Body language is one of the most important ways you communicate. Women and successful men perceive what your body language shows about you in less than a second. Since it's processed on the subconscious level, your body language will make or break the interaction before you ever open your mouth. Unfortunately, guys who didn’t grow up with a masculine, athletic, macho, infrastructure in their lives never absorbed the confident body language that turns women on, so they're at a disadvantage on the dating market. Being aware of your own unconfident body language is a crucial step, … [Read more...]
The Quickest Way To Move Past Social Fear
When you're feeling fear or anxiety, the most important action to take isn't one that reduces anxiety. It's the action that reduces your avoidance, and makes you face whatever it is you're anxious about. The next time you’re in a situation where you’re feeling a negative emotion, especially fear, takes these three steps. Over time, they will train the subconscious part of your brain to do it automatically, and they take less than a minute. 1. Think of the best possible outcome This helps you determine what actions you need to take to reach that outcome. It helps you see what part of … [Read more...]
Review of the IC Introductory Workshop
We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area. I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it's very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster. And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot. (Review of The Phoenix Workshop - By Jad Morris) I'm at … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety
A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
Are You Playing To Win?
Most guys who originally sucked with women, me included, have a tendency to be overly risk averse. Sometimes I joke about how it's the result of having a Jewish mother or an Asian mother, but that joke hides a grain of truth- that risk aversion is often a thinking habit you learn in your childhood from your family, and carry with you throughout life. But we're not here to blame our dating problems on childhood. The good thing about this tendency for guys is that it isn't actually that they have low tolerance for risk. Rather, it's because they view their decisions situations in an absolute … [Read more...]
How To Become An International Sex Symbol
The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals. Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others. They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not. Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, … [Read more...]
The 3 Stages of Cool…
The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls. A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group. It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it. Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance. 95% of the time, geeks and nerds are wearing clothes that are too big for them and it instantly gives them away as not … [Read more...]
Prepare To Have Your Mind Blown – AMA With One of The Smartest Guys You’ll Ever Know
Introducing Dan. You guys have heard me talk about him a shitload. He is a well of knowledge about anything money, business, execution, follow through, career, etc. His credentials include Stanford undergrad, and a Harvard MBA. He's disgustingly well read, wealthier than God, and an all-around life beast. Dan was a fund manager (retired at 36) and now spends his time managing his monies, partying, and acting half-insane. What were some things that Justin did early on when you first met that made you like him? What made you decide to mentor him? Could this be applied globally? I didn't … [Read more...]
How to Avoid Feeling Salty After Getting Rejected
I wanted to share a concept I learned from Tony Robbins that I had shared with our one-on-one client. It's a very simple concept, but can be a game changer that can completely turn your ship around if it's headed in the wrong direction. You can't change your past and the events that have occurred, but you can change what it means to you. For example, you may have approached a girl, not known what to say, fumbled the conversation, and got denied for the phone number. That's what happened. Nothing you can do to change that event. Now it's up to you to derive meaning from … [Read more...]
