I was a bottle service cocktail waitress at a popular nightclub in San Francisco for 6 years. I've been around the block :) There are typically a few types of guys you will run into that buy tables. Once you have a better perspective of what everyone else is doing, it's easier to understand where you fit in and whether or not you're the type of person who would enjoy bottle service or if it makes more sense to meet women somewhere else. If you’re a woman, ignore the next paragraph and simply read the article. If you’re a man and you’re trying to improve your social and dating … [Read more...]
Should I Lie to Get More Women?
Guys often ask about lying to women, and if it's an effective strategy to reaching their attraction goals. If you want to be the guy who lies to get women, you can totally be that guy. No one is going to stop you, and you may see some short-term results. We're definitely not going to be the ones to moralistic on you, because we understand where you're coming from. The thing is, it's not the most effective way to get women. At first glance, lying may seem like a shortcut, or a "hack" in the system. However, hot women have very good BS detectors that have been honed through a … [Read more...]
Why Do I Suck With Women?
Guys who suck with women fall into a few of the same categories over and over. Sorry, but you're not a special snowflake. But this is a good thing: we've figured out the exact reasons why most guys suck, and we know what the fix is. 1. You have social anxiety Whether this means you have approach anxiety or a general uneasiness in all social situations, this is one of the more common reasons why guys don't do well with women. How could you make a woman feel comfortable with you if you don't even feel comfortable with yourself? The fix: More approaches and a mindset shift. When you've … [Read more...]
Pretending Leads to Inevitable Disaster
Sometimes a person may feel trapped by their own shortcomings, and this can result in some very strange and antisocial behavior. What kinds of things should you be on the look out for? You’re Learning Your Weaknesses If you’re interrelating with people, you may have stumbled upon things you don’t know or things you can’t do at all or as well as you’d like. In your quest to be a more fulfilled and a more fulfilling person, you’re probably taking steps to correct these things, to learn what you need or want to know and acquire the skills you seek. But these things take time. Don’t … [Read more...]
When you are offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask which seat
I’ve discussed this before; I want to spend more time on it: Product Market Fit, also known as PMF. In tech, especially in mobile you want to achieve something called PMF. The way you do this is by offering your users a "frictionless experience". The more friction that the user is confronted with the less likely they are to use your product. If flights are 50% off then my desire is through the roof and I will tolerate an error 404 or "Time-out", but unless you are offering something like 50% off you will lose me at that moment and possibly for life if I have to deal with friction en … [Read more...]
Want more second, third, fourth dates? Add some color to your personality.
Guys ask about why they aren't getting second dates; I accuse them of being boring, vanilla losers. Well, here is some food for thought.... Most guys offer nothing unique or shocking in their conversations. It is vital that in a few small paragraphs, one can offer more insights as to how he views the world, his stance, small things about himself, etc... than most guys offer in a year of conversation with me. For example, I can tell a buddy of mine clearly doesn’t care, he doesn’t apologize, he understands human behavior and has tested different approaches. He's well written, … [Read more...]
What makes “naturals” different?
By naturals, I mean guys who – without studying game -- consistently attract hotter and higher quality girls than what their looks and social status would normally predict. Almost every natural I know has one important thing in common: a versatile, adaptable personality. Naturals intuitively adjust to the social situation at hand. They sense the emotional vibe in a room and act accordingly. They understand how to relate to different people in different ways. At work, they are analytical. In sports, they are competitive. They are loud and funny at the bar, more subdued in smaller … [Read more...]
What are the best kind of women to date?
Knowing your target audience is a crucial part of dating. You need to be aware of who you are talking to, and you need to be selling what it is people are willing to buy. It’s important to know what kind of girls you want to date, and how to tailor your conversations to screen for the right kind of women. Consider your audience what kind of content they would be interested. Figure out the personality nuances of who you’re talking to and how they will perceive your dialogue, views, and conversation based on their personality. Personalities come from patterns of behavior over time, so … [Read more...]
Using Osmosis To Meet Women
One of the most overlooked ways to get better at dating is also one of the simplest: hang out with guys who have better dating lives than you. Why will this help me, you might ask. After all, what I want is to have better women in my life, and unless they’re introducing me to girls, my friends aren’t going to make that happen. It’s important to hang out with social beasts their mindsets and behaviors will rub off on you. How does this work? We naturally absorb the attitudes, thoughts, and actions of the people around us. It’s a subconscious process that psychologists call … [Read more...]
