For most men searching for dating advice, the stages of development when it comes to being comfortable creating sexual tension are as followed:

Stage 1. Boring nice guy with no edge

Stage 2. Creepy thirsty dude

Stage 3. The perfect balance

In fact, if you're not called out on being too aggressive at least once in a while, you're not pushing hard enough.

The Push Pull Technique Explained:

The pushing strategy is when you're giving her love, attention and validation.

The pulling strategy is when you're ignoring her, challenging her, not validating her and giving her space.

Sometimes these terms are referred to online as push-pull strategy or the push-pull technique.

Men who employ a push strategy tend to get more action because just like anything in life, the best results favor the brave. Unfortunately the push method will also increase the chances of blowing it with really high quality women who have other accessible options.

Then he could have continued to push, then pull, it's a dance.

This is not just some cheap dating tactic. It's actually how a normal interaction between a guy with high level social skills and an attractive woman in his target audience should go. Both have other options so it's normal that neither would have to push too hard.

The key to understanding the push pull method is knowing what constitutes a push and a pull and when to execute. Here's a sample list of different ways to push and pull.

Push:

• stating direct intent "I had to risk embarrassing the hell out of myself by flirting with you in the grocery store"

• touching (keep it subtle and friendly at first)

• eye contact

• positive body language (facing her square on)

• active listening

• asking questions

• complimenting

• asking for contact info

• eye contact with a sultry gaze

• asking out

• texting

• going in for a kiss

• sexual escalation

• saying yes

• messaging on social media and watching stories

Pull:

• teasing, disqualifying

• negative body language

• feigning interest/banter "you're like my bratty little sister"

• playfully lying and getting caught

• leaving

• ignoring

• icing (not responding to texts)

• saying no

• ignoring her on social media

If there’s something I missed, please add to this list by leaving a comment.

The way most guys screw up is that we push, push, push.

She pushes back a little if attracted but then she pulls away and you push harder. If she pulls away, you must follow suit and do the same. To make matters worse, if she pulls away and you get awkward/angry/salty, you can pretty much kiss any chances of sex with her goodbye.

For example, if you go in for the kiss and she gives you the cheek and you get uncomfortable she will feel uncomfortable and pull away more. But if you stay relaxed and say:

"that was an A+ kiss dodge, you're good, but stay on your toes, I'm gonna try again before you know it "

It shows that you are unfazed and confident.

The ultimate time to pull away is when she is pushing, but this is fragile because you don't want to pull away too hard or she'll get upset/angry/salty and tell you to f-off.

I took a girl out for a date after meeting her at a bar. We made out heavily at the end of the date then I went home. I didn't text her after the date or worry about a time restraint, I only responded to her texts. I also didn't push to see her again because I was so busy.

She got salty and upset and told me not to contact her again, but the truth is, it just made her want me more and put in a much better post date starting position.

Optimal play would have been to push back and show her more love, because if you pull away too hard she'll think you're a huge player with infinity options and won't trust you.

There are so many more examples, but hopefully you get the hint. If she likes you, pulling away will make her want you more. So don't forget to behave as if you have a ton of options and a girl being attracted to you is a normal, everyday thing.

If you push back every time she pushes, you'll look like an eager beaver and she'll know she's got you wrapped around her finger.

Never ask out twice in a row, rarely send multiple texts (3 or more) without a response, never push for sexual escalation if she isn't initiating at all either or at least showing signs of pleasure. Just get a little bit better at reading women and thinking about the push pull method each day and it will pay huge dividends down the road.

If you're having trouble reading her signals, which is vital for knowing when to make a move, this is for you:

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Cheers,

Robbie