"The research from psychology and behavioral economics is clear: We’re happier when we spend money on experiences, like traveling and other people, than when we spend it on material goods and ourselves." Check out my post that was recently featured on Elite Daily! … [Read more...]
How to Use the Friend Zone to Your Advantage
Guys complain to me all the time that they’ve been confined to the friend zone. They think they should be able to bang every girl they meet, and when they get pushed to the friend zone, they whine about it instead of strategically using it to their advantage. Dudes: STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE FRIEND ZONE. Here’s the thing, cute chicks hang around cute chicks. If some girl won’t sleep with you but she invites you out with her girls and you become friends, use that to your advantage. You roll into some bar with six cute girl friends and you’re golden. Not only does this seriously raise … [Read more...]
Building Your Ecosystem: Who’s Got Your Back?
One of the most important factors in improving your lifestyle, creating a better dating life, and having a masculine lifestyle, is who you choose to surround yourself with. Who you allow to influence your thinking dictates how you experience the world. You absorb the mental models and worldviews of the people in your ecosystems, and those beliefs can make or break you. The result: if there’s something you want to achieve, you need to be around people who are already doing it. If you want to get into the banking game or the hedge fund game, you don’t need to hang out with artists, you … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety
A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
Insights From A Dude Who Quit His $$ Job at Bloomberg To Travel The World
8 Keys To Bottle Service (From a Bottle Service Girl’s Perspective)
I was a bottle service cocktail waitress at a popular nightclub in San Francisco for 6 years. I've been around the block :) There are typically a few types of guys you will run into that buy tables. Once you have a better perspective of what everyone else is doing, it's easier to understand where you fit in and whether or not you're the type of person who would enjoy bottle service or if it makes more sense to meet women somewhere else. The 4 primary types of dudes who you'll see getting tables in the clubs these days When you understand the four different types of guys that girls … [Read more...]
The Secret to Being a Social Beast: Breach the Dork Forcefield and Hang with the Cool Kids
People ask me all the time, “What’s your secret to dating hot chicks, and how can I be more like you?” I can tell you, and I’m going to in just a minute, but you have to understand that you’re not going to become a social master in a day. Pulling your ideal chick is the result of a massive body of work. That body of work is essentially a lot of social practice: dating a lot of women, meeting a lot of women, having a lot of friends. So, what’s my secret? I have a massive amount of practice, experience and repetitions under my belt. And I hang out with people that add tons of value … [Read more...]
The 3 Stages of Cool
The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls. A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group. It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it. Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance. 95% of the time, geeks and nerds are wearing clothes that are too big for them and it instantly gives them away as not … [Read more...]
The Easiest Way to Become More Dynamic: Stop Dressing Like an Idiot!
At the end of the day, being dynamic is the greatest pitch ever. The “be all” and “end all” is becoming a man who’s witty, charismatic, driven, spontaneous and grounded: he’s dynamic. Being dynamic is the whole package – 360 degrees of awesome — and girls will pretty much do anything to be with a guy who’s dynamic. If you don’t know how to dress, it immediately sends out a signal that you’re not dynamic. Your appearance is the easiest and fastest way to communicate a message to others as to whether or not you’re worth spending time with. To a hot chick, if you don’t know how to dress, … [Read more...]
Prepare To Have Your Mind Blown – AMA With One of The Smartest Guys You’ll Ever Know
Introducing Dan. You guys have heard me talk about him a shitload. He is a well of knowledge about anything money, business, execution, follow through, career, etc. His credentials include Stanford undergrad, and a Harvard MBA. He's disgustingly well read, wealthier than God, and an all-around life beast. Dan was a fund manager (retired at 36) and now spends his time managing his monies, partying, and acting half-insane. What were some things that Justin did early on when you first met that made you like him? What made you decide to mentor him? Could this be applied globally? I didn't … [Read more...]
