Guys, let's talk about a simple tweak that has revamped my dating game—asking for a date before asking for a contact. Yeah, it's the opposite of what most guys do, but trust me, it works. Here's why you should consider flipping the script and how it can save you hours of pointless texting.

The Old Way: The 'Maybe' Game

Before I wised up, I'd ask for a girl's number first. What would happen? Endless texting. I'd get trapped in the "maybe" game where she couldn't decide if she really wanted to meet me. Man, it was a time drain, even though I considered myself a pretty good texter.

Why Asking for a Date First Works Better

When you ask for a date first, you make her decide on the spot. If she says no, she loses you. This approach kills the "maybe" game. She knows you're not up for endless back-and-forths.

Handling the "I Need to Check My Schedule" Excuse

Look, if she says she needs to check her schedule, I keep the pressure on. I try to figure it out with her right then and there. Say she mentions she's working, ask what time she gets off and propose a coffee date close to that time.

“You get off at 6, how about coffee close to your work at 6:10?”

How to Spot a Flake

It's easier to spot a flake in person than over text. If she's dodging, making excuses, or saying she'll text you later, she's probably not that into you. And you don't have time for that, right?

My Personal Experience

Since switching my approach, I don't walk away with just a number—I walk away with a date. And guess what? I save 90% of the time I used to waste texting. Is it gonna work for everyone? Maybe not. But it's been a game-changer for me.

A lot of it has to do with personal style. I don't think my approach makes me more or less successful than if i had asked her contact. It just personally saves me time and gives me the answer of wether she is willing to go on a date with me much faster. If you are at a stage where you actually want to interact with women and "put in the reps" to be texting a lot of them, go for it. For me personally i am a stage in my life where i value time a lot, so anything that saves me time is appreciated.

In fact, you might even lose some dates using my method (vs asking her contact), especially in the beggining if you come across as awkward. I'd say you would need to feel quite confident asking a girl out for it to work out well. That being said, if you are approaching several girls, you can try both methods (asking for some girls contacts, and asking for some girls directly out), and see what works best for you over time. Think of it as A/B testing.

Conclusion

So guys, ditch the "maybe" game. Try asking for a date before a number and see if it ramps up your success rate. This isn't advice; it's just what's worked for me. And man, I wish I'd started doing it years ago. It saves me tons of time and boosts my dating results. Give it a shot—you might just find it's a game-changer for you too.

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