A recent study done at the University of Florida looked into the biggest turnoffs in potential romantic partners. The researchers found that deal breakers had a bigger effect on the formation of a romantic or sexual relationship than deal makers. In other words, the most important thing for attraction isn't to be really attractive, it's to not be unattractive. This is why in the Leverage Program we focus on the fundamentals first. Do you know how to dress? Are you in shape? Do you have poor vocal tonality? Fixing this type of problem will get you more gains than working on being … [Read more...]
A Master Networker’s Guide to Building Elite Connections
Guest post by Max, Leverage Program moderator In the Leverage Program, we often advise members to invest in human capital, and here's why: the key to building a social network is to invest in other people. Volunteer your time and say yes to just about everything until you absolutely have no choice but to start being more selective, because you'd be surprised how connected people are. For example, the head of the Boys & Girls Clubs of Boston is one of the Kraft brothers, the owners of the New England Patriots. Volunteering is a great way for anyone to have access to successful people … [Read more...]
Why Going to Brazil Made Me Rethink My Life
Guest post by Cory, Leverage Program member I went to Brazil on the Inner Confidence Leverage trip and it changed my life. First, because this is Inner Confidence, I'll talk about the woman of Brazil and my experiences with them. Simply put, I fell in love three times this trip. I met more cooler girls in two weeks in Brazil than during the last year and a half in the states. There are three girls that I am actually upset that I am leaving, and cannot continue the connection that we were able to create. One actually spent most of the day trying to get me to change my flight and stay. All of … [Read more...]
Little Decisions: What Most People Get Wrong
Being good at making little decisions is more important than being good at making big decisions. Being objective about your decisions is a key contributor to success. In my experience, educated and successful people say the word “objective” three times a day or more. Broke dick hippy fucktard bums say "open minded" 20 times a day. And being objective means recognizing what kinds of decisions you’re making. Some people are good at making big decisions, and some people are good at making little decisions. If you’re good at both, your life is easy. If you’re bad at both, your life is … [Read more...]
Only Losers Need Plans
Through the years of developing the Inner Confidence curriculum, we've compiled a subconscious list of things that winners do and losers do. There are 10,000 subtle behaviors that add up to someone's overall success or failure: word choice, behavior, social ecosystem, etc. We hear the words "winners" and "losers" and don't pay much attention to them because they sound like generic, silly words. I really like them and think they don't get enough credit. Most decisions we make, even things we do that we don't realize are decisions, lead towards a win or a loss. Losers frequently make … [Read more...]
How to Use the Friend Zone to Your Advantage
Guys complain to me all the time that they’ve been confined to the friend zone. They think they should be able to bang every girl they meet, and when they get pushed to the friend zone, they whine about it instead of strategically using it to their advantage. Dudes: STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE FRIEND ZONE. Here’s the thing, cute chicks hang around cute chicks. If some girl won’t sleep with you but she invites you out with her girls and you become friends, use that to your advantage. You roll into some bar with six cute girl friends and you’re golden. Not only does this seriously raise … [Read more...]
Building Your Ecosystem: Who’s Got Your Back?
One of the most important factors in improving your lifestyle, creating a better dating life, and having a masculine lifestyle, is who you choose to surround yourself with. Who you allow to influence your thinking dictates how you experience the world. You absorb the mental models and worldviews of the people in your ecosystems, and those beliefs can make or break you. The result: if there’s something you want to achieve, you need to be around people who are already doing it. If you want to get into the banking game or the hedge fund game, you don’t need to hang out with artists, you … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety
A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
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