The ability to integrate with the cool kids is crucial to being able to attract hot girls.A lot of people think that “cool” is a group, and when we talk about “cool kids,” it’s slightly misleading. “Cool” is not a group.It’s a way of being, and there are three stages to it.

Stage 1 of Cool: The Trimmings

This is the most basic level of cool, it’s the entry level. And when I say “trimmings” I’m talking about your clothes and your physical appearance.

95% of the time, geeks and nerds are wearing clothes that don’t fit and it instantly gives them away as not cool. Unless you’re a celebrity, millionaire businessman, or you have something else really awesome going for you, you have to dress well to attract girls.

There’s no excuse for dressing like an idiot. I guarantee that you will never see a 9 with an out-of-shape, poorly dressed dude unless he’s loaded or has something else going for him. Go to the gym and get some clothes that actually fit to achieve the most basic stage of cool.

Don’t Fool Yourself

I hate it when I hear guys say, “I just want to meet a nice girl who doesn’t buy into all this ‘cool’ stuff.” Don’t conclude that you can’t have something so therefore you don’t like it. This is called cognitive dissonance.

No one wants to hang out with a hater! The hottest chicks spend at least an hour a day working out, so you should, too. If you want to get girls who are fit and smart and have money, you have to dress well and be in shape. Don’t kid yourself.

Stage 2 of Cool: Ease

You can tell if someone’s at stage 2 of cool if you feel comfortable around them. If you feel relaxed, and they put other people at ease, that person is cool.

They have an ability to be a chameleon: they can adapt to any social situation and fit in with any crowd. More importantly, this person doesn’t make you feel awkward. Geeks make you feel awkward because they are uncomfortable with themselves and emotions are contagious. Cool people who are comfortable with themselves put you at ease, too.

When you get to this point, women will feel good around you. They will be much more willing to open up and connect with you. This level of comfort and confidence is what they’re looking for, and they’ll be able to see it in your body language, eye contact, and conversation. At stage 2 you can do really well with women.

Stage 3 of Cool: Not Giving A Fuck

It appears that some people are born with a cool gene. Nope, they learned it through osmosis from their parents, siblings, friends and social circle at a young age.

You always know who they are because they simply don’t give a fuck about things that aren't fuckworthy. In other words, they don't sweat the small stuff. People who are naturally cool are indifferent about most things; they don’t get excited about ordinary stuff.

On the other hand, geeks are constantly getting uber excited about things that aren’t a big deal. The guys who developed this stuff early on are usually called “naturals”: they just know what to do at all times, and they don’t give too much of a shit what you think of them. These guys were typically the tallest, best looking kids in school who also excelled in team sports. The varsity quarterback wins prom king almost every year right?

For a more scientific look at this, here’s the research: How The Latest Research On High Performance Applies to Dating/Success With Women. 

The Lesson:

Not everyone grows up to be a natural but you can take steps to improve your attractiveness. Let us help you identify which stage of cool you’re in, and make changes to up your game.

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