More than looks, more than money, more than whatever hard-to-grasp definition you want to give to “value” or “status”, the most attractive aspect of a man, that x-factor that gets him attention, attraction and dates is… …fun. That's right! Fun. My actual favorite subject :) Making the transition from someone who wouldn't describe themselves as fun to being one of the most fun people in a room will involve forcing yourself to forget about nervousness or insecurity. Personally, I think the definition of being "fun" is being comfortable with who you are, while doing your best to … [Read more...]
The Truth About Goals & The Myth of Motivation
How Do I Get Motivation to Reach My Goals? You don’t. Everyone is wrong about motivation. You don’t need motivation to reach your goals, or to achieve success in life. So what is it that’s actually important? We all have this idea that becoming “successful” is a huge concept: a far away point to be reached, and when we get there, everything will be great. Along with this line of thinking is the idea that it takes a ton of motivation and major life changes to solve the everyday problems we face. But here’s the thing we’re never taught: that line of thinking is wrong. New research in … [Read more...]
Is it Possible to Change my Personality?
Where does personality come from? People describe each other by describing their traits: friendly, nice, arrogant, easy-going, etc. Traits are a collection of behaviors: if someone is charismatic, it means that they show behaviors that others think are charismatic. If someone is shy, it means they don’t go out of their way to connect with others. Any personality trait you wish to have can be broken down in terms of repeatable actions. Even something that seems abstract, like confidence, can be defined in terms of actions. For example, a confident guy is someone who approaches women … [Read more...]
The Four Reasons Why You Aren’t Reaching Your Goals
Once you’ve set goals and decided what it is you want to pursue in your life, it’s easy to get distracted and fail. For whatever reason, things come up and prevent you from accomplishing the goals you’ve determined are meaningful for you. What most people do when this happens is blame external factors: the economy is bad, it was someone else’s fault, I didn’t actually care about that goal anyway, etc. Instead of minimizing your disappointment when you fail to reach a goal, it is more important to focus on what responsibility you did play, and stop these common failure points from occurring … [Read more...]
Why Your Gut Instincts Are Often Wrong
When I work with clients, they participate in a private invite-only VIP group with me, moderators who are life beasts, and a collection of other guys who are all improving their skills with women, getting ripped, dressing like a boss and increasing their income. Almost every single one of them ended up in this group after a conversation with me where we discussed their sticking points and I presented them with this group as a solution. It probably felt uncomfortable, nerve wracking and possibly even annoying when I asked them to bust out their credit card because that was the point when … [Read more...]
Being Objective About Emotions
When making decisions, whether they’re major life decisions or day-to-day choices, one of the most important concepts is to be objective: to take in all of the relevant data, determine the possible outcomes, and choose the best choice based on the constraints. When doing this, emotions will f*ck you up. What stops people from reaching their goals nine times out of ten? Acting on short-term emotions instead of doing what they KNOW they need to do. Most people don’t come anywhere close to viewing their emotions objectively. What separates winners and losers is that winners are able to take … [Read more...]
8 Differences Between Winners and Losers
Through the years I have compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do: word choice, behavior, etc. A lot of this will be anecdotal evidence, but that's good enough for me. A client of ours said earlier, "I need a game plan" or something like that. 100% of my broke friends say things like that. "I think (but can't prove) I need a plan" is an excuse to not do anything. You get to feel okay about yourself masturbating and sitting on your lazy ass 24 hours a day getting nothing done cause you don't have a plan, cause boy oh boy once you have that magical plan you … [Read more...]
If She Could Only See Me for the Great Guy I Am
I know a lot of very wealthy, very successful, socially untrained men. Every single one of them is unhappy/feels like he's missing something important in life. In my experience, most men think they will be at a park one day and a conversation will magically happen with a gorgeous girl who is sweet, nice, educated and sees you for all your amazing non-shallow qualities. You will have true love and happiness forever. It does not work that way. This girl is attracted to confidence, leadership, and she will not see through to your amazing non-shallow qualities. Also, she has 400 guys hitting on … [Read more...]
Kill Your Approach Anxiety and Meet More Women
Who thinks it's a coincidence that the guys who improve the fastest with women are approaching the most? If you say, "Yeah, coincidence"... Immediate punch in face!! I've now been coaching guys in this field for a decade. Every dude out there complains about approach anxiety: "I don't know what to say," "I'll do it later." Excuse, excuse, excuse. I was introduced to PUA shortcuts via The Game in February of 2006. I finished the book in a day and went out that night to a bar in Mission Beach called the Beachcomber. It never even crossed my mind whether or not I was gonna approach. I … [Read more...]
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