Last night I was discussing my client Cameron’s progress with him. Cameron has dates lined up for the next three nights with girls he met from day gaming. After walking home from the bars, he told me how almost all of his dates come from day gaming: “It’s just so much easier. I get way more love when I approach during the day from hotter girls than I meet at night.”
The reason for this is because the bar scene in LA is really competitive. Dudes here are fucking beasts. This is true everywhere, but even more so in LA. Before I moved away from LA, my game was nowhere as solid as it is now, and I got WAY better results from day gaming. Now I get really solid results at bars. This is because I’ve put in a ton of reps during the day so I’m better than the competition, and I always go out with a squad with awesome wingmen who are beasts.
If your wingman is a schlub, you’re going to get crushed when you approach two girls together. It doesn’t matter if you go in first and they like you; your girl is not going to just sit there while her friend is bored and uncomfortable talking to your zero-ball friend. Hot girls have a “dork forcefield” the same way that successful guys do.
Realize how important this is. The hotter the girls, the less bullshit like this they’ll put up with. If they see you with a guy who appears to be a dork they will turn away from you on the approach.
It doesn’t matter if you’re cool, well-dressed, and in shape. Desirable girls in cities like LA get the gig.
Cameron is going through the same transition that I went through a few years back. He’s using day game to scoop dates with way hotter girls than he could pull at the bars due to the lack of competition. He’s using those dates to build confidence and his harem. In a few months, I would not be surprised at all if the pendulum swings and the bars become more efficient for him.
Don’t waste your time online!
I’ll be the first to tell you that girls from online dating sites and Tinder blow.
Are one or two solid girls? Sure. The problem is that they get 788 messages a minute, so good luck standing out. If you are looking for a hot, cool, professional, mentally healthy companion, you are not going to find that from a dating site or an app. Trust me. If you’re curious, I discuss it more on this podcast episode.
Stop spinning your wheels and set aside time for day game. Treat it the way you treat going to the gym. Gains happen slowly over time when you focus on the process instead of the results.
Even if you’re getting rejected constantly, you improve your mindset by learning from each approach, which is the best way to get super direct feedback on how you’re doing.
To learn the easiest way to make a day game approach, check out this post I wrote here. It’s a lot simpler than what most guys do, and takes out the hardest part of a day approach. I also discuss it on my podcast episode about social media.