [Read more...]
The 21 Convention is BACK!
My favorite personal growth event of all time and one of the only events I endorse is coming back after a 2 year hiatus in October to Tampa, Florida. I hosted both the London 2012 and Austin 2012 21 Conventions put on by Anthony Johnson and I've never met a cooler, more down to earth, walking their path to greatness, athletic, cool and eager to learn group of guys. I realize that last sentence was full of grammatical errors but you get my point. Click Here for More Info If you want your life to improve, you've got to start spending time with people who will make you better. If … [Read more...]
