There's a lot out there in self-help media for men and popular culture about what it takes to be a man. I have a simple definition for this that I recently heard from an interview with Tucker Max, and I agree 100%. Reach between your legs. What do you feel? If you have a dick, you're a man. It's that simple. If anyone gives you a definition that's more complicated, see if you can identify what their hidden agenda might be. It's most commonly an attempt to do one of two things: 1. Justify their own insecurities Self-acceptance is a rare trait because it takes consistent hard work … [Read more...]
Dealing with discomfort
What I'm about to say is sad, but not very controversial: most people would experience mild discontent with their situation than face the discomfort that’s necessary for improving their lives. People just don't want to tolerate discomfort, even if they have a guarantee it’s temporary. Getting into shape is a prime example. Unhealthy people tend to know that getting into shape requires eating healthy, and physical exercise. The failure to act isn’t caused by a lack of information. It stems from an unwillingness to feel uncomfortable. Eating healthy is uncomfortable. Working out causes … [Read more...]
Oneitis and the 3-Step Cure
Let's talk about oneitis. This should feel familiar to every guy: you fixate on one specific girl, put her on a pedestal, and imagine the mental or logistical hurdles you need to overcome to get her. Often it occurs with a girl who isn't fully sold on you yet, or maybe even has rejected you already. It leads to added pressure and makes it almost impossible to succeed. In his book The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin details the "erotic equation": attraction plus obstacles leads to excitement. Guess what happens when you create this kind of excitement with a woman you aren't in a committed … [Read more...]
Why Night Club Promoters Typically Have Amazing Game…
What happens to a club promoter’s social life when he leaves that world behind for a regular job? Today we’re checking in with Ben, a Leverage moderator and master networker who has likability down to a science. You may remember Ben from the Leverage Podcast, where he discussed how he got started as a promoter and his approach to meeting women. If you haven’t listened to that episode, check it out. Ben has left the club promoting world but still manages to maintain an amazing social life. He’s back to share with you his insights from his transition. When Ben was a full-time club … [Read more...]
An easy way to step up your style
In Ukraine you must be serious. It's a serious country and colors are not serious. Recently I've been using a new method to drastically simplify my wardrobe, and getting more compliments than ever. It's the easiest system I've found so far to make fashion (or more accurately, style) easy. But first, why is the way you dress even important? Why should you even care? A lot of men have the misconception that the clothing they wear only matters to “shallow” women, and the women they want to date aren’t “superficial.” They're mistaken for a variety of reasons. If you don’t know how to … [Read more...]
Which is more important: looks or confidence?
I'm 5'8 and almost obese. I've never received attention from women the past year despite becoming more social. 3 years ago, when I was almost 40 pounds slimmer, I took a summer class and I noticed the prettiest girl in class hitting on me. However I was too aloof to notice that she was interested. Why do people keep saying that attracting women relies on confidence when my experience proves otherwise? When people say that being attractive to women relies on confidence, they’re correct. But being attractive isn’t solely about confidence. A healthy sense of confidence isn’t enough to overcome … [Read more...]
What you should know about starting a business
Having multiple streams of income is an important part of living the Leverage Lifestyle, but too many people looking to start a business ask the wrong questions. They try to come up with some crazy niche market that nobody's serving yet because they believe that's what it's going to take to be successful. Or they try to enter a market they know nothing about, instead of figuring out what they already enjoy that people are willing to pay for. Instead, work backwards. Let's start with what do you already know. Ask yourself the following questions: What are you already good at … [Read more...]
How to up your conversation game in less than an hour
Lately it seems like there are two categories of questions I get asked more than anything else: conversation skills and texting. And you could argue that texting questions fall under conversation skills- texting feels like a different language, but all the principles of conversation skills apply to texting. Guys often tell me that their mind goes blank in the middle of a conversation. How do you stop running out of things to say? We all want to know how to make someone feel truly heard and listened to. What if you could provide someone with that rare experience they’re likely to remember … [Read more...]
How to put yourself in a position of strength
It's too easy to trap yourself into a position of weakness. If you're struggling to go attract and connect with the caliber of women that you really want, there's a good chance that you're talking yourself out of a position of strength. When you're craving attention or affection, you're in a position of weakness. When you're needy, you're in a position of weakness. When you're trying to convince someone that they should like you, you're definitely in a position of weakness. When you're trying to impress someone, well, you know where I'm going with this. So what should I do … [Read more...]
What my dog taught me about meeting women
This is Wiley, my German Shepard/Collie mix: Last week I brought Wiley with me to Las Vegas. We took a walk down The Strip and countless girls stopped me to pet and adore him. I need to get him a t-shirt that says, “I’m Wiley, 8 years old, Shepard/Collie.” I’ve probably answered those damn questions 5,000 times. When it’s a cute girl, I don’t mind as much though. Having a dog is one of the best hacks to meet women. But you already know that... A client in the Leverage Program asked me a question about how to know which "rules" to follow and which to ignore, and I immediately … [Read more...]
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