It's simple: develop traits that women find attractive, learn how to show those traits in a socially intelligent way, and build a social lifestyle. That's how you attract women into your life. It's how authenticity becomes one of the most attractive traits you can develop. It's not about learning tactics and techniques to seduce women. It's about learning to become someone that women want to meet. The emotional patterns in your life will dictate the kinds of women you attract. The behaviors you practice regularly will define the kinds of women you meet. For example, take … [Read more...]
When You’re Objective, You Take More Risks
One of the most effective actions you can take to improve your life is developing your ability to think objectively. Most people think emotionally. Yes, this includes men, who often assume they are rational and impervious to the effects of emotions on their thinking. Men tend to have blind spots in this area just as much as women. People usually look at their situation, whatever it may be, come up with one possible outcome, and only focus on that outcome happening. Emotions drive the estimate of the outcome occurring. This human tendency is the reason why the mainstream news media … [Read more...]
Only Losers Need Plans
Through the years of developing the Inner Confidence curriculum, we've compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do. There are 10,000 subtle behaviors that add up to someone's overall success or failure: word choice, behavior, social ecosystem, etc. We hear the words "winners" and "losers" and don't pay much attention to them because they sound like generic, silly words. I really like them and think they don't get enough credit. Most decisions we make, even things we do that we don't realize are decisions, lead towards a win or a loss. Losers frequently make … [Read more...]
Snappy One Liners
1) Thank you. We're all refreshed and challenged by your unique point of view. 2) The fact that no one understands you doesn't mean you're an artist. 3) I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce. 4) Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental. 5) I have plenty of talent and vision. I just don't give a damn. 6) I like you. You remind me of when I was young and stupid. 7) What am I? Flypaper for freaks? 8) I'm not being rude. You're just insignificant. 9) I'm already visualizing the masking tape over your mouth. 10) … [Read more...]
Success Is Closer Than You Think
Ever hear the saying don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good? Nowhere is this more true than when you’re learning how to be better with women. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be good enough. A lot of the advice out there is aiming at perfection. And this is counterproductive for improving your skills and improving your life. Because here’s the thing: guys today have set the bar very low. Ask any woman about her frustrations with dating, and she’ll tell you that most guys are terrible: They don’t have the empathy to be able to picture what a woman actually wants … [Read more...]
Are You Overlooking This Crucial Dating Principle?
Being attractive to women requires the willingness to tolerate ambiguity. Because you can never control every factor in a situation and you can’t read anyone’s mind, social situations in general are ambiguous. Nowhere is this more true than with dating. At a bar, a girl could make eye contact with you because she’s interested, or because something in your direction caught her eye. She could be laughing because she genuinely thinks you’re funny, or because she feels bad for you. She could have ignored your attempt to set up a date because she is busy with work, or because she wants you to … [Read more...]
How to Get Over the Pain of Rejection
Every man in the world has experienced being rejected by a woman (or if he hasn’t, he’s too scared to talk to a woman in the first place). I’ve felt it. My buddies have felt it. I know you’ve felt it otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article. There’s no doubt about it, getting a “no” totally sucks. It hurts. You might start thinking, “God, I suck. I’m horrible with women...” and that makes things even worse. Fortunately, there’s a solution and you don’t have to live with the pain of rejection forever. Making the Transition All my clients come to me because they’re sick of being … [Read more...]
The Keys To Fixing Your Body Language
Body language is one of the most important ways you communicate. Women and successful men perceive what your body language shows about you in less than a second. Since it's processed on the subconscious level, your body language will make or break the interaction before you ever open your mouth. Unfortunately, guys who didn’t grow up with a masculine, athletic, macho, infrastructure in their lives never absorbed the confident body language that turns women on, so they're at a disadvantage on the dating market. Being aware of your own unconfident body language is a crucial step, … [Read more...]
The Quickest Way To Move Past Social Fear
When you're feeling fear or anxiety, the most important action to take isn't one that reduces anxiety. It's the action that reduces your avoidance, and makes you face whatever it is you're anxious about. The next time you’re in a situation where you’re feeling a negative emotion, especially fear, takes these three steps. Over time, they will train the subconscious part of your brain to do it automatically, and they take less than a minute. 1. Think of the best possible outcome This helps you determine what actions you need to take to reach that outcome. It helps you see what part of … [Read more...]
Review of the IC Introductory Workshop
We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area. I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it's very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster. And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot. (Review of The Phoenix Workshop - By Jad Morris) I'm at … [Read more...]
