Guest post by Cory, Leverage Program member I went to Brazil on the Inner Confidence Leverage trip and it changed my life. First, because this is Inner Confidence, I'll talk about the woman of Brazil and my experiences with them. Simply put, I fell in love three times this trip. I met more cooler girls in two weeks in Brazil than during the last year and a half in the states. There are three girls that I am actually upset that I am leaving, and cannot continue the connection that we were able to create. One actually spent most of the day trying to get me to change my flight and stay. All … [Read more...]
Little Decisions: What Most People Get Wrong
Being good at making little decisions is more important than being good at making big decisions. Being objective about your decisions is a key contributor to success. In my experience, educated and successful people say the word “objective” three times a day or more. Broke dick hippy fucktard bums say "open minded" 20 times a day. And being objective means recognizing what kinds of decisions you’re making. Some people are good at making big decisions, and some people are good at making little decisions. If you’re good at both, your life is easy. If you’re bad at both, your life is … [Read more...]
Only Losers Need Plans
Through the years of developing the Inner Confidence curriculum, we've compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do. There are 10,000 subtle behaviors that add up to someone's overall success or failure: word choice, behavior, social ecosystem, etc. We hear the words "winners" and "losers" and don't pay much attention to them because they sound like generic, silly words. I really like them and think they don't get enough credit. Most decisions we make, even things we do that we don't realize are decisions, lead towards a win or a loss. Losers frequently make … [Read more...]
How to Use the Friend Zone to Your Advantage
Guys complain to me all the time that they’ve been confined to the friend zone. They think they should be able to bang every girl they meet, and when they get pushed to the friend zone, they whine about it instead of strategically using it to their advantage. Dudes: STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE FRIEND ZONE. Here’s the thing, cute chicks hang around cute chicks. If some girl won’t sleep with you but she invites you out with her girls and you become friends, use that to your advantage. You roll into some bar with six cute girl friends and you’re golden. Not only does this seriously raise … [Read more...]
Building Your Ecosystem: Who’s Got Your Back?
One of the most important factors in improving your lifestyle, creating a better dating life, and having a masculine lifestyle, is who you choose to surround yourself with. Who you allow to influence your thinking dictates how you experience the world. You absorb the mental models and worldviews of the people in your ecosystems, and those beliefs can make or break you. The result: if there’s something you want to achieve, you need to be around people who are already doing it. If you want to get into the banking game or the hedge fund game, you don’t need to hang out with artists, you … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety
A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
Insights From A Dude Who Quit His $$ Job at Bloomberg To Travel The World
8 Keys To Bottle Service (From a Bottle Service Girl’s Perspective)
I was a bottle service cocktail waitress at a popular nightclub in San Francisco for 6 years. I've been around the block :) There are typically a few types of guys you will run into that buy tables. Once you have a better perspective of what everyone else is doing, it's easier to understand where you fit in and whether or not you're the type of person who would enjoy bottle service or if it makes more sense to meet women somewhere else. The 4 primary types of dudes who you'll see getting tables in the clubs these days When you understand the four different types of guys that girls … [Read more...]
The Secret to Being a Social Beast: Breach the Dork Forcefield and Hang with the Cool Kids
People ask me all the time, “What’s your secret to dating hot chicks, and how can I be more like you?” I can tell you, and I’m going to in just a minute, but you have to understand that you’re not going to become a social master in a day. Pulling your ideal chick is the result of a massive body of work. That body of work is essentially a lot of social practice: dating a lot of women, meeting a lot of women, having a lot of friends. So, what’s my secret? I have a massive amount of practice, experience and repetitions under my belt. And I hang out with people that add tons of value … [Read more...]
The 3 Stages of Cool…
The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls. A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group. It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it. Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance. 95% of the time, geeks and nerds are wearing clothes that are too big for them and it instantly gives them away as not … [Read more...]
