When making decisions, whether they’re major life decisions or day-to-day choices, one of the most important concepts is to be objective: to take in all of the relevant data, determine the possible outcomes, and choose the best choice based on the constraints. When doing this, emotions will f*ck you up. What stops people from reaching their goals nine times out of ten? Acting on short-term emotions instead of doing what they KNOW they need to do. Most people don’t come anywhere close to viewing their emotions objectively. What separates winners and losers is that winners are able to take … [Read more...]
8 Differences Between Winners and Losers
Through the years I have compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do: word choice, behavior, etc. A lot of this will be anecdotal evidence, but that's good enough for me. A client of ours said earlier, "I need a game plan" or something like that. 100% of my broke friends say things like that. "I think (but can't prove) I need a plan" is an excuse to not do anything. You get to feel okay about yourself masturbating and sitting on your lazy ass 24 hours a day getting nothing done cause you don't have a plan, cause boy oh boy once you have that magical plan you … [Read more...]
If She Could Only See Me for the Great Guy I Am
I know a lot of very wealthy, very successful, socially untrained men. Every single one of them is unhappy/feels like he's missing something important in life. In my experience, most men think they will be at a park one day and a conversation will magically happen with a gorgeous girl who is sweet, nice, educated and sees you for all your amazing non-shallow qualities. You will have true love and happiness forever. It does not work that way. This girl is attracted to confidence, leadership, and she will not see through to your amazing non-shallow qualities. Also, she has 400 guys hitting on … [Read more...]
Kill Your Approach Anxiety and Meet More Women
Who thinks it's a coincidence that the guys who improve the fastest with women are approaching the most? If you say, "Yeah, coincidence"... Immediate punch in face!! I've now been coaching guys in this field for a decade. Every dude out there complains about approach anxiety: "I don't know what to say," "I'll do it later." Excuse, excuse, excuse. I was introduced to PUA shortcuts via The Game in February of 2006. I finished the book in a day and went out that night to a bar in Mission Beach called the Beachcomber. It never even crossed my mind whether or not I was gonna approach. I … [Read more...]
Why am I struggling with women?
If everyone likes you, chances are you're struggling with women. What if they don’t like me? What if they think I’m a jerk? What if I make them angry? What if they talk trash behind my back? “I had a realization today,” said Marty, one of my students. “What I realized is that to be successful and confident, not everyone is going to like me… And if I am pushing myself, I will most likely annoy and piss some people off because they may see me as a jerk, creepy or arrogant. But I can’t let that affect how I feel about myself.” Marty had this realization during a particular … [Read more...]
The Secret Ingredient for Lots of Success with Women
Back in the day, I was out with a small group of students at a new bar in west L.A. Prior to going out, we did a bunch of drills to help them get over their approach anxiety and have fun opening conversations. We were using some fairly edgy openers. But all of the guys in attendance had zero approach anxiety by the end of the night, and we all had a great time. How is it possible to say edgy things and deliver risky openers without worrying about what happens afterward? A conversation I had with one of my students who is a little older and less comfortable in bar environments really … [Read more...]
Don’t Make the Mistake of Setting the Wrong Goals
Have you ever gone out to a bar with the goal of getting a phone number, getting a kiss, getting some action or having great interactions? If your answer is “no,” then I know you're a liar! We've all been there and you may be wondering, “What’s wrong with doing that?” When we set a goal and it doesn’t happen, most of us beat ourselves up and decide to try harder next time. Next time rolls around and since we have decided to try harder, now we’re gonna make the goal even tougher and push ourselves even more. It doesn’t happen, and we beat ourselves up again. The problem is not … [Read more...]
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