A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
Are You Playing To Win?
Most guys who originally sucked with women, me included, have a tendency to be overly risk averse. Sometimes I joke about how it's the result of having a Jewish mother or an Asian mother, but that joke hides a grain of truth- that risk aversion is often a thinking habit you learn in your childhood from your family, and carry with you throughout life. But we're not here to blame our dating problems on childhood. The good thing about this tendency for guys is that it isn't actually that they have low tolerance for risk. Rather, it's because they view their decisions situations in an absolute … [Read more...]
How To Become An International Sex Symbol
The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals. Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others. They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not. Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, … [Read more...]
The 3 Stages of Cool
The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls. A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group. It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it. Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance. 95% of the time, geeks and nerds are wearing clothes that are too big for them and it instantly gives them away as not … [Read more...]
Prepare To Have Your Mind Blown – AMA With One of The Smartest Guys You’ll Ever Know
Introducing Dan. You guys have heard me talk about him a shitload. He is a well of knowledge about anything money, business, execution, follow through, career, etc. His credentials include Stanford undergrad, and a Harvard MBA. He's disgustingly well read, wealthier than God, and an all-around life beast. Dan was a fund manager (retired at 36) and now spends his time managing his monies, partying, and acting half-insane. What were some things that Justin did early on when you first met that made you like him? What made you decide to mentor him? Could this be applied globally? I didn't … [Read more...]
How to Avoid Feeling Salty After Getting Rejected
I wanted to share a concept I learned from Tony Robbins that I had shared with our one-on-one client. It's a very simple concept, but can be a game changer that can completely turn your ship around if it's headed in the wrong direction. You can't change your past and the events that have occurred, but you can change what it means to you. For example, you may have approached a girl, not known what to say, fumbled the conversation, and got denied for the phone number. That's what happened. Nothing you can do to change that event. Now it's up to you to derive meaning from … [Read more...]
How to use “Hard Data” to improve your dating life
Whether we’re talking about the real or the online world, both are absolutely stuffed with soft data. Hard data, on the other hand, is difficult to find. I don’t care what subject is in question, soft data abounds. It’s especially prevalent when it comes to making money, starting a business or just creating an incredible lifestyle. Let’s look at the simple difference between the two. Hard Data (Measurable and Direct) Hard data is what you’re seeking right now. You want to know exactly what these things are. Hard data is specific; it’s niche. Hard data is something that can … [Read more...]
The Truth About Confidence
Think about when you were a kid learning to ride a bike. Were you confident when you started? Probably not. Did you have any logical reason to be confident? No way. But what happened? Despite being unconfident about your abilities, you persisted and continued to practice. Over time, you slowly got better, and once you became proficient, you became confident. You didn't feel confident until you became good, and you ONLY became confident because you became good. This is an important idea: we don't get confident in things until after we become good at them. The “common sense” idea that we … [Read more...]
Forget every motivational speech you have ever read/heard- the real secret is coming
Forget every motivational speech you have ever read/heard- the real secret is coming....and this applies to getting women Ive read em all, watched em all. Every Steve Jobs keynote speech, Mark Cuban interview about execution, Kobe Bryant talk about hard work. We talk about this stuff a lot in the Leverage program: Taking pride in your work Executing no matter what, even if you have to kill yourself to do it Beast mode-ing Positioning yourself for opportunity Investing in human capital Etc... I think successful people have several skills that separate them from others, … [Read more...]
What makes “naturals” different?
By naturals, I mean guys who – without studying game -- consistently attract hotter and higher quality girls than what their looks and social status would normally predict. Almost every natural I know has one important thing in common: a versatile, adaptable personality. Naturals intuitively adjust to the social situation at hand. They sense the emotional vibe in a room and act accordingly. They understand how to relate to different people in different ways. At work, they are analytical. In sports, they are competitive. They are loud and funny at the bar, more subdued in smaller … [Read more...]
