Sometimes a person may feel trapped by their own shortcomings, and this can result in some very strange and antisocial behavior. What kinds of things should you be on the look out for? You’re Learning Your Weaknesses If you’re interrelating with people, you may have stumbled upon things you don’t know or things you can’t do at all or as well as you’d like. In your quest to be a more fulfilled and a more fulfilling person, you’re probably taking steps to correct these things, to learn what you need or want to know and acquire the skills you seek. But these things take time. Don’t … [Read more...]
When you are offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask which seat
I’ve discussed this before; I want to spend more time on it: Product Market Fit, also known as PMF. In tech, especially in mobile you want to achieve something called PMF. The way you do this is by offering your users a "frictionless experience". The more friction that the user is confronted with the less likely they are to use your product. If flights are 50% off then my desire is through the roof and I will tolerate an error 404 or "Time-out", but unless you are offering something like 50% off you will lose me at that moment and possibly for life if I have to deal with friction en … [Read more...]
Want more second, third, fourth dates? Add some color to your personality.
Guys ask about why they aren't getting second dates; I accuse them of being boring, vanilla losers. Well, here is some food for thought.... Most guys offer nothing unique or shocking in their conversations. It is vital that in a few small paragraphs, one can offer more insights as to how he views the world, his stance, small things about himself, etc... than most guys offer in a year of conversation with me. For example, I can tell a buddy of mine clearly doesn’t care, he doesn’t apologize, he understands human behavior and has tested different approaches. He's well written, … [Read more...]
What makes “naturals” different?
By naturals, I mean guys who – without studying game -- consistently attract hotter and higher quality girls than what their looks and social status would normally predict. Almost every natural I know has one important thing in common: a versatile, adaptable personality. Naturals intuitively adjust to the social situation at hand. They sense the emotional vibe in a room and act accordingly. They understand how to relate to different people in different ways. At work, they are analytical. In sports, they are competitive. They are loud and funny at the bar, more subdued in smaller … [Read more...]
What are the best kind of women to date?
Knowing your target audience is a crucial part of dating. You need to be aware of who you are talking to, and you need to be selling what it is people are willing to buy. It’s important to know what kind of girls you want to date, and how to tailor your conversations to screen for the right kind of women. Consider your audience what kind of content they would be interested. Figure out the personality nuances of who you’re talking to and how they will perceive your dialogue, views, and conversation based on their personality. Personalities come from patterns of behavior over time, so … [Read more...]
Using Osmosis To Meet Women
One of the most overlooked ways to get better at dating is also one of the simplest: hang out with guys who have better dating lives than you. Why will this help me, you might ask. After all, what I want is to have better women in my life, and unless they’re introducing me to girls, my friends aren’t going to make that happen. It’s important to hang out with social beasts their mindsets and behaviors will rub off on you. How does this work? We naturally absorb the attitudes, thoughts, and actions of the people around us. It’s a subconscious process that psychologists call … [Read more...]
How Many Hours Should You Spend Socializing To Become Really Really Good With People?
Many people want a better social life. Like a lot of things, they want it immediately. Is there any fast-track, shortcut or magic bullet to having a fulfilling social life? The Effort Involved in a Social Life A social life is a thing of great complexity, risk and advantage. This is an immediate gratification culture, but a healthy and active social life isn’t created overnight. A social life takes a great deal of deliberate planning. Time and money must be invested. Diligence and near manic energy are absolute necessities to see your social life make a profoundly positive turn. Perhaps … [Read more...]
7 Vocal Exercises You Should Do To Become More Confident
Improving your speaking voice is something that 99% of guys don’t do, and as a result it’s a secret way to make yourself more attractive to women. Women are attracted to a guy with a powerful voice, and the qualities they are attracted to are not something you’re born with. They are all things that you develop. Some guys are fortunate to have naturally picked up good habits from their peers, friends, and families. But even professionals like sportscasters have spent hundreds of hours working on their own and with coaches to sound more confident. Since you’re the type of guy who puts … [Read more...]
Young Men Age 18-24, A Note To My Younger Self…
I sat in my office earlier today listening to Pandora when Brad Paisley's "Letter to Me" came on (I'm from Texas give me a break). It's basically a song about the advice the older Brad Paisley would give to his 17 year old self. This made me think of you. A blank canvas.You're very forward-thinking which is impressive for a 17 year old. I applaud you, sir - stay in this group and you're going to be absolutely unstoppable by the time you've finished your education. Having just turned 24, I realize that I have very little time left in the 18-24 young adult age bracket. Which is a good thing … [Read more...]
What are some ways I can develop my personality?
Do off the wall shit more often. Flirt with every service industry worker you encounter. I heard a friend use this ridiculous line when ordering furniture "I'm not sure if you're aware but today is the 2nd I believe, which makes it National Cort Furniture Discount Day... you guys are celebrating right?" He got an extra 5% off a multi-thousand dollar order. I now use the line for every situation imaginable. In the past week I've used to to save $150 on a UHaul rental, got a free burger at In N Out, and VIP Passes at The Spearmint Rhino strip club in Vegas. I don't start off with that … [Read more...]
